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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 02:09 PM
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uhh...help?

So I broke up with my girlfriend last night.. and she doesnt really get it. I told her straight up, i dont really feel anything anymore, and that i wanted out and that she deserved someone that cared.. i figured this was the nice thing to do, until she said. "well, its just a minor bump, well get over it."
I then tried to explain her that I didnt want to date her, or anyone right now. I wanted to be single. She goes "just trust me, everything well be ok"

What the fuck? so i go look, i jsut cant handle you, your too controlling for me and i need my freedom (ive tried talking to her about it before i ended shit to and nothing changed) i cant handle constantly having you scouring everything i do and then pointing out my flaws. she goes "well, what do you want to happen to us.." i told her again that i wanted to break up.. and she goes "well, just sleep on it, we'll talk about it tommorrow." so this morning I wake up and still feel the exact same way ive felt for the past week, so i tell her. i still want to break up. she replies "well i dont want to, just bear with me on this, ride things out, play it by ear"

So what the FUCK am i supposed to say to this girl to make her understand that I DO NOT want a relationship with her anymore..
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 02:14 PM
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Don't call, don't accept her calls/emails/txts/etc.

Pretend she doesn't exist. You don't NEED to convince her of anything.

She sounds nuts though.

Act single, be single, etc. If she doesn't get it that's her problem. You gave her notice.
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 02:20 PM
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I say first off, post a pic so the single guys here know who to avoid. Secondly, say to her, "Okay, let's try this for a month. You and I don't talk, see or be near one another. If at the end of this month, I feel differently, I'll contact you. CYA!!"
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 02:20 PM
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Sorry, but That sucks, but it's kinda funny from this side of things.

If she still doesn't get it, just say "I want to and will fuck other people and I don't want to see or speak to you again."
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 02:23 PM
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ignore her, meet new girl, call for threesome
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 02:28 PM
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Dude she sounds like she is lost in her own world. I would drop her how long were you guys dating for.
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 03:09 PM
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Originally Posted by anarchy[sear]
Dude she sounds like she is lost in her own world. I would drop her how long were you guys dating for.

not even that long.. we were together for a couple of months, "officially" dated for about a month.. it was when shit got "official" that she started losing her mind.

its this girl



its like she doesnt believe it either. Im supposed to hang out with a 'friend' from highschool tomorrow, if she doesnt get it by then im just going to tell her straight up, I banged out katie tonight.


Fucing jersey girls.
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 03:12 PM
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Originally Posted by 1StGenCL
ignore her, meet new girl, call for threesome

If I want a threesome I can just call up some sorority girls that i was webchatting with last night. little do they know about screenshots
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 03:25 PM
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Ignore her. She'll either get the point, or you can stop delaying the inevitable and get a restraining order against her.

p.s. She sounds batshit insane.
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 03:31 PM
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Originally Posted by bugeye
Ignore her. She'll either get the point, or you can stop delaying the inevitable and get a restraining order against her.

p.s. She sounds batshit insane.

right? shes off her fucking rocker.

It was cool finding a good looking girl who i shared similar tastes in music with, but unfortunately, that was nowhere near enough. Im thinking the next girl i try to date needs to be knowledgeable about//into cars. I feel like they seem to be the most down to earth/sensible and chill.

That being said, you have a sister?
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 03:32 PM
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Too many holes in the face...
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 03:51 PM
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Yeah that is not long enough for her to be that attached to you unless she has some insecurites. GOOD LUCK :P
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 04:54 PM
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dude you got owned
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 04:55 PM
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its pretty hilarious honestly, but yea just ignore her and have fun.
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 05:00 PM
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You already told her straight that you don't want to be with her anymore so the only thing you can do now is to ignore her (you don't live together, right?). Don't meet up with her. Don't respond to her text, call, e-mail, etc. I think she's in denial or thinks you are just going through a "phase" and that you'll change your mind soon.
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 05:02 PM
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I say first off, post a pic so the single guys here know who to avoid.
I see what you did there.

