im the same way...
ima FRIGGIN RIP HER A NEW ONE!!!

 

I wonder how she'll respond to "I love you" afterwards.

 

Made out with brother maybe?

 

as of rite now.. i aint saying " I love You" to her
if anyone is to say it.. its her

 

@ "I went to jail..."


My suggestion: This family has a reason to be uneasy with this character.

 

Me too, plus on my phone it shows the # everytime you call/receive a call from someone.

 

only my girl knows about that.... her parents dont..
went to court and i was released on self defense

 

so that update was at 8:30 am... did you talk to her yet and find out what you aren't going to like?

 

not yet... this crap is killing me...
she at work right now thats why we havent talked since
for some strange reason i just got this feeling that came over me thats like "FU_K IT"..."FU_K IT ALL"

the thing about other fish in the sea... i know all about that.. there are already 2 girls trying to get at me because they heard of what im going thru with this one!

i explained my situation to them and they said that theyll be patiently waiting..
go figure!

 

oh ya... the other girls arent from AZ... FYI

 

Sorry, that just cracked me up.

Sounds like you are already on stage 2 of dealing with grief. Hopefully, you will just breeze by Stages 3 & 4 and move right on to acceptance... and move on.

 

still gotta find out what it is that she needs to tell me.
but the thing that really bugs me... is that i have kept every single promise to her whether its something simple as MAKING A FONE CALL AT A CERTAIN TIME to the bigger things like "ill never cheat on you"... when she cant even keep a simple promise to call me when she arrives home.
and yes.. im probably one of the few that actually keeps their promises! (the trick is.. never make a promise you cant keep!!!) simple as that!

 

 

the suspense is killing me.

 

...first of all, from personal experience... at anytime, when the person I'm dating acted weird... it was NEVER a good thing... and so many times when friends confided in me of similar scenarios, they'd always come to me later and say "...you were right..." or "...don't say 'I told you so'... BUT..." and I hate to say this but this sounds like one of "those" scenarios...

...and 2nd, I'm not saying this relationship is hopeless or done... but I'm welling to bet $$$ that if YOU were to just stop calling her or texting her.... and just cut off all attempts of wanting to "know"... I guarantee she WILL either 'fess up or try and work things out... ONE year is a lot to just throw out the window... you know that and she does too... but don't express it....

If she values the relationship... she'll cave in and want to "talk" BUT if she did something really bad? like say... cheated on you... then you don't want her anyway... once a cheater always a cheater.

 

You need to learn that all chicks are the same, her brother might keep an eye on her, but that can't stop her froma quickie in the bathroom stall.

Too bad I'm late, I was going to send you a Ransom PM.

 

i woulda drove down to NYC and kicked yer ass if you did!!!

 

UPDATE#2:
she didnt call back....

i txted her saying "are you gonna call me tonite?"
she responded by saying "I have too much family problems to deal with rite now,
ok,just leave me alone"
I wrote back saying "why are u mad at me? did i do something wrong?"
her reply was "What the hell dont you get? family comes first. just leave me alone"

that was the last she said...

I continued on : "I know they do! Stop yelling at me! im just trying to understand
whats going on! and youre not telling me anything. what am i
suppose to think or do?!?
Whatever then... goodnite.... goodbye"

that was the end...

i think ill do the second thing you spoke of: not calling or txting.. let her get back to me..

bitch

 

She sounds like a pain in the ass, just find another hot cali chick

 

I guarantee if you follow that advice, she'll call... might be a couple days, might be a couple weeks... but she'll call... if not? then... the feelin' wasn't mutual... and if the feeling wasn't mutual? well... ya know?

 

 

...but meanwhile... you NEED to keep yourself busy... I know telling you NOT to think about the whole matter is easier said than done... but focus on your job, hobbies... call up some ol' buddies and go do something with the guys... whatever it takes... keep yourself busy and social... don't get in the depressed mode... which will just make you weak...

oh, and when she does call or text... don't answer right away, or reply back immediately... DO NOT answer the phone like you're a gunslinger in a gun fight... let it go through to voicemail... text her back a half a day later, or next day if she text you late at night. If she knows that you're always avaliable (for her)... then she's got the upper hand. I know it's a game... but unfortunately... EVERYBODY "plays".

good luck and hang in there...

 

is she Indian?

 

seriously, I can check on her for you....

 

^^^ ^^^

 

Sorry to say it but I told you so. I knew you were going to do it and truthfully I would have done it too. Love fucks up your head

I know you wont do it but don't talk to her again and don't deal with her. No girl acts like this because of their family. It's not like they monitor her text messages.

How you get over it, nab a new chick for fun. If you don't you will go back to her. Sorry to be so blunt but you can't stay with this chick she is a pain in the ass like someone else said.

 

shes west indian (caribbeanized indians)... she works at a Chevron gas station (that kinda has a store built in it... what i mean by that is that it has a deli and other crap in it) up in madera (she lives in fresno tho) the exit is madera/yosemite off of the 99

if your coming from fresno then youll have to make a left at the exit.. you pass a chevron on the left not to far from the freeway.. go passed that one.. its about 3 miles down from that

and if you do check (her name is Shanti) tell her that Junior says hi! thatll freak her out...
oh ya.. dont let her know bout this thread.. if she asked how do you know me.. just say that he has a whooooole lotta friends.. then walk away!

