So...is this chick confused or am I?
11-23-2008, 11:06 AM
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So...is this chick confused or am I?
For some reason I keep meeting the crazy chicks. Maybe it's me trying to be rational or something, I dunno..
Anyway, I went out with this one chick a few weeks ago. The date went well, we had dinner then coffee and just BS'd. It was actually kind of fun.
I think I txted her the next day saying something like "have a safe flight!" (she was going on a business trip) and she replied with "thanks" or something, and we spoke on the phone the next day. Supposedly on the business trip she was in meetings all day long and was bored, so she kept txting me. OK, I thought that was a good sign...
A few days later she tells me she thinks I'm a great guy but just got out of a long term relationship and isn't ready to date just yet. I wasn't sure if that was a polite way for her to say she wasn't interested, but I was a little confused because she kept initiating the conversations (50+ txts a day, emails, calls, etc). She wanted to stay friends though. Oh well.
I figured I'd give it another shot and asked her to help me shop for clothes, it was my not-so-slick way of meeting up with her again - we met up the following week. We shopped, went out for dinner, coffee, and then I pulled up to her place. Note I haven't kissed her up to this point, and didn't know if we were "friends" or what. She sat in my car for 15 minutes, bs'ing, kind of long for the convo we were having but whatever. Did not kiss her and she left, and called me as I was driving home.
She's been calling me multiple times a day. Like, on her way to work. At work she emails me, she calls me on her way home and before sleeping. Yesterday she called me right after she woke up (all groggy and everything). So we talk a lot.
She was in bed last night and called me, I think we were bsing for like an hour. Keep in mind I've been flirting with her most times we spoke, *hoping* to make a breakthrough. Yesterday she asked me about my past relationships, I briefly spoke about it and ended it with something like "I guess I haven't been lucky" or some crap like that. I forgot what we spoke about next, but she went back to this and said "well I know it didn't work out between us but you'll find the one one day." Considering we spoke so much I thought she was having a change of heart..after all, why else would she talk to me so much? So I said something like "well, it seems to be working out well with us"...a bit more eloquently though...I think. Brief pause...then she says "you know why I'm not dating right now...<pause>...ok I should go to sleep now." I just ended that with an "ok, goodnight" and that was that.
I'm fairly certain at this point I'm being used as an emotional pillow...and that I've wasted the last two weeks on her. Oh, and when she called me yesterday morning she told me she had a dream about snakes..and then asked me if I knew what that meant. I said I had no clue, and after asking her a few times she finally told me what it meant - that she's horny.
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Anyway, I went out with this one chick a few weeks ago. The date went well, we had dinner then coffee and just BS'd. It was actually kind of fun.
I think I txted her the next day saying something like "have a safe flight!" (she was going on a business trip) and she replied with "thanks" or something, and we spoke on the phone the next day. Supposedly on the business trip she was in meetings all day long and was bored, so she kept txting me. OK, I thought that was a good sign...
A few days later she tells me she thinks I'm a great guy but just got out of a long term relationship and isn't ready to date just yet. I wasn't sure if that was a polite way for her to say she wasn't interested, but I was a little confused because she kept initiating the conversations (50+ txts a day, emails, calls, etc). She wanted to stay friends though. Oh well.
I figured I'd give it another shot and asked her to help me shop for clothes, it was my not-so-slick way of meeting up with her again - we met up the following week. We shopped, went out for dinner, coffee, and then I pulled up to her place. Note I haven't kissed her up to this point, and didn't know if we were "friends" or what. She sat in my car for 15 minutes, bs'ing, kind of long for the convo we were having but whatever. Did not kiss her and she left, and called me as I was driving home.
She's been calling me multiple times a day. Like, on her way to work. At work she emails me, she calls me on her way home and before sleeping. Yesterday she called me right after she woke up (all groggy and everything). So we talk a lot.
