Nato

i've been going out with a girl i love with all my heart and plan to get married with.
problem is, she likes to dress slutty.

when we first started dating its hot and all that.. but i've become the jealous type...
noone wants the one you love to look ugly, nor do they want the one they love to dress like a slut where all guys stare at their ass and tits.

she wears low ass tops, tissue paper thin tight yoga pants that wedges straight up her asscrack and even camel toe, short short skirts and shorts. its embarassing for me.. and also ruins my whole date with her when i see her wearing it. but i cant say nothing cuz i know i dont have the right to.

im in a dilemma.. do i just have to deal with this? i cant handle it but i love to her death.

subinf

Tell her to stop dressing like a slut when you go out.

pttl

You have the right, in fact you are compelled, to be honest with her. Tell her how you feel about the situation. If her feelings toward you are the same as yours are toward her, she will probably be touched and be willing to adjust her wardrobe.

good luck.

StuntMonkey

sasha

If it really bothers you a lot, then talk to her about it. Maybe she has been used to dressing up in a certain why and is unaware that it bothers you since you haven't mentioned anything.

Nato

any of you guys in a similar situation?
or have been in it?

Whiskers

If she is hot, consider yourself lucky and post pics....

BstonBruin

i knew somebody was going to say that sooner or later

rondog

iTrader: (1)

well, I was in the same situation, my girl (now married to me) had a killer body and liked to mshow it off. but I would alwasy be geting into fights with guys whistling and calling out. So once I really let one guy have it when he approached her and almost gropped her in a crowded street in times square. After that she calmed down. Back then she was imature and all, and I would venture to say it's a phase.

Maybe you should get a friend to act like a stranger and approach her, then kick his ass and let her get mad scared, that might speed up the end of that behavior.


Ooooor, get he pregnant and marry her ass (if your ready and old enough). That might do it too. lol.

dreem1er

iTrader: (2)

just come out and tell her......tell to just tune it down a bit......its all well and good to dress like that maybe once in awhile but everyday......

the friend coming in is not a bad idea.........the thing it has to be real....coming out of it without a scratch........won't work.....you have to have something so that you can get pissed and say that if she would stop dressing like that this wouldn't happen..........

michimonster

sluttiness is meant for the bedroom. the first impression people have is based on what you look like. never what you have to say. tell her to grow up.

lancer

Worst advice ever.

UNCTYPE-S

You think she has a problem with dressing, you have a problem with this.

Be honest with her, but be fortunate that you have a girl that can pull off some of these outfits. Some of these lards today pushing 150lbs think they can fit into a small top and their shit is hangin down over their pants.

amisconception

I love it when my girl wears small outfits. It's a turn on...

She only wears stuff like that when she's with me, though, and knows that she has to be aware of shit and be a bitch sometimes to other guys. So, that's cool. And not when we go just anywhere... There's a time and place, like a club or whatever.

It's not her outfits that are bothering you it's the b.s. other people are giving you over it. From cat-calls to groping.

Personally, I don't really care about guys staring... Whatever, she wears that stuff for my enjoyment, not for attention, and that's all I really care about... If some guy gropes her, though, then it becomes a problem. It's a matter of preparing for both of us if she's going to wear something revealing.

I honestly wish she would wear hotter stuff more often but because its been cold so I have to wait till it gets warmer or change timezones

doopstr

Since she always wears this stuff, you must have initially liked it. She probably wears it because she figures you like it.

revitupwriteitoff

Tell her. That's always the best way to go. If she flips out and runs off, then she wasn't worth it to begin with. You seem to think she is, so she should act accordingly.

What you need to keep in mind is...do not make it a big, dramatic ordeal. In case you haven't noticed, females tend to (not all, but most) sway towards the dramatics. (Think: soap operas, constant cat fights, & all the primetime tv shows w/manufactured drama) If this is your girl (as it is w/my wife), you need to be calm & have well-thought out arguments. You do not need to argue with her - you just need to express a concern that you have & I would suggest asking her to give your arguments plenty of thought before responding, just like you thought them out before you say them. Shy away from big, dramatic statements. Remember...it's you & her, not you vs. her.

Good luck.

SG81

iTrader: (1)

Best advice ever!

