After being single for roughly 48hrs., I find my self thinking how I don't really like the single bar scene.....I never did! I just spent 4 years of my life with someone that I was used to, and the though of doing it all over.....again makes me wanna puke. Sure....the idea of a random BJ or even sex sounds appealing, but honestly.......I want just one woman. Is 26 too young.....man....am I just rambling!!!!

 

From what I understand you never know if or when it's the right thing.

Enjoy single life for awhile.

There's no need to rush into anything.

 

You'll be OK Nicky, you're still young dude...Just need to change your routine for a while...see some fresh faces, stay busy.

Hell, I'm in the middle of a re-do after 9 years dude...talk about tough...

 

look back. .. if you think you had enough fun... your ready...

its all on the mentallity some guys say theres too much pussy others say they've all ready had their fair share...

 

The thought of finding all of the little quarks another woman is scary. I saw this hot girl at lunch yesterday....and when she was eating....she was chewing with her mouth open No matter how hot she is....I could never deal with that everyday!!!!

 

marriage is never the right thing .

 

If you like fucking.....marriage ain't for you, I been married seven years and I haven't fucked once.......I've had intercourse.

If you like pussy......marriage ain't for you, I been married seven years and I NEVER get any pussy.......I've had vagina.

if you like blowjobs.....marriage ain't for you, I been married seven years and I've NEVER gotten a blowjob......I've had fellatio.

-The great philosopher Christicus Rockula

Listen to the man he is wise. You are just suffering from relationship withdrawal, you'll be OK in a few months, it takes a while to get over a 4 year relationship.

 

there shouldn't be a set time or age when marriage is the right thing...of course, you could also meet the man/woman of your dreams, yet not get married because the timing was just wrong. it all depends...get used to being single, learn from everything that was wrong in your previous relationship(s), apply it to the next one, and if that person is the right one, you will know it, and also know how to grow the relationship/marriage better.

 

You aren't rambling, I'm in the same state of mind you are. Instead of looking for some ass, I go out looking for a girlfriend. I need to stop being picky, at least for now.

 

nicky i think if you really love some one and you think you can be happy with that one person for the rest of your life then go for it. i don't believe in divorcee when i get marry hopefully it s for good. i know it sucks being single. i broke up with my ex last Feb and we were together for 4 years also. so i know how you fell but give it time and you will see it will all work out. the girl IM with nownicky i couldn't be happier. the sex is great and we love being around each other and we hardly fight. i know right now you have to adjust to not haven her in your day to day life and that is gunna take some getting used to. but if it was ment to be it would have been. if you weren't happy dating her just think of what 10+ years of marriage would be like.

 

I do'nt think 26 is too young. It would be a perfect age for me, i'll be out of school and stable and blah blah. Then again, i'm a girl, so i don't know what guys prefer. I just look at my parents and my friends' parents, and I see that my parents married in their late 20s and have an awesome marriage, and I love how they raised me. On the other hand, a guy that I dated seriously last year had parents that were 10 years younger than mine, and the way they did things was SO different. They married and had him young, and they raised him in a very clingy manner. They also didn't have a college education, but that could be a whole other topic.

 

Conversely, I like to fuck, i like dick, and i like getting eaten out. And I plan on having a husband that fulfills all three of those activities. Your point?

 

you're just withdrawing from the 'attachment' that you had with her. listen to waddy, he knows what he's talking about

 

I truly believe in marriage though. To be able to spend the rest of my life with the other half, it is truly wonderful. The hard part is to find the other half. As there is no perfect couple, that is why I also believe in people should work hard to make things work as much as possible.

A lot of people, especially girls, or the ones I have dated, believe there is always someone out there better. I do not buy that at all. I believe everything needs to be built. A couple should be building their relationship stronger and stronger, and it will be the best. And of course, there are exceptions, such as me right now.

But I still very much believe in marriage. I will never divorce if I get married one day.

 

My number is 281-497-0424, I can't promise marriage but hey 3 outta 4 aint bad right?

 

Never put an age on marriage...you might end up rushing into things and end up getting a divorce. My sister is in her early/mid 30s and she's finally met a guy that'll treat her good and he gets along great with the rest of us. So you just have to find the right person first. And you'll know when to marry when the time comes...

I'm 25....still looking, but I'm taking my time...

 

26 is not too young to marry. Don’t let your age pressure you into marriage though.

How do you know when marriage is the right thing? You feel it!

If you can’t tell in your heart that you truly love this person for all the right reasons (not just physical appearance), don’t bother getting married because it won’t work. Just look at the divorce statistics.

I married at the age of 26 and don’t regret it. It gave us time to learn about each other (you know, creature habits) and get established financially before having children. Marriage is a two way street and either gets better or worsens with time. Life changing events (like marriage, buying a house, having children, becoming the sole provider, retiring…) will put stress on a marriage.

The key to a good marriage is respect, communication and being able to adapt to changing environments.

 

damn beat me to it!

 

I don't know nick, a 4 year relationship is tough. Search deep and see if there are any feelings left, then see if she feels anything. It might just be your 4 year itch manifesting, itself, so see if you can make things work. Don't entirely burn the bridge before you try another one.


.......................the guy @ the gym

 

Ha Ha.....whats up bro!

 

when her trust fund leaves you drooling.

 

Nicky,

I was married 16+ years, then got divorced. Best thing I can advise is to find someone that is as mtoivated in life as you are. I have seen lots of couples where the guy works his ass off and the wife is a lazy ass.

 

Strange as it sounds...you are "much more atractive" if you still give off that relationship confidence. Drink yourself silly and talk to girls. You'll figure it out. Good luck man. I was there previously with a girlfriends of 2 year, 2 years, and 3 years...then I found someone. That is 7 years "wasted" (not really). Play!

 

i think that at 26 you get those kinda marriage blues. i just broke up with my long time girlfriend and i'm almost 25 and i caught myself saying that the next girl i fall for is gonna be my wife. i hate the bars too, i hate drinking even. waking up dehydrated and smelling like cigarettes is not my style anymore. regardless...you need to find a new girl away from the bar scene...yoga class, the gym, the church...find a girl at a place that is most appealing to you...the kind of attributes that you want your woman to have, that's the kinda place you look in. church-religious, gym-cares about her body, etc. etc. i found mine at work and at a performance of the nutcracker. classy, cultured, sexy. whether she attends church is yet to be determined. ;-)

 

with waddy ing for a xmas BJ .............

 

I disagree. My wife rocks.

 

DAYUM!!!

 

you just know, i have been witht he woman for 9 years and we are finally getting married in may

 

You just struck a cord with me. I've never seen this written before. I've always been torn with the whole "how much effort should a healthy relationship take"? I guess that you are right, there is no perfect relationship. Maybe we are all under the illusion that things are suposed to amazing all the time.

My girlfriend of over 2 years has just told me that she needs time apart so I can try and be happier person. She told me I'm unhappy with some things in life, and its hurting our relationship. I am 28, and the same thought of "i'm getting old" are worrying me. I havn't slept in about a week. I have no interest in doing the whole bar scene. I am fucked as well.

 

Got married at 26, divorced at 47, the age has little to do with it, the person you are now and the person she is now has everything to do with it. Trust me, you will both change as time goes by. I just hope your changes are the kind you can both live with. Marriage is something that will ruin a good relationship, or make your life the best thing ever, everyone is different, there can be no rules. If you find the woman/man you believe is the right one for you, that's all you can hope for, until then, don't hurry, have fun and enjoy life.....