So I have been dating this girl now for 1 month, but we had 2 weekends that we could not see each other. It is going slow as she is old fashioned (which is OK with me and a good thing) as I am also old fashioned. She is 47 which is good as I want someone close to my age but has 2 kids (11 & 14). She started late and actually that is also kind of a good thing. The 11 (girl) will not be popping out those babinos until much later when I am old & grey & could care less. I have buddies that ride all day cause their wives are playing grandma. When I say slow, I will be honest and say no sex yet! That bothers me and at the same time doesn't.

Well, I went riding with buddies over Labor day weekend and one of my friend's wife said she had the perfect girl to introduce me to. She wants to set me up on a date and from the little I know, this girl sounds like a good fit too.

I am just venting mainly. I still want to see where the 1st relationship goes and am afraid of meeting this other girl for fear I will like her as well.

First girl is very set financially so I will not be a sugar daddy. 2nd one is a nurse...

Argh.........................













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The sex thing would be enough for me the cut and run.

 

You guys haven't been dating too long. If you believe the sex thing will come sooner rather than later, I wouldn't be too concerned about it.

As for the second girl, if she's a nurse, chances are she's pretty financially set, as well. Don't set your expectations too high, but it's worth checking out. It's not like you've invested so much time and emotion into the first. Did you discuss being exclusive with the first? If no, then test the waters with the second.

 

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Werd. If you've only been dating a month, you should definitely see what the 2nd girl has to offer. She may end up being a better match. You don't want to regret not giving her a chance.

 

When it rains it poors thats the only thing i can say!!!

 

You're not married to the first or exclusive. Go out with both and see who is the better fit. No reason to limit yourself until there is a solid committment/reason to do so.

 

youve got to try it before you buy it....

 

LMAO!!! yeah I know what you mean though. I havent been in a relationship of any sort for two years. And right when I start seeing a girl who definetly has my attention, now it's like everytime I go out I'll meet girls who I could see potential in haha. But I'm a one woman guy, and happy

 

Check it out, especially if you're not trying to play daddy to someone elses kids. Can't hurt to at least meet girl #2 and see if you like her, for all you know you may not. And like others said, if you haven't been together long, it doesn't hurt to at least find out what the other one is about.

 

Make sure you wont have any regrets about missed opportunities. At least you can say "you picked the better of the two" instead of "maybe the other one was a better fit."

 

If you guys aren't married yet, what's it going to hurt?

 

Far from married, he hasn't even boinked her yet

 

I hear you all. I am slightly worried of meeting #2 for fear that I wind up undecided on the 2. #1 lives in a 1/2 mill home so she is very set. I am set myself so it would be a pretty awesome duo financially speaking. I will mull it over and a friend suggested me meeting # 2 during the week for a quick date.

Thanks all for the comments.

I did laugh at " you got to try it before you buy it ". So true dat!

 

Well if you haven't even MET #2 yet then what's the big deal? For all you know she could suck in your eyes even though your friend's wife hyped her up. I'd say meet her and give it a chance, if nothing else you'll be happier with who ever you choose.

Think of it as being an employer in charge of hiring someone...you'd like to interview as many qualified candidates as possible before making a decision

 

in an ideal world, you should have a 3some and stack them on top of one another and dip in and out and see which one feels better

 

 

That...is...awesome.

 

I always looked at these kind of things as: would you only test drive one car? No, that is stupid. You have to get in the drivers seat of a few to make sure you like what you are buying. And that is for something you can jsut trade if you hate it and lose a few thousand dollars. How much is a divorce?

 

so true... it's quite annoying... you can have no girls around for months and then all of a sudden you can't keep up with demand... i swear they have some kind of 6th sense...

 

well, I am gonna bail on #2. #1 and I had a great weekend and since I am gone this weekend to BC, we will not be able to see each other. But the following weekend (end of the month), we are going to go away for the weekend

It will be hard to go out with #2 for 1 date while I have been seeing #1 for 1 month and am very happy with her. So I will bail on #2 and maybe if this one does not work out, still be able to meet her at a later date.

In the meantime, I totally excited on my new relationship. Fun to be older and have the bucks to enjoy stuff in life, for sure.

 

Glad to hear things are going well.

So, does it look likely that your relationship will get more physical on your weekend getaway? You said she's kind of old fashion, but I'm guessing that she's got needs and desires, too. She isn't expecting a ring before welcoming you between her legs, is she?

 

moe.. LOL!

yes, that is what the weekend is about. She was pretty hammered on Fri (my buddy's idea of me getting lucky). We had fun but I did not want our first time together with her buzzed. Seeing as she is old fashioned (as am I), I told her that when we crossed that bridge, I wanted both of us to be on the same page and to find a real nice place for the weekend (neutral place is good). So we spoke again last night and she said she appreciated the thought/given her space & time and named the weekend she wanted us to head out. Needless to say, I am ectactic. It has taken me a long long time to find such a good fit and I was beginning to think it did not exist.

No ring. But I have always said I did not want to get married again as I cannot afford to go through another divorce. Scarey thing is I can see that happening now, but we will still be doing the pre-nup. Funny enough, she has more to cover than I have.

Life is good!

 

 

good luck with that!!

 

thanks guys!

about time. Just luck when you run into someone that fits so well.

 

old fashion can be a great thing I would continue with the first relationship and see how far it will take you.