ok im not going to go super deep into depth like other people on here. i meet this girl a few months ago and we have been hanging out all the time. we hook up and all that good stuff but here is my prob. ok i like this girl alot and when we started hooking up we both were not looking to get into a relationship. but now i really like this girl and i dont know what to do. im affraid that if i bring up that i wanna be her boyfriend that its gunna push her away from me and she is gunna not wanan see me anymore. she stays at my house at least 4 or 5 nights a week. i just have no idea how to go about telling her what i want becuase she told me a while ago that she wasnt ready for a relationship. but in here lays my problem. becuase its kinda like we are already and i dont want her to hook up with anone else but i cant force her to be with me nor do i want to. like i said befor i dont wanna say something and freak her out. so what do i do?? say fuck it and risk never seeing her again or just let shit be.

 

yikes.
i KNOW it's hard to do, but you have to play it cool. if you like this girl DO NOT rush her - i just made this exact mistake. trust me...
it takes women longer sometimes to fall for someone, but if you chill it'll happen.

 

All I can say is, action speaks louder than words...

 

Tell her. If she doesn't feel the same so be it. At least you will know where the both of you stand. You said it's been a "few months" No sense staying with someone if she's not interested in a relationship & you are. You will be miserable. Plenty of woman out there.

 

I was/am in a similar situation. Just act like you are her bf but don't say/ask anything. Saying something directly will scare her off. It doesnt seem to me that she's gonna be hookin up with anyone else just because you two aren't "together." Making shit "official" seems kinda middle-schoolish anyway.

On a side note, if you feel you have to say something, don't ask, tell her that you are together.

 

why say anything?... just go with the flow!

 

Ask teh love Doctor ( Batin Dean ).
His knowledge is GREAT and unparallel.

 

see i was thinking go with the flow. my only hang up with that i dont wanan be sitting here think shit is kool and all and she is talking to some one else. i just dont wanna get hit out of the blue one day with im kinda seeing some one else now so i dont think we should see each other.

 

Punctuation.

Paragraphs.

Capitilization.

Please.

 

^^^^ i do it just to piss you off... this is not english class and i will not give in.

 

If you have been regularly seeing each other for more than 3 months, I guess it's time for you guys to talk. Just ask her how she views the situation and how she wants the relationship to continue.

 

I want to help you but it's hard to read when the way the words are arranged gives me a migraine.

 

some night when you're cuddling on the couch or whatnot, bring it up. say something like, so what do you think about our relationship? what would you think about being exclusive, or something similar. you might not hear what you want at first, but that may just be her protecting herself, because she doesn't know what you're going to say either.

bring it up, ask her where she would like this to go, if she'd like to be your girlfriend.

if you keep it to the point, and not get all sappy, it shouldn't scare her off.

if she's spending 4-5 nights a week at your house, chances are she's not seeing another guy. and that probably means she likes you too. i wouldn't spend 4-5 nights a week just at a fuck buddy's house.

 

woo hoo a friend with benefits!!

 

what exactly is Capitilization?

 

Capitalization

You capatalize I when you refer to yourself. i <--not captilized

And I seriously hope you were joking.

 

I think he was refering to the spelling error

 

There's nothing to tell her. keep hitting it and live in harmony.

 

good catch.

 

19 and giving relationship advice....

 

I know how you feel Evil. That's a difficult situation. On one hand, she has control over the "relationship" because she's saying she isn't looking to get into a relationship.

What kinda crap is that when she's spending most of the week over your house? She can't "have her cake and eat it, too."

It's unfair to you because she wants everything to be cool when its really not.

the shit is obiviously on another level if she's spending that much time with you.

You gotta regulate something. You gotta sit her down and say, "I know we've been seeing each other for a few months...we've gotten really close and everything has been cool between you and I. I want us to be together if you're feelin how I'm feelin."

Do you know that she is just seeing only you right now?

 

Hey just because you gave marriage counseling to Betty and Barney Rubble doesn't mean that everybody has to be that old to give good advice.

 

Chain her to the bed and don't let her go until she agrees to be your girlfriend.

 

Zing!!!!

 

yea cuase if she isnt at school or work she is with me.

 

It doesn't get more wide open than that, I had to take it

 

Well Done!

 

Whether she likes it or not, she's in a relationship. Its called a relationship w/o labels. If she meets one of your friends, do just say " this is <name here>." or do you say "this is my girl, <name here>."?


I know my g/f just started saying that I'm her b/f more often than when we started out dating.

It probably takes time and alot of walls to broken down for her to admit that she's in a relationship. She's probably comfortable w/ where you guys are and doesn't want to screw it up by jinxing it by saying that you 2 are b/f and g/f. She might be cool w/ the no labels-thing.

"If you fart on each other, you're boyfriend and girlfriend!"

 

what is capatalize?

 

Capitalized

Are you happy now geez.

 

 

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