Told my bf I wanted to have sex with...........
02-17-2005, 10:01 AM
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Told my bf I wanted to have sex with...........
Well about a month ago my bf asked me if we should see other people to see where we were...I was a little bit thrown off by the statement and gave the statement some thought as to what he meant.
Well lastnight I asked him if it meant I could have sex with another guy....He freaked out!!! Turns out he wanted to have sex with someone else and when it came to me doing the same he acted like a needy school girl. aargh!
What's up with that?
Well lastnight I asked him if it meant I could have sex with another guy....He freaked out!!! Turns out he wanted to have sex with someone else and when it came to me doing the same he acted like a needy school girl. aargh!
What's up with that?
02-17-2005, 10:20 AM
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Originally Posted by domn
He wants his cake and wants to eat it too. Why so surprised 
And if he wants his cake and eat it too....why was he acting so needy when i told him I'd do the same.( i really wont) I'll just find a new guy.
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02-17-2005, 10:30 AM
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Originally Posted by WDP05EBONY
Well about a month ago my bf asked me if we should see other people to see where we were...I was a little bit thrown off by the statement and gave the statement some thought as to what he meant.
Well lastnight I asked him if it meant I could have sex with another guy....He freaked out!!! Turns out he wanted to have sex with someone else and when it came to me doing the same he acted like a needy school girl. aargh!
What's up with that?
Well lastnight I asked him if it meant I could have sex with another guy....He freaked out!!! Turns out he wanted to have sex with someone else and when it came to me doing the same he acted like a needy school girl. aargh!
What's up with that?
02-17-2005, 10:33 AM
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Originally Posted by WDP05EBONY
Yeah but have you ever said that to a woman?
And if he wants his cake and eat it too....why was he acting so needy when i told him I'd do the same.( i really wont) I'll just find a new guy.
And if he wants his cake and eat it too....why was he acting so needy when i told him I'd do the same.( i really wont) I'll just find a new guy.
Absolutely not. I'm just not surprised that he would be upset at the mention of you sleeping with someone else.
And yes, you SHOULD find a new guy.
02-17-2005, 11:33 AM
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You shouldn't find a new guy Just because he went berserk when you mentioned "sleeping" around, doesn't mean he's no good for you.
But if you sense that he suggested seeing other people without breaking off BECAUSE he was scared to be alone, then that's a different story.
And girls think better with the ability to forecast the future much better than boys in these situations, so use your intuition. Don't listen to us.
But if you sense that he suggested seeing other people without breaking off BECAUSE he was scared to be alone, then that's a different story.
And girls think better with the ability to forecast the future much better than boys in these situations, so use your intuition. Don't listen to us.
02-17-2005, 01:31 PM
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I'm not good at giving advice on gay relationships, but here goes. You guys like each other a lot. Tell him not to have another fling and you won't either. You two should be happy together and neither of you should be looking at other men. Good luck, fellas.
02-17-2005, 01:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Batin Dean
I'm not good at giving advice on gay relationships, but here goes. You guys like each other a lot. Tell him not to have another fling and you won't either. You two should be happy together and neither of you should be looking at other men. Good luck, fellas.
02-17-2005, 01:37 PM
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Originally Posted by te3point5
wait, I thought it was a guy and a girl... Now im confused.
Thats what I thought, but it really doesn't matter in this case. My advice stands.
02-17-2005, 02:18 PM
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Sounds like this guy is just taking you for granted. Drop him.
02-17-2005, 02:58 PM
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Originally Posted by ABreece
Did he actually say he wanted to have sex with someone else?
02-17-2005, 03:05 PM
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personally, i would never do that...not just say shit like ur bf said, but in general, i would never be interested in any other woman if i had a gf....one track mind...
but with your bf, it would be best just to talk to him and see what his opinion is about your relationship..where does he see the relationship? is he in this for the short term beneft, long term, or what? just talk to him and see his perspective...
once you have talked to him and get a better idea of his perspective, then it will be very clear as to what you want to do...stay with him or leave him...
but with your bf, it would be best just to talk to him and see what his opinion is about your relationship..where does he see the relationship? is he in this for the short term beneft, long term, or what? just talk to him and see his perspective...
once you have talked to him and get a better idea of his perspective, then it will be very clear as to what you want to do...stay with him or leave him...