She was in bed last night and called me, I think we were bsing for like an hour. Keep in mind I've been flirting with her most times we spoke, *hoping* to make a breakthrough. Yesterday she asked me about my past relationships, I briefly spoke about it and ended it with something like "I guess I haven't been lucky" or some crap like that. I forgot what we spoke about next, but she went back to this and said "well I know it didn't work out between us but you'll find the one one day." Considering we spoke so much I thought she was having a change of heart..after all, why else would she talk to me so much? So I said something like "well, it seems to be working out well with us"...a bit more eloquently though...I think. Brief pause...then she says "you know why I'm not dating right now...<pause>...ok I should go to sleep now." I just ended that with an "ok, goodnight" and that was that.
I'm fairly certain at this point I'm being used as an emotional pillow...and that I've wasted the last two weeks on her. Oh, and when she called me yesterday morning she told me she had a dream about snakes..and then asked me if I knew what that meant. I said I had no clue, and after asking her a few times she finally told me what it meant - that she's horny.
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11-23-2008, 11:26 AM
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Welcome to the Crazy Chick Friend Zone. There is no escape except without her.
11-23-2008, 11:45 AM
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Keep hanging out if you enjoy each other's company, but its not gonna go any further then that.
11-23-2008, 12:02 PM
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Yeah, I get that now...guess I'm slow. What threw me off was the constant txts/calls from someone I wasn't dating, I guess for me that implied something. Oh well.
Considering I don't have much if anything to gain I'm going to have to cut down on the frequency at which we talk - if our parting words last night didn't already take care of that.
Considering I don't have much if anything to gain I'm going to have to cut down on the frequency at which we talk - if our parting words last night didn't already take care of that.
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11-23-2008, 12:22 PM
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idk, sometimes they say one thing, but are waiting for you to prove that you are more impressive than expected by spitting some clever game. I mean, up until now, you guys haven't gotten it on in any way physically. So you kinda have more work to be undone than if you met her for the first time, ya know. Next tiem you chill with her, initiate some casual hand touching or shoulder touching, and see how she reacts. Also, make some eye contact and don't say anything, when she asks you what are you doing (hopefully with a smile), tell her that you just noticed how pretty she looked. and then lean in for the kiss. Lastly, don't be so accessible, liek when she texts you, 1 out of 3 times, don't reply right away or don't reply at all. This is only if you wan to get to first base or any base for that matter. Don't feel obligated to be with a chick that just wants you for her own emotional support, because its a two way street and your going one way by not getting play.
11-23-2008, 05:29 PM
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I think Ronjon has some good points especially about the texting. Girls love to have guys they can text and call and share all their problems with and the more you answer the deeper in the friends zone you are.
I have a similar situation right now but i finally just stopped answering and just ignored her. Now she is going out of her way for me and keeps asking if I wanna see her. I say sure and she rushes over
I have a similar situation right now but i finally just stopped answering and just ignored her. Now she is going out of her way for me and keeps asking if I wanna see her. I say sure and she rushes over
11-23-2008, 11:51 PM
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Sounds like she just wants you to be a little more aggressive. Go get some ass and call it a day.
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11-24-2008, 03:31 PM
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Bang her.
11-24-2008, 09:12 PM
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Haha..so she called yesterday. She apologized for hanging up so abruptly and I said no, my fault for saying what I said (what else what I supposed to say?). Not really caring at this point I told her I was confused by her actions, one major one being that we talk SO MUCH. I don't remember if I said anything else but that was the major one.
So here's the thing..I don't think she's looking for a lay because when we met the second time she told me she was doing some religious (or spiritual?) thing where she can't drink, have premarital sex (I assume anymore), and maybe some other stuff.
I do however agree I was chosen and placed in the "friend zone" for whatever reason. Well, I think I lost my seat in her "friend zone" because we stopped talking it seems.
So here's the thing..I don't think she's looking for a lay because when we met the second time she told me she was doing some religious (or spiritual?) thing where she can't drink, have premarital sex (I assume anymore), and maybe some other stuff.
I do however agree I was chosen and placed in the "friend zone" for whatever reason. Well, I think I lost my seat in her "friend zone" because we stopped talking it seems.
11-24-2008, 09:13 PM
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Stop making yourself so "accessible," make her chase you a bit and then step up and make a move. She might not want a "relationship" but her hormones are making her want some D and that usually wins out. So make it happen!
