Sex: Obsession, like it a lot, or just a part of the relationship?
07-08-2008, 11:06 AM
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Sex: Obsession, like it a lot, or just a part of the relationship?
Being a part of this forum has reminded me of a lot of different views about sex. From women and men alike. Some can take it or leave it, or get it when they can. Some people think it is definitely one of the more important parts of a relationship. A dealbreaker. I agree. To some, it is an obligtion in a relationship, their duty. Others are single and view this as a fave pasttime. Like me.
But regardless of where you fit in there, how often is often enough for the individual? I love sex. Not enough in my opinion to think I am obsessed with it, but my views on it lead some people to think that way about me. But I like to have it as often as I can. There is no mandate for the amount of times, but I'd like to go at least 3-4 times a week if opportunit presented itself.
What about you? How often is often enough? And this is about how often you want it. Not how often you think your partner will give it to you or can give it to you. This is strictly about preference, so be honest.
But regardless of where you fit in there, how often is often enough for the individual? I love sex. Not enough in my opinion to think I am obsessed with it, but my views on it lead some people to think that way about me. But I like to have it as often as I can. There is no mandate for the amount of times, but I'd like to go at least 3-4 times a week if opportunit presented itself.
What about you? How often is often enough? And this is about how often you want it. Not how often you think your partner will give it to you or can give it to you. This is strictly about preference, so be honest.
07-08-2008, 11:43 AM
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3 or four times a week would be great.
Sadly, it's not that way anymore..
Sadly, it's not that way anymore..
07-08-2008, 11:58 AM
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When I stayed with my gf everynight almost. Now I only see her on the weekends. 2 times a day on the weekend is nice but it doesn't make up for the rest of the week ....
but at least 4 -5 times a week for me but i'll be good with 3-4 i suppose
...is that too demanding?
but at least 4 -5 times a week for me but i'll be good with 3-4 i suppose
...is that too demanding?
07-08-2008, 12:08 PM
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darksom1, I can't figure out the math in your post...
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07-08-2008, 12:21 PM
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Once a day is good for me. When you're in a relationship, it's nice to feel so close to your partner.
Unfortunately, I don't see my bf every day, so we don't get it on every day. We do, however, have sex when we do see each other (several times per week). I think he'd like it 10x a day if possible.
Unfortunately, I don't see my bf every day, so we don't get it on every day. We do, however, have sex when we do see each other (several times per week). I think he'd like it 10x a day if possible.
07-08-2008, 12:56 PM
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http://www.livescience.com/health/617192.html 
good enough for me to continue my trend
good enough for me to continue my trend
07-08-2008, 01:01 PM
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im gonna be the oddball here. My fiance and i have been engaged for 2 years( i spent 19 months of that deployed) we have never had sex with each other and are waiting until we get married. Not because of morals or anything like that just because we want to wait and it be something we have never done with each other before. We sleep together every night and it has not been an issue yet. We take our showers together almost every morning and night but have not slipped up yet. 3 more months though and then it will be a different story.LOL But i think it is only as important as 2 people make it
07-08-2008, 01:04 PM
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A couple of times (2-3) a week ono average would be just right. A bit more on vacations.
But both of you have had sex with other people? And do you take care of each other in other ways?
Originally Posted by ArTL-S
im gonna be the oddball here. My fiance and i have been engaged for 2 years( i spent 19 months of that deployed) we have never had sex with each other and are waiting until we get married. Not because of morals or anything like that just because we want to wait and it be something we have never done with each other before. We sleep together every night and it has not been an issue yet. We take our showers together almost every morning and night but have not slipped up yet. 3 more months though and then it will be a different story.LOL But i think it is only as important as 2 people make it
07-08-2008, 01:08 PM
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Originally Posted by ArTL-S
im gonna be the oddball here. My fiance and i have been engaged for 2 years( i spent 19 months of that deployed) we have never had sex with each other and are waiting until we get married. Not because of morals or anything like that just because we want to wait and it be something we have never done with each other before. We sleep together every night and it has not been an issue yet. We take our showers together almost every morning and night but have not slipped up yet. 3 more months though and then it will be a different story.LOL But i think it is only as important as 2 people make it
Wow. Impressive. No oral either?
2-3 times a week is about right IMO. At least at this stage in life.
07-08-2008, 01:11 PM
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Originally Posted by ArTL-S
im gonna be the oddball here. My fiance and i have been engaged for 2 years( i spent 19 months of that deployed) we have never had sex with each other and are waiting until we get married. Not because of morals or anything like that just because we want to wait and it be something we have never done with each other before. We sleep together every night and it has not been an issue yet. We take our showers together almost every morning and night but have not slipped up yet. 3 more months though and then it will be a different story.LOL But i think it is only as important as 2 people make it
B. How you two dont bang your head on the wall from holding in the urge is slightly beyond me.
C.
on the keeping the commitment. Really, its truly honorable.
07-08-2008, 03:18 PM
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I'd like to have it at least once a day. 2x a day is ideal. Of course now that my gf moved in it's like we've been married for 10 years and im lucky to get it 2x a week. I guess that's why sites like youporn are so popular. 
07-08-2008, 09:57 PM
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My brother best said to one girl who had not "bloomed" yet apparently....
"if your friends your friends, but when you put in DATING, what do you thinking dating entitles you too? you are with that person hopefully because you care about them and want to be with them, and normally you want to show that person HOW MUCH you care about them with sex...that is DATING and that is what a real relationship is"
I will start keeping track how much is good for me shortly and update later lol.