SG81

iTrader: (1)

also, how old is she? i too think it's probably a phase she'll grow out of

Crazy Bimmer

Just keep telling her that she looks fat.

SpeedyV6

Good answer.

revitupwriteitoff

I doubt there would be a "keep"...There would be the inital statment, a head injury, & lonliness. Only Chuck Norris can tell a woman she is fat, to my knowledge.

UNCTYPE-S

ya right. These days, I notice the heavier the girl, the less clothes they wear.

UNCTYPE-S

and btw, am i the only one to notice that he mentions he is now the jealous type? that is a huge thing in this situation imo.

You sure werent jealous when you first met her in those clothes and now that you're with her, you're jealous of the fact that you're out with her and other guys are looking at her. Doesnt make sense. Do you trust her?

crazymjb

Well you must break down the entire situation.

Possible reasons for wearing the clothes
A. To attract a "mate" (hopefully not since you guys sound good)
B. To feel good about herself and show off her body
C. To make you jealous because she likes it

I really doubt that shit is comfortable, so you can rule that out.

So on one hand, you have no right to tell her what she can and can't wear. That said, I would still recommend explaining to her why you think maybe she should tone it down a bit. Be sensitive about it, hell lie, say you are worried someone will mess with her.

Do all of this after you post pics of her, notice I said pics with an s. The pics must be of her in said clothes so we can determine if you are overreacting.

Mike

johnniewalker

im with whiskers and mike....

youngTL

Maybe she's just proud of her body and wants to feel hot. If you're getting into fights with guys over it, then it's YOUR problem, not hers.

Talk to her and tell her it makes you feel bad when other guys make comments at her and stare at her like that.

If she still insists on wearing those clothes, you need to get your jealous head out of your ass and stop fighting over it. Let her handle the situation. She's not a little girl anymore. I'm sure she knows full well what she's inviting. If I were in your position I'd sit back and watch if she does anything that's like cheating. If she does, well, I guess she's not marriage material!

fla-tls

My GF likes to do that every once in a while as well. I don't mind it; in fact I even like it. If she did it all of the time I think it would get old though.

I agree - you should talk to her about it. It is a touchy subject though, so I don't know how you'd go about bringing it up in a way that wouldn't start a fight.

furious1smitul

^^ What he said. I'm sure she's fully aware of what reactions those clothes receive. That's something she should deal with and she shouldn't expect you to be there to stop the comments/gropping etc...

Personally, if she's getting gropped and that causes you get into fights/arguments (instigated, not because of your jealousy) etc... then I think you have good reason to ask her to cover a little more of the skin. Otherwise I think your being jealous is the problem here, not her clothes... Trust issues maybe? Afraid of losing her?

Is she flirting with other guys? And remember, there is harmless conversation/flirting and then there is the "yeah, i'd love to cheat with you" flirting that being a guy I know we have problems trying to differeniate.

Mokos23

I had this problem with an ex-gf, you need to tell her about it and you 2 can work some kind of compromise

MikeCLS6

My girl dresses the same way but classy, if that makes sense. If you trust her you shouldnt even have to worry about it.

Why has it not bothered you until now? has the relationship been going south??

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

I'm guessing that she has no clue that it bothers you because I'm thinking that you never mentioned it to her.

I would say talk to her, and let her know how you feel.

By the way, unless you guys spoke before you met, chances are her looks and body is what got you interested in her in the first place. Maybe she's trying to keep your attention.

How old is she?

crazymjb

I don't give a shit if shes in a bathing suit its not an invitation to touch a girl. If someone touches her knock them the fuck out.

Mike

amisconception

I just wish there weren't so many potential legal consequences

RMATIC09

, whatever happened to good ol' fashioned brawls. Now, you lay your hand on someone, even if THEIR in the wrong (not talking about this situation), and your facing legal fees up your asshole and jail time...what a pity.

studville

Fighting is for GED aspiring fuckups who have nothing to lose in life other than their trailer house and 1978 Firebird.

SpeedyV6

Lister00169

Wow, wonderfully put x 2

Yumcha

You're just inspired by "300" aren't you...feeling the need to Spartan someone up and down the parking lot...?

amisconception

That's probably why I haven't been in a fight since high school.

MikeCLS6

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