ok as some of you know me and my gf broke up a month ago

and now she wants to be back together....she called me last week and wanted to see me

i went see her and we did have sex on that night...since then she asked me to go back with her

i told her i can't decide by now coz we still got problems yet to be solved...and only if we can solve out all the problems that we had (which led to break up last month)

i am not sure if i want to still with her, but she offer to have sex with me everytime and i am digging a hole here...sigh..dunno what to do

at the same time, i have been dating a girl for the past month and she likes me too, but she has a bf in vancouver so we didn't really have much things happened, but she admits that she likes me as well

and tmr i will be dating another girl that i met at work, she's a server from my major competitor Spring Rolls, i would say she's not too pretty, but so hot and have a nice body for a Chinese girl

we chatted online and she's thrilled to go out with me too...i asked her out and she said yes without a second thought

I was borned and rasied in Hong Kong, but she was borned and rasied in Canada, the background is different and i seldomly date a girl like that...dunno if she would fit me, but i am sure she's interested at me.

now i don't even know what i am doing...been involved with 3 different girls and i am all screwed...

 

Didn't we already go over the girl with the bf in Vancouver? He's in a different area code, and as far as your concerned, he doesn't exist.

Edit: Sorry, that really doesn't have anything to do with your problem.

 

she's going back to vancouver next week for one month, and then she will decide whether she will stay in toronto or not

she said she will missed me...

i will see how's the date with the CBC girl tmr...i can't wait

 

You broke up for a reason. Forget her and move on with your life.

The girl with teh man in vancouver? Have your fun then move on, she either thinks of you as a friend only, or is a cheating slut.

Who gives a shit about this girl's background? She digs you and she's attractive, you win!

 

she promised me she will improve and not commit the same mistakes again

i dunno how to reject her coz she's all over me, and will hurt her once again like last month

 

Ahhhh, to be 21. Your life sounds like a daytime soap

 

I'm going through the same thing with my ex, he keeps saying he will change, too. Just say NO! Move on, there's lots of better people out there.

 

i got some more in Hong Kong...

well...my frd already told me a few yrs ago "sam, you are gonna be a player in a few yrs..."

i didn't believe what she said coz i was kinda innocent back then, and now i start kinda believe it...

 

yeah jen maybe i should date you then~

 

I would go with the last one. It sounded like you were trying to get rid of your ex for a long time, no need to put yourself back into that situation. Also, just give that Chinese girl a try, if the background thing really bothers you, you can always drop her and move on since apparently there are an abundance of females interested at any given moment.

 

it will be our first date tmr, i will have to see~

but according to our online chat session i think we both will have a lot to talk coz she talks a lot too~

in the past i had a hard time with dating those banana girls coz of communication problesm.....mostly due to different culture and background, but this one seems not to have it.....so far

 

I think its very possible to get around the background differences. My most recent x-bf was born in HK and didn't come to the states until he was older. I mean obviously since we're not together now we couldn't have been that compatible, but there was never really a conflict when it came to our backgrounds, me being the "banana girl"

 

age wise she's the best of all, only 22, while my ex is 30 and the vancouver girl is 25

that's right, i will try tmr, hope i can live with a banana girl~

by using a lot of body languages~

 

Dude, she's 30. Girls in their early 20s grow up, but she's getting a little ripe to make any big changes. Forget about her and move on. Maybe keep her around so you can but that's it. Who cares about hurting her. If one person isn't happy in a relationship eventually neither person will be happy.

 

men (read: boys) have a tragic flaw: they will do anything for sex. this however leads to more problems b/c then they get all tied up and mixed around with girls they don't even like, just for a little poontang.

my advice: DATE A GIRL YOU ACTUALLY LIKE.

you are way too desperate, my friend.

 

LOL
i am actually opposite what you saying here

i only have sex with a girl that i really like, not a date

there were a few times the girls wanted to be with me but i didn't like her so i didn't make things happen, or else i could have just go ahead

i just don't like them and don't wnat to take advantage of them.....even they are willing to have sex with me...just not my style~

 

I kindly beg to differ.

I have a hard time 'keeping interest' if you will, with a woman that I have no intellectual connection with. Been there, tried to date a girl until I WAS intersted and it never happened, we would fool around, sure, but I would never take it anywhere, since it just was not as much fun.

 

ok, so you're an exception

but honestly, do we not see a lot of posts like this on here? "which one do i choose? wahh wahh." if you have to ask someone else who you should choose, you obviously don't like either of them.

 

^True and well, I've only had to choose once. And I chose poorly, I went with the one I liked more (liked em both) and she ended up breaking my heart...

Imma go like Costanza and go opposite of my instincts.

Maybe I can go find that other one again and apologize for being an asshat, and see if she wants to hang out.