"if your friends your friends, but when you put in DATING, what do you thinking dating entitles you too? you are with that person hopefully because you care about them and want to be with them, and normally you want to show that person HOW MUCH you care about them with sex...that is DATING and that is what a real relationship is"
I will start keeping track how much is good for me shortly and update later lol.
07-08-2008, 11:31 PM
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4 or 5 years ago, people on here would be answering "Oh yeahhhhh dawg, at least five or six times a day.."
Thank god we've grown up
Thank god we've grown up
07-08-2008, 11:40 PM
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5-7 times a week. I'll take it wherever I can get it, whether that be at work on break or in the parking lot at the hookah bar. It never seems like enough.
07-09-2008, 12:32 AM
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Originally Posted by arstraub
Hahahaha, 2-3x a month is great for me haha; it's more of an occurance when i'm trying to cuddle and it just turns into sex haha
07-09-2008, 01:33 AM
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I find my self continually sleeping with women I've previously slept with.
I've ruined two of my sweet ass teenage relationships because I used to fuck so often.
I guess I was just too horny for my age back then, now it's not even a big deal anymore, i'm getting more hard-ons over my CL than thinking about skeezes.
I wish my babysitter didn't touch me when I was in the 4th grade, been addicted to contact since.
I used to want it several times a day, but since my last awful breakup, I really haven't been too inclined to fucking all the time. I don't know what the issue is. I mean, my last was a really tiny asian, i'm guessing my problem is I have a serious case of yellow fever?
I don't know.
I've ruined two of my sweet ass teenage relationships because I used to fuck so often.
I guess I was just too horny for my age back then, now it's not even a big deal anymore, i'm getting more hard-ons over my CL than thinking about skeezes.
I wish my babysitter didn't touch me when I was in the 4th grade, been addicted to contact since.
I used to want it several times a day, but since my last awful breakup, I really haven't been too inclined to fucking all the time. I don't know what the issue is. I mean, my last was a really tiny asian, i'm guessing my problem is I have a serious case of yellow fever?
I don't know.
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07-09-2008, 01:36 AM
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Your babysitter touched you? Better call Doctor Drew...
07-09-2008, 01:37 AM
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Your babysitter touched you? Better call Doctor Drew...
I'll be all right, i'm not into fucking anything unattractive or dead or non human. I think im good.
Actually, the only problem I've had is just being so goddamn puddle-like.
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07-09-2008, 01:40 AM
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Was this babysitter an adult? Crazy shit. 
07-09-2008, 01:43 AM
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Originally Posted by Gnate
nah, 7th grade girl.
07-09-2008, 01:48 AM
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yeah but anyways back on topic, I don't know why my sexual drive has suddenly decreased, i've always enjoyed sex in a relationship over fucking random girls .
maybe that's the issue that i'm not in a relationship? Or maybe i'm just maturing, who knows.
maybe that's the issue that i'm not in a relationship? Or maybe i'm just maturing, who knows.
07-09-2008, 01:50 AM
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If I had to guess, both.
07-09-2008, 06:18 AM
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Originally Posted by moeronn
A couple of times (2-3) a week ono average would be just right. A bit more on vacations.
But both of you have had sex with other people? And do you take care of each other in other ways?
But both of you have had sex with other people? And do you take care of each other in other ways?
still new in the box. We have not done anything with each other including oral.
07-09-2008, 07:19 AM
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Originally Posted by arstraub
Hahahaha, 2-3x a month is great for me haha; it's more of an occurance when i'm trying to cuddle and it just turns into sex haha
Originally Posted by arstraub
I hate giving bj's, so that's a huge favor for my bf. He knows I hate it, so I don't do it often, and that's fine with him. Guys have figured out that if it's your birthday, you're pretty much going to get a bj, that's just how it is - you're welcome. I don't feel obligated to have sex when I have my period because I think that's flat out disgusting haha. I probably have given him a bj or hj when I had it just because I felt bad that I wouldn't actually have sex with him, but neither of those do I particularly love.
That poor bastard.
Or did Rockchic change her username?
07-09-2008, 07:26 AM
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Originally Posted by dom
That poor bastard.
Or did Rockchic change her username?
07-09-2008, 07:36 AM
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Originally Posted by dom
That poor bastard.
Or did Rockchic change her username?
She said thats what she NEEDED, not necessarily how much she got.
Those two numbers are normally very different for women - because we arent selfish.
07-09-2008, 08:45 AM
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Originally Posted by Whiskers
darksom1, I can't figure out the math in your post...
I love sex. And the only reason why I don't have to have it every day is because I don't ever want to get tired of it or the person I am with. 365 days a year. I think the average guy saying "every day" in this thread is not thinking about just how many days that is. It isn't 7 days (one week). It's 365 days in a row! You are lying like hell if you say you want it 365 days in a row! Or that if you think you will be able to do it 365 days in a row. Lol...in your dreams maybe, but not quality sex in real life! That sounds more like a job than sex, and it will to you as well after a few weeks. Nah, if you are saying every day, you must not get it enough now to be satisfied, because that sounds like someone that's "sex-starved". And this is coming from a true cocksman! I just flat out don't want to see the same broad every day and I don't have 365 women on speed dial. But the ones I do...whoooo!
Now multiple times a day is more like it! I have some serious go-getters in my "conquered log" that will work you out like that! There was this one chick in Va that I used to do it with 6-8 times a day when we hooked up! We would get together for the weekend and just go for it! Made the sex gods proud!
07-09-2008, 09:14 AM
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I would like it 2-3 times a day 2-3 times a week.
I dont need it every day, but when I do have it I want it more than once...
<---- Doesnt always get what he wants...
I dont need it every day, but when I do have it I want it more than once...
<---- Doesnt always get what he wants...