 

i went out with a girl today that had a major crush on me 4 yrs ago.. and come to find out she still does! she was all over me tho.. but i didnt do anything because i still have some unanswered questions to be answered! but i told the girl bout my situation and she was kool with it.
now my girl got me waiting for an answer and i got this other one waiting too!
one giant waiting game is what it is...

Teh Jatt

in my avatar is me and my girl... (duh.. who else would it be) just so u know who your looking for!
thanks!

 

dude....after a year and your chick is treating you that way? im sorry, there is no excuse for that. NONE.

Go fuck that other curry bowl and be done with it.

 

dude go after another chick. i was with my ex wife, Amy, wife for 3 years and have a little girl together. just I couldn't take it anymore of her not doing anything around the house or helping me. i was working 50-60 hour weeks and i'd come home nothing would be done. so pretty much my life was work, come home, work around the house, go to bed,take a shower, and repeat 6 days a week. I only had 1 day a week I could really watch TV or goof off. plus she was draining me money. even though it sounds like i'm gonna have to pay child support i'd rather do that that have to put up with Sierra's momma for a LONG LONG time. to top it off I got a new girl by the name Candice. she lives in NC( i met her at a EMS/RN clinic) she's 21 and hot. ,
peg the other chick and go on.

 

Man, *I* have been in your shoes. PLEASE don't repeat my same mistakes (I think I was 19 when it happened)

MOVE ON

Don't call her, don't even try calling her. You have already put our your efforts WAY more than you should have. Your wounds are wide open right now, her's are hidden.

yes, yes yes, your going to get lonely and moody one day/night and your going to want to call her. DON'T.

...

She's very immature and not a "woman". All she's doing with her immature actions is playing your emotions like a paino. STOP, don't let her do this anymore. That a LOT of control to give to someone.

She WILL call (might take weeks), but it's not going to go like you wanted. She's trying to find the time to tell you she's moved on. Unfortunetly this is her immature way of doing it. (she either cheated on you or has had some sorta mental epiphany) Either way, *you* can't do anything about it.

Don't get me wrong, cutting her off isn't easy. But doing it now will make it much easier than the mental blow your going to take if you keep trying right now.

i.e.

if that's her in the avatar, change it
take all the pics down
put all the clothes she bought you in a bag/box
(this stuff may sound stupid, but sometimes it's the best things to do to let go)

move on... if not, prepare for a much larger mental disaster soon down the road

However after reading all of the posts on here by you, I don't think your strong enough to do this. Your whipped. Your going to crash and burn like I did (and others on here). Enjoy the flight it's VERY bumpy and has a crash landing. Or tough up and do what everyone is telling you...

 

re: stuff in bold

She already knows this. It's obvious she's playing him like a paino.

 

Here's what I think is going on.

She cheated on you. She is now trying to make you seem like the bad guy so she can justify it. The whole getting mad, ignoring you act? I've seen it a million times. Write her off as the immature slut she is and move on.

 

Don't wait for an answer form "your girl" because she's not anymore. She told you PLAINLY to leave her alone. More than ONCE. That sounds pretty damned official. If you don't stop with the calling and texting, be prepared to see either her brother(s) or sheriff (with restraining order n hand) at your door. Is all that worth it? You seem like a fairly handsome guy; pulling a new chick shouldn't be hard for you, but stop ranting about "your situation" because you don't have one...you're single. Delete old chick's number from your phone and forget you knew her, which shouldn't be hard considering she lives outta town.

 

mistake number one buddy!

 

why would you want to have a stranger on the internet to stalk your g/f? no offense to jatt, btw. even if your starting point is good, it'll look like you're stalking her to her. even if she's not breaking up w/ you, she will now.

 

to quote Xenogen: "she should be dead to you"

ignore her, and wait for her to contact you. when she does contact you, do nto answer the call. make her call like 3 or 4 times befor eyou reply. Then tell her that she has been replaced. it will serve two purposes; you will be free of thys psycho bitch, and she will feel like shit for having been so retarded.

family problems? is she in "the family way"? and had to go to NYC for an abortion? hmmmm, me thinks. think about it dude, that could so be it; she got knocked up by some other dude and you are the fall guy.

 

You have to get over that "I am better than her" "I ALWAYS did this and that" shit. People are assholes. They look out for themselves when they think its best

 

what a little bitch ...

I only say that bc i care. STOP ACTING LIKE A GIRL AND SHE WILL TREAT YOU LIKE A MAN.

 

You should have only two words left to say to her: FUCK and OFF.

She's rude, insensitive, inconsiderate and childish. But this is typical behavior for someone who's trying to make you break up with her, so she gets off guilt-free. She cheated on you and doesn't want to tell you, so she'll lash out and snap at you, so you'll break up with her.