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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 06:02 PM
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hey if anyone wants to step in and woo her, feel free. just know she comes with some serious baggage. did I mention shes a suicide girl?
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 06:12 PM
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Suicide girls ARE batshit insane.

Just find a nice girl who has her shit together without being full of herself. If you happen to have some common interests, consider it a bonus.
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 06:22 PM
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hold an industrial grade magnet up to her face and see what happens.
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 06:42 PM
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^^

ahahah this is fucking hilarious I'm sorry.

She's refusing to break up with you and trying some weird psychological bullshit.
"Just ride it out..." lmao



And you already made the wrong move by choosing a "jersey girl"

and again:

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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 06:45 PM
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not all jersey girls are insane, thank you very much, but that chick def is =/ , stayyy awayy and act singlee
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 06:52 PM
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 07:52 PM
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Change your facebook status to single. That is the modern way to get your message across.
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 08:34 PM
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^ happened to me once lmao
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 08:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Sarlacc
hold an industrial grade magnet up to her face and see what happens.
I was going in that direction as well
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 09:22 PM
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keep in mind that getting restraining orders aren't fun but get the job done
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 09:58 PM
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Originally Posted by doopstr
Change your facebook status to single. That is the modern way to get your message across.
But that would mean i ended my relationship with invisible war

Originally Posted by tinad2004
not all jersey girls are insane, thank you very much, but that chick def is =/ , stayyy awayy and act singlee
uhhhhhh, the last 6 ive dated have either cheated on me, or been batshit insane. 6 in a row is a sign in my book.
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Old Jun 2, 2009 | 10:48 PM
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hmm sounds like bad luckk to mee lol, try changing states
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Old Jun 3, 2009 | 12:04 AM
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She said play it by ear? wtf? You should fuck dat bitch in the ear...
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Old Jun 3, 2009 | 12:07 AM
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Old Jun 3, 2009 | 12:21 AM
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Hit her, repeatedly.

Fixed for punctuation.
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Old Jun 3, 2009 | 12:27 AM
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hit her, across her face.
Fixed for accuracy.
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Old Jun 3, 2009 | 12:36 AM
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Or you could throw her down a set of stairs. I know someone that has always wanted to do that to his ex.

no but i would push her down a flight of stairs if i could

.....or steel her money.

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Old Jun 3, 2009 | 01:01 AM
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too bad that person cant spell Fred


And Tina, I tried to meet you, but you shot me down!
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Old Jun 3, 2009 | 01:16 AM
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simple - continue to have sex with her and other girls at the same time. let her think what she wants.
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Old Jun 3, 2009 | 01:17 AM
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Originally Posted by Anhedonia
too bad that person cant spell Fred


And Tina, I tried to meet you, but you shot me down!
internet pwnt

Fuck it. There are plenty of girls out there...

I remember every time I was single girls would flock because I didn't give a shit... why, but it always got me somewhere

Honestly, stay single. Play the field like you don't care and have fun. Wtf are you dating for anyways. You're 19.
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Old Jun 3, 2009 | 01:18 AM
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Originally Posted by RMATIC09
simple - continue to have sex with her and other girls at the same time. let her think what she wants.


That works too.
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Old Jun 3, 2009 | 01:37 AM
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Originally Posted by doopstr
Change your facebook status to single. That is the modern way to get your message across.
def. get on facebook/myspace and put single.. It's the MODERN way of breaking up.............OFFICIALLY. In 2009, it's unfortunate that your word against the computer is...
Computer:1
You:0

Originally Posted by GhettoNinja06
She said play it by ear? wtf? You should fuck dat bitch in the ear...
^^She ain't the only one with issues..
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Old Jun 3, 2009 | 02:23 AM
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I guess he feels more passionately for John Smith now. Have you been converted Fred?
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Old Jun 3, 2009 | 08:51 AM
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suggest John Smith as a friend for her. He 'll be caring and loving to her.
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