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Old 01-26-2006, 10:50 PM
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So my gf is stubborn...

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So we've been together for almost 4 years (i know...i know). We've been through a bunch of tough times and eventually gotten through all of them. One thing I cannot deal with is how she handles arguments. She sucks. Quick story:

I graduate tomorrow and have all types of family here with me throughout the country. I feel as if it is an important day for me, so I let her know in advance that whatever happens, I want her there. So whatever she needed to do, she needs to do it in advance.


...unfortunately, she has no sense of getting things completed. Her class (which is on the same campus im having my graduation at) is forming a group and briefly discussing their project. I've taken that class last year and it takes all but 5 mins. I've tried to CALMLY explain it to her, but she gets into a frantic rage.


Bottom line: when it comes to arguing, she argues her point, then doesn't want to listen to a word I say. I'm a very passive person, but its getting to the point where it bothers the holy fuck out of me. I dont ask much of her, so i figured thsi wouldn't be such a problem. Instead of talking and figuring a way out, she curses up a storm and hangs up.





Cliffs: Gf ditching graduation. She gets defensive instead of trying to figure it out. I plan to drop kick her.
Old 01-26-2006, 10:55 PM
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just choke a bitch...


lol

i think all girls can't take criticism very well, even just trying to convey a point. they take it as an insult or something
Old 01-26-2006, 10:58 PM
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I'd be very upset if my GF/BF of 4 years wasn't able to make it to such an important day. I'd definitely want them to be a part of it.
Old 01-26-2006, 11:07 PM
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demolition...lol...silly ass!

accurate,

i got a little confused, so she didnt make it to your graduation?

Regardless, (lol this cracks me up that I wanted to reply to ur posting)

On a serious note, I do not think that is healthy for you and even her.

At the end of the day both of you guys are upset.

What you should do IMO is to sit her down one day, but do not make it a big issue. Be calm, collective and act like nothing is wrong. Say, "Hey lets go out for lunch, dinner, etc" like nothing is wrong.

Confront the situation by not attacking her, gently ask questions and state your opinion. Make sure she doesnt feel attacked. If she doesnt understand your approach and gets a fit. THEN CHOKE THE ........ LIKE DEMO STATED BEFORE.
Old 01-26-2006, 11:09 PM
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Welcome to the wonderful world of women. I have more of a chance winning an arguement with a wall, then my wife.
Old 01-26-2006, 11:10 PM
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same shit with everyone man... me and my g/f my roommate and his g/f.. girls just dont' like to hear that they are wrong.. similar story to yours but not as important but my g/f was working over the summer and my 21st bday was over the summer as well... well she knew atleast a month and half in advance about it yet she didn't take off work because it was there "busy" night when they had like 8 other hostesses... anyways i still give her shit for it yet she just gets very upset even tho i know she could have made it... but anyways..

GIRLS CAN'T TAKE THE FACT THAT THEY ARE WRONG
Old 01-26-2006, 11:17 PM
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Originally Posted by JIosIh Ik
demolition...lol...silly ass!

accurate,

i got a little confused, so she didnt make it to your graduation?

Regardless, (lol this cracks me up that I wanted to reply to ur posting)

On a serious note, I do not think that is healthy for you and even her.

At the end of the day both of you guys are upset.

What you should do IMO is to sit her down one day, but do not make it a big issue. Be calm, collective and act like nothing is wrong. Say, "Hey lets go out for lunch, dinner, etc" like nothing is wrong.

Confront the situation by not attacking her, gently ask questions and state your opinion. Make sure she doesnt feel attacked. If she doesnt understand your approach and gets a fit. THEN CHOKE THE ........ LIKE DEMO STATED BEFORE.


I am a calm person. I've tried to talk to her calmly and tried to talk to her about her inability to realize her dumbass mistakes. It's damn near impossible and she always tries to turn it around on me.

4 years is coming to an end. I can't live like this for the rest of my life.
Old 01-26-2006, 11:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Accurate
I am a calm person. I've tried to talk to her calmly and tried to talk to her about her inability to realize her dumbass mistakes. It's damn near impossible and she always tries to turn it around on me.

4 years is coming to an end. I can't live like this for the rest of my life.

There you go! you have just answered yourself. If you feel you can't live with her for the rest of your life. She is not for you.

I mean you did say that you guys went through 4 years of hardship and overcame all. Either just live with the fact she is like that and suck it up or end it.