11-24-2008, 09:16 PM
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Girls always say that kind of garbage, but they give into temptation pretty quickly usually. It's easier to drop a crack habit!!
11-25-2008, 05:55 AM
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All this happened in 2 weeks? 50txts a day? phone calls and emails? your defineatly in the friends zone.
Your making yourself to available to her, and your probally starting to look needy as well, which isnt a good thing.
Your making yourself to available to her, and your probally starting to look needy as well, which isnt a good thing.
11-25-2008, 06:14 AM
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Sounds like a lot more work that it's worth. Move on.
First of all, she is on the rebound.
Second, she seems to want a relationship, but doesn't. By that I mean it seems like she wants you to convince her. Don't waste the time. She will probably play with you for a couple weeks and say she's not ready. Then you're in too deep.
Third, there are more available women out there. Find one with LESS issues.
Forth, the religious thing has to be respected. But to me it's a cop out.
First of all, she is on the rebound.
Second, she seems to want a relationship, but doesn't. By that I mean it seems like she wants you to convince her. Don't waste the time. She will probably play with you for a couple weeks and say she's not ready. Then you're in too deep.
Third, there are more available women out there. Find one with LESS issues.
Forth, the religious thing has to be respected. But to me it's a cop out.
11-25-2008, 12:46 PM
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Man you guys are good. Yeah, she told me she's only been in one 'long term' relationship, and that was her last one. He had to convince her really, really hard that "they" would work.
So it's definitely possible that's what she wanted. I don't know. I've moved on...
So it's definitely possible that's what she wanted. I don't know. I've moved on...
Sounds like a lot more work that it's worth. Move on.
First of all, she is on the rebound.
Second, she seems to want a relationship, but doesn't. By that I mean it seems like she wants you to convince her. Don't waste the time. She will probably play with you for a couple weeks and say she's not ready. Then you're in too deep.
Third, there are more available women out there. Find one with LESS issues.
Forth, the religious thing has to be respected. But to me it's a cop out.
First of all, she is on the rebound.
Second, she seems to want a relationship, but doesn't. By that I mean it seems like she wants you to convince her. Don't waste the time. She will probably play with you for a couple weeks and say she's not ready. Then you're in too deep.
Third, there are more available women out there. Find one with LESS issues.
Forth, the religious thing has to be respected. But to me it's a cop out.
11-25-2008, 02:15 PM
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26, Indian. I'm Indian too and, honestly, I've dealt with A LOT of interesting chicks. One wanted to get married on the second date, one called me up after the first date and told me she's getting back with her ex but felt so bad she wanted to hook me up with her friend(s), one that left me hate VM's and txts because I didn't pick the phone up (we only went on 2 dates).
Man, I've got stories...
Man, I've got stories...
11-25-2008, 04:07 PM
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There are plenty of Indian chicks that put out. Move along.
11-25-2008, 05:56 PM
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Plenty of text and no sex???? 
Look, don't be overly concerned with that bs about premarital sex and whatnot...make a move! Stop approaching it emotionally if you are not in it for that. Sometimes women just want to fuck too! They just send mixed signals, while we have arrows pointing at our dicks! MAKE A MOVE!
If she gives you the Heisman stiff-arm, then jet...because then, it's not about should you move on, but how fast!
Note: History dictates that if you have to question should you move on...then you DO have a stake in it and/or a serious point of interest...
11-26-2008, 02:07 PM
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Great. Now he's loose.
Yes, indeed. Sometimes women do just wanna fuck, and that can be a lot of fun. It's much better, though, when we really, really wanna fuck the person we love.
Maybe she is still in love with someone else, and no one but that man could fill the bill. Even for us nympho-dick-driven babes, when our hearts and our hormones are in harmony, we will not...can not move on.
I agree that you should give it an unmistakable shot. If she even bats an eye in hesitation, MOVE ON!!!!
Maybe she is still in love with someone else, and no one but that man could fill the bill. Even for us nympho-dick-driven babes, when our hearts and our hormones are in harmony, we will not...can not move on.
I agree that you should give it an unmistakable shot. If she even bats an eye in hesitation, MOVE ON!!!!
