your miss your ex, but when your together for a while you get bored and cant take any more of her..but when your apart you miss her more? i've gone out with many people since, dates, sex the whole six...but when i talk to her i want to get back with her, and she wants to get back with me...but there are other issues which we have..all in all, very complex, and a REALLY bad time for me to have these feelings as i'm stressing at work, home situation sucks, i want to leave my job but can't, i'm kinda seeing a few people but it has it's days..and i'm sick..again..for like the 4th time in the last 3 months..

the sickness i can explain, its probably because i party too hard to forget all my problems when i'm well..but i end up getting sick again somepoint down the line.

my friends are really supportive, and we go out all the time and chill and do random things and have a good time..but i still feel empty, even if i'm laying with another girl in bed..accually, thats not true, but i will feel empty when i look back on it..even if i'm still with the same girl..

can there be such a thing as too much emotional simulation?

i feel like a little puppy who's lost in the backyard...i know where the house is, but i can't find a way in, even though there are lots of open doors...

 

shes not the one for you

 

I was gonna say grow nuts or smoke some weed, but after that statement, there are obviously other issues that should be dealt with.

 

nah i don't do drugs when i'm feeling unstable...that's my own check to make sure i don't become dependent on them..

 

Akura,

I kind of feel you! Hang in there! It could possibly be not the ex, but you are just not happy with everything happening around you.

You are actually a grown dog now in the backyard, too big for the house. Need a new house!

 

you miss her because she was there for so long, and you two were comfortable. It'll wear off.

 

Give it some time.

Im dealing with similar issues as well. Just picture being with that person 20 years from now. If you cant then move on...

 

You don't want to be with her. You want to have someone fill that void though. You just need to relax and you'll find her. She's your ex for a reason, remember.

 

Find a new woman

 

cutest part ever, I love puppies. hah come here boy' hah jp

but I think there can be something as too much emotional attachment. Your just allowing yourself to be so wishy washy with her. Your letting it control you, not control it yourself. Here maybe this will help a little, many of you might have read it b4 but when I read your post I was thinking bout this letter...





"Dear Susan :

I know the counsellor said we shouldn't contact each other during our "cooling off" period, but I couldn't wait anymore. The day you left, I swore I'd never talk to you again. But that was just the wounded little boy in me talking. Still, I never wanted to be the first one to make contact.

In my fantasies, it was always you who would come crawling back to me. I guess my pride needed that. But now I see that my pride's cost me a lot of things. I'm tired of pretending I don't miss you. I don't care about looking bad anymore. I don't care who makes the first move as long as one of us does. Maybe it's time we let our hearts speak as loudly as our hurt. And this is what my heart says...

"There's no one like you, Susan." I look for you in the eyes and breasts of every woman I see, but they're not you. They're not even close. Two weeks ago, I met this girl at Ithaca Bar and brought her home with me. I don't say this to hurt you, but just to illustrate the depth of my desperation. She was young, maybe 19, with one of those perfect bodies that only youth and maybe a childhood spent ice skating can give you. I mean, just a perfect body. Jugs you wouldn't believe and an ass like a tortoise shell. Every man's dream, right? But as I sat on the couch being blown by this stunner, I thought, look at the stuff we've made important in our lives. It's all so superficial. What does a perfect body mean?

Does it make her better in bed? Well, in this case, yes. But you see what I'm getting at. Does it make her a better person? Does she have a better heart than my moderately attractive Susan? I doubt it. And I'd never really thought of that before. I Don't know, maybe I'm just growing up a little.

Later, after I'd tossed her about a half a pint of throat yogurt, I found myself thinking, "why do I feel so drained and empty?" It wasn't just her flawless technique or her slutty, shameless hunger, but something else. Some ****ling feeling of loss. Why did it feel so incomplete? And then it hit me.

It didn't feel the same because you weren't there, Susan, to watch. Do you know what I mean? Nothing feels the same without you. Jesus, Susan, I'm just going crazy without you. And everything I do just reminds me of you.

Do you remember Carol, that single mom we met in Upper Side last year? Well, she dropped by last week with a pan of lasagna. She said she figured I wasn't eating right without a woman around. I didn't know what she meant till later, but that's not the real story. Anyway, we had a few glasses of wine and the next thing you know we're banging away in our old bedroom. And this tart's a total monster in the sack. She's giving me everything, you know like a real woman does when she's not hung up about her weight or her career and whether the kids can hear us. And all of a sudden she spots that tilting mirror on your grandmother's old vanity. So she puts it on the floor and we straddle it, right, so we can watch ourselves. And it's totally hot, but it makes me sad too. 'Cause I can't help thinking, "Why didn't Susan ever put the mirror on the floor? We've had this old vanity for what, 14 years, and we never used it as a sex aid."

Saturday, your sister drops by with my copy of the restraining order. I mean, Vicky's just a kid and all, but she's got a pretty good head on her shoulders and she's been a real friend to me during this painful time.

She's given me lots of good counsel about you and about women in general. She’s pulling for us to get back together, Susan, She really is. So we're drinking in a hot bath and talking about happier times. Here's this teenage girl with the same DNA as you and all I can do is think of how much she looked like you when you were 18. And that just about makes me cry. And then it turns out Vicky's really into the whole anal thing and that gets me to thinking about how many times I pressured you about trying it and how that probably fuelled some of the bitterness between us.

But do you see how even then, when I'm thrusting inside your baby sister's cinnamon ring, all I can do is think of you? It's true, Susan. In your heart you know it. Don't you think we could start over? Just wipe out all the grievances and start fresh? I think we can.

If you feel the same please, please, please let me know, otherwise, can you let me know where the remote control is.

John"

 

lol thats some funny shit..thnx strawb3rri3 gave me a giggle..

 

Ex's are ex's for a reason, if you can't be with someone don't think it will fix itself. I've wasted way to much of my life so far figuring this out.

 

i buy myself a Gucci watch, maybe

 

She's getting better at it.

 

They're ex's for a reason, take it from someone who broke up and got back with his psycho ex for almost 5 years, move on bro, not worth it

 

In regards to the thread question:

You first get a new avatar that doesn't freak me out!

and it looks like everyone else had the thread topic covered

 

Sounds like you should find someone new.

 

Fuck a bitch or two?

 

so saturday night i guess i did the right thing? kinda sorta..after drinking way way way way too much alcohol, 6 kettle one redbulls, 2 shots of petron, and 1/3 a bottle of belvy, i stumbled home and wrote her a lil IM which basiclly said i don't want her to contact me again period..well first thing she does is call me the next day..and she's like i know you were drunk did you mean it..and me being still drunk told her i'm not sure..and would it mater either way.. just wanted to post a update

 

Cut the cord already.

 

Pete(aka esCarbonie) taught me this trick, mail her a band-aid with a message attached you've been cut off and NEVER talk to her again... I haven't had a chance to try this, but think its funny and am looking forward to the opportunity to use it.

 

thats pretty fucking funny..may have to use that one

 

you don't get back together....it's not the right time for you and you can't make it work no matter how hard you try.....if it's just wrong timing, it's just wrong timing

 

"Did you not breast feeded as a child?" j/k bro, thats why I have a golden rule never be friends with your EX meaning no phone calls or bills or left over email / pics , friends of friends.

I actually have a friend who lives with ex as a roomate I look at him and go "? wtf?".