Maybe then she will realize what she has just lost.
Old 01-27-2006, 02:03 AM
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Originally Posted by JIosIh Ik
There you go! you have just answered yourself. If you feel you can't live with her for the rest of your life. She is not for you.

I mean you did say that you guys went through 4 years of hardship and overcame all. Either just live with the fact she is like that and suck it up or end it.

Maybe then she will realize what she has just lost.
i think you got it right on point.
Old 01-27-2006, 02:43 AM
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1. GIRLS SUCK
2. GoodLuck your girl is hard headed like my ex is..
3. Maybe you should tell her how you feel about this situation and how maybe she should act like an adult instead of an insane raging BIATCH (no offense).

4. If all else fails just choke her.. haha jk
Old 01-27-2006, 07:20 AM
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you had it right the first time. drop-kick her.

the bitch won't miss a group meeting for your graduation? that's completely ridiculous
Old 01-27-2006, 07:25 AM
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Dump her.
Old 01-27-2006, 07:38 AM
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Ditch the bitch. Respect goes both way.
Old 01-27-2006, 07:42 AM
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she blew off your graduation for a group project? Kick that bitch to the curb and toss a bag of flaming shit at her face. That fucking n00b-ass bitch.

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Old 01-27-2006, 08:11 AM
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I don't see a reason to make a huge deal out of it. Let her go to her meeting, and then she will come to your graduation. Either way she will be there at some point.
Old 01-27-2006, 08:19 AM
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Sounds like you two are good friends who have fucked for 4 years.

There is a difference between loving someone and loving being with someone. If she really cared about you she would suck it up and let you have your graduation day.
Old 01-27-2006, 08:36 AM
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Originally Posted by Accurate
I am a calm person. I've tried to talk to her calmly and tried to talk to her about her inability to realize her dumbass mistakes. It's damn near impossible and she always tries to turn it around on me.

4 years is coming to an end. I can't live like this for the rest of my life.

If she has been this way for 4 years, then that's what you will get for the rest of your life if you marry her. Better to cut her loose right now, than suffer the consequences for the rest of your life. Graduation is a big ass lifetime event, she should have not even made it an argument to be there for you.
Old 01-27-2006, 08:52 AM
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You guys have graduation while classes are in session???

I think she's being childish and I serisouly considering moving on. It's only going to get worse when you have a "real" job and she's still in college.
Old 01-27-2006, 09:39 AM
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Why are people with people like this. Blows my mind...
Old 01-27-2006, 07:59 PM
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I don't think you should er uhhh as quoted 'ditch the bitch' haha that sounded funny.

I think maybe you need to BLOW UP on her ONCE & let her cry her mother effen eyes out b/c you did that to, I guess so to speak 'put her in her place'. I think she just takes advantage of the fact that your so chill n when ever she gets crazy, she gets her way.

Lemmie ask you sumthin' are you the one who ends up saying sorry at the end of the day when it's all said & done, reguardless if it's your fault or not??

If so, stop being a damn push over n check her.

if not, still you should snap at her so she knows you have it in you
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Originally Posted by Accurate
I am a calm person. I've tried to talk to her calmly and tried to talk to her about her inability to realize her dumbass mistakes. It's damn near impossible and she always tries to turn it around on me.

4 years is coming to an end. I can't live like this for the rest of my life.
Good, you've made the decision already. Now, all that's left is execution.

Your next project is to change your creepy AV.
Old 01-28-2006, 08:09 PM
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Originally Posted by M TYPE X
Good, you've made the decision already. Now, all that's left is execution.

Your next project is to change your creepy AV.





to clear a few things up, classes are still being held during graduation. I wanted her to be there not only to see me walk, but also to be part of the family as well (since i had a whole pack of them there.)

It turned out everything went smoothly. She surprised me the next day by attending and spent the day together.

Honestly, I think she's nearing her time of the month, and it could've played into that. Nevertheless, she is still stubborn...
Old 01-28-2006, 08:56 PM
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Don't blame your gf, it's not her fault. She's just a woman, something like planning is beyond her. She's just dumb, all girls have their moments. Make sure she takes care of you later on.
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Originally Posted by Titand19
Don't blame your gf, it's not her fault. She's just a woman, something like planning is beyond her. She's just dumb, all girls have their moments. Make sure she takes care of you later on.


I didn't know organizational skills are gender-biased...

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Originally Posted by hornyleprechaun

GIRLS CAN'T TAKE THE FACT THAT THEY ARE WRONG
But WOMEN can, my suggestion is look for more mature women.
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Originally Posted by 1killercls
But WOMEN can, my suggestion is look for more mature women.




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