hi, i know i'm a noob and this is my first post but i have been hanging around here for about 6 months. i have a 98 3.0CL black but unfortunatly i got rearended yesterday, car isnn't that bacd but my back kills and i got x-rays but i'm ok.

here's my problem. i've been going out with her for about 3 months now and yesterday something was brought up about her asking another guy to the movies if they where just friends to hang out as friends. i said i wouldn't have a problem with that but i hope i was invited. so i asked a couple of questions, i asked her if say she went to the mall with another guy but it was the only day we could get together would she still go, she didn't answer, so i want your opinion, to me i would get mad but get over it. if you where asked by another guys gf to go out with you, would you go, and if not why? say if she didn't tell you and she still wanted to go with him as friends, what wouldbe your reaction to this.

i said that if a guy has respect for her bf,which is me, he would not go out with her. and if the guy did go along and went with her then he has no respect for me. she thinks i have a trust problem with her but i don't because i believe that she wouldn't do anything, for one major reason. but i have a trust problem with the other guy because he may make a move or do something. but now shee's pissed and doesn't understand why i would get mad

please i need your opinions.

i need to know what kind of a stance you would take on this
thank you

 

girls are just stupid and hopefully you'll realize that.

She's too stupid to realize that a guy is playing the "friend" route to get into her pants.

So yes, you're justified. But there's nothing you can do about it because then she'll freak out and say "you don't trust me!"

Which you reply "oh I trust you just fine, just not another guy making a move on you"

 

In my opinion, there are two variations to this.

If this guy who wants to take her out has been a longstanding friend of hers, then she should realistically be allowed to hang out with him. Just because she entered into a relationship with you does not mean she has to give up her relationships with friends who came long before you.

However, if this is someone she has only met recently, then her going out with him one on one serves no purpose other than a catalyst to grow away from you. If she wants to hang out with a new guy, one on one, then she likely wants to get to know him much better. In which case, she could easily grow fond of him as she gets to know him better - which spells bad news for you.

I would base your reaction on how well she knows him. If its a longstanding friend of hers, she has a right to keep that friendship. However, if it is a brand new guy, it just spells trouble and you have a right to be concerned.

 

If I was your age - of course ! the more teh better ! all fair game.

set the chick straight - "go ahead - there is this other chick I wanna go out with to...."

Respect in teen life ? what respect ???

Try stay cool son,
Mind game - chicks love to play them
they wanna see you sweat, squirm, asking silly question on Internet car forum

 

man..screw it ... we are young and we gotta chicks while we can...Every guy I talked to thats already married or tied down regrets not doin it...There are alot better grls out there...let her go and if somethin comes up forget her man go get another one...

Thats my fix for the problem...

 

seriose gf trouble

 

at 16...no such thing as serious GF trouble.

 

I think he was referring to seriose grammer trouble

 

thanks for your advice. i know there is alot of other girls. like veeralso5 you have to and no i haven't yet but she came to me said that she did want to . just talked to her anyways seems like she got over it

 

Wiser words haven't been spoken in Relationship forum for a while.

 

that is what i was trying to get to. its a newer guy that she met a while ago and got her aim. he sent her an IM saying they should hang out soon but he has a gf and my gf gave him her number. i'm like you don't even know him at least give me the courtisey go with you to meat him. i understand the long term friendship but it's just that this guy has just showed up and i'm like WTF. anyways if anything does happen i'll hunt his ass down and castrate him like a bull. i live in RI so its a small state.

 

Never forget women love a prideful man
Tell her sure go ahead and go out with him, and if he sweeps you off your feat go for it girl. By the way if this happens I know i can always fall back On "insert name here" And I will have some ass that very night. So if you ever wonder if you should cheat on me or go out with some on else, go ahead. And that poor sucker can deal with you. But I love you honey. And you know this because i put up with you.

 

^^ HAHA NICEE

THis