02-17-2005, 03:09 PM
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personally, i would never do that...not just say shit like ur bf said, but in general, i would never be interested in any other woman if i had a gf....one track mind...
02-17-2005, 03:11 PM
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Originally Posted by BEETROOT
are you serious? do you not have a penis? I don't care how much I like my current girlfriend, it doesn't stop me from wanting to nail practically every other girl I see.
Its human nature.
02-17-2005, 03:14 PM
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Drop him girl, IMO its just a bad sign all around if hes telling you he wants to see/screw other people. Maybe its normal for a guy to look at other females, but that should be the end of it. I don't know how deeply you feel about this guy, but don't set yourself up to be hurt. Good luck!
02-17-2005, 03:22 PM
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Make a video of you with another guy, then post it on the web. That will show him 
Don't be surprised when guys act like this. All guys would like to have their serious girlfriend/wife, with a little honey on the side. He did fuck up though, because he basically told you that he wanted to mess around without you doing the same to him. Let him know that he had a good suggestion and let him go. He may turn into the freaky jealous type if you stick around with him.
Don't be surprised when guys act like this. All guys would like to have their serious girlfriend/wife, with a little honey on the side. He did fuck up though, because he basically told you that he wanted to mess around without you doing the same to him. Let him know that he had a good suggestion and let him go. He may turn into the freaky jealous type if you stick around with him.
02-17-2005, 03:22 PM
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Originally Posted by domn
Its human nature.
02-17-2005, 03:24 PM
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Originally Posted by domn
Its human nature.
Originally Posted by BEETROOT
:are you serious? do you not have a penis? I don't care how much I like my current girlfriend, it doesn't stop me from wanting to nail practically every other girl I see.
see for me, if i see a beautiful/hot/pretty girl, i'm not going to be like "wow, i want to fuck that girl"...i see her and that's it...nothing else...
i have no desire to want other women when i have one already...i'm very happy with the girl that i got and love her like crazy...why would i want to do something to jeopardize that? and my girl is really hotttt so other girls don't even compare to her...i very rarely come across a girl who looks better than my girl...
and i am not saying that i don't "look" at other women...ya that is human nature that if you see someone walking your eyes may wander around...and i understand that...that's human nature...we can't ignore what's in front of us...but i just don't feel that "wow, i gotta hit that with this girl"...
but that's just me...lol...
02-17-2005, 03:32 PM
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Originally Posted by joeshmoe
Make a video of you with another guy, then post it on the web. That will show him
Don't be surprised when guys act like this. All guys would like to have their serious girlfriend/wife, with a little honey on the side. He did fuck up though, because he basically told you that he wanted to mess around without you doing the same to him. Let him know that he had a good suggestion and let him go. He may turn into the freaky jealous type if you stick around with him.
Don't be surprised when guys act like this. All guys would like to have their serious girlfriend/wife, with a little honey on the side. He did fuck up though, because he basically told you that he wanted to mess around without you doing the same to him. Let him know that he had a good suggestion and let him go. He may turn into the freaky jealous type if you stick around with him.
Not me...I'll just take the serious girlfriend...I have a hard enough time finding women that work with my personality and understand my shyness to not want to fuck it up when I find one.
02-17-2005, 03:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Gilgamesh
Not me...I'll just take the serious girlfriend...I have a hard enough time finding women that work with my personality and understand my shyness to not want to fuck it up when I find one.
02-17-2005, 03:44 PM
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Oh yeah it's so over...I can't believe he had the balls to say that to me. He fucked up significantly.
I have to admit I've been a little untruthful to him. We have been seeing eachother for about 2 months. I knew he didn't make alot of money and some men are a little insecure if the woman makes significantly more money than the man. I have been telling him I'm a secretary for a law firm, I'm not, I'm a partner. I don't like to be untruthful but I just know he'd be insecure. Okay flame away!
I have to admit I've been a little untruthful to him. We have been seeing eachother for about 2 months. I knew he didn't make alot of money and some men are a little insecure if the woman makes significantly more money than the man. I have been telling him I'm a secretary for a law firm, I'm not, I'm a partner. I don't like to be untruthful but I just know he'd be insecure. Okay flame away!
02-17-2005, 03:45 PM
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See you got it all wrong I see hot women all the time and I think "man I'd like to fuck the shit out of her" BUT I would not act on it. Its just physical impulse...and being a man.