wrecked tl

basically what the title says i have a girlfriend and its been almost about a year. I cant stop looking and thinking about other girls. I used to be the party guy who had a different girl every weekend and what not and that changed when she got in the picture. i mean everything is fine with us and cant imagine hey not in my life. But its repetition same girl over and over just gets casual. what should i do?

bluedc2

Dude, I know what you mean. Going thru the same shit with my gf and we've been together for 3 years.

97BlackAckCL

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The grass isn't always greener...

justnspace

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yes it is.

TeknoKing

you're 17... the scary word for today is commitment, rofl, you're too young for it.

go party and have fun! /thread

ThermonMermon

youre 17! haha. keep at it, hoss!

1StGenCL

I can barely commit at my old age, break it off!

wrecked tl

i know i understand that im young and i probably wouldn't be with her for the rest of my life but a year is a long time and being with her that long she starts to become your bestfriend and you dont want to lose it, but want the freedom also.. tricky tricky easier said then done :p

cM3go

Unless your girl is easy going as ever... you will not be friends post breakup... MAYBE for a while... the second you start dating someone else though, she will hate your guts and wish death upon you.

Good luck!

wrecked tl

lose lose situation yay

97BlackAckCL

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a year is a long time in hs, but not that long in the grand scheme of things. You have to weigh if her being your best friend is real and true, because if you want out, you will be giving up on that all together

FCVadi

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question you must ask your self is do you want to be free before or after summer... or how much do you want to work to get girls during the summer or jus save that work for the fall... either way since you thinking about it then it will happen.. you just got to figure out when you want to do it, best value for the craziness you going to get from the girl once you break it off

Jcaron9gt4

If you ain't cheatin, you ain't tryin.

JK...but just break it off, those feelings won't go away, especially if they're already happening after only a year.

FCVadi

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actually if you do it right get her to break up with you, that way you can do "late night" calls.. also she wont be as crazy.. and you can go back to her later once you sampled more of what the "greener" pastures look like

Mr. Maker

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Oh to be 17 again..

fuzzy02CLS

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So why be committed? Kill it now before you invest more useless time.

doopstr

But sometimes the landscaping is better.

97BlackAckCL

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1Louder

So the logical question is what do you want? However the answer is "you don't know", because you're 17. No disrespect intended - that's how it is at that age.

I think you should think about whether you are with her out of loyalty or because of something more. Or maybe your reluctant to break it off because you know there would be a lot of drama, and staying together is easier than the drama.

I'd recommend taking 2-3 days when you know you won't see her and pretend you've broken up. Walk around for a few days as if you were single and see how you feel. Don't go partying, but just wear the decision for a few days and see how it makes you feel. I do that a lot with big decisions and it really helps. You may find that you're comfortable with the idea. Or maybe not as much as you thought.

My son is 17, so if he asked me that question I'd tell him to do the above, and also this: if you care for the girl then respect her enough to either stay with her and keep control of your actions, or respect her enough to break it off so you both can move on. Doing what's in her best interest will usually come back around to being in your best interest too.

Also, I dated around 15 girls between 15 and 20 before I met my wife. I remained friends with all the ones I had good break ups with. So if you like her as a friend, that doesn't have to end with the relationship if you handle things carefully and respectfully.

Hapa DC5

@ 17 Go get some trim. /thread

YeuEmMaiMai

wait what? How about grow a pair, lol you mean you lack enough self control to stay comitted to your girl?

Nice...

Mr. Maker

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I bet after you left the party she got naked in the hot tub.

97BlackAckCL

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1louder always knocks it out of the park with his advice

1Louder

Thank you!

Majofo

BeezleTL85

^ lol

Bro-ham, it's simple, it's summer time. All the hotties come out of the wood work at this time of year. So maybe the scenery is what could be luring you away. be strong or move on. Like most have said, you're 17 and have a world to see and a grip of girls to plow through.

sasha

Is she your first gf?

The reason I ask is that, if this is your first serious relationship, I can understand why it's hard for you to make a decision. You don't want to let go of her because she's dear to you and you are afraid she won't be part of your life anymore if you break up. But at the same time, you feel tied down. Correct?

I've been in a similar situation with my first bf. When I was 19, after 3 years being with him, I realized that we were too young to commit. So as much as I loved him, I had to end the relationship and allow ourselves to have fun being single. It was difficult to lose the closeness and emotional security at first. But we actually remained friends even after we both moved on and became involved with other people. Eventually, our lives took different directions. I moved here in the US for grad school, met my husband, and can't be happier. Now when I look back, I remember him fondly and genuinely wish him well with his life. I don't regret the decision I made.

So in your case, you have to really think about what you want with your gf. If you love her, yet can't see yourself being married to her, have the courage to do what you feel is right - whether it's breaking up with her completely or work on the relationship to get to know each other better, I don't know. Just remember that whatever decision you will make, it should reflect your respect for her.

d-townhakuzo

OP I'm only a year older than you, trust me, the feelings get worst. Hasn't ever happened to me but I have friends similar to you and I've seen them handle it the right way and handle it the wrong way.

97BlackAckCL

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Ironically I'm now single

phee

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you should be acting like a 17 year old. meeting girls and having a good time, you will never get those years back so falling in love while in school is not for everyone.

d-townhakuzo

^that too, nows the time to have fun

Arosemore07

hahahaha. if you're 17... im guessing shes either 17 or younger... and if thats the case she definitely is going to kill you in her head 100 times. You both have a lot of maturing to do.. you're not even in college yet. And if you cant stay focused on her now you're sure as hell not going to focus on her when you're in college.

If you're really contemplating being with her, you already have your answer. If you have to second guess your relationship, then that relationship isn't going to last. Temptation is everywhere kid. Single, In a relationship, engaged, married. It never sleeps. It'll always be there to test you. But you're 17! god if i was 17 i'd do a lot of things differently. Just enjoy your life you're way too young to be stressing about your..what was it... 1 year relationship?

mike142

At 17 you should be thinking about lots of things. Most importantly what will you be doing after high school? College, trade school, etc.. Whatever it is, you have important decisions coming up. Don't get tied down now.

MissAlyyTL

You are 17 and you need to live life. If she really is truly ur best friend, she will understand. If she doesn't understand or is mad about it then you are seeing her true colors. If its ment to be it will be again.

Don't stay with her and not experience freedom. Even if you convince urself that now, a few yrs down the line you will resent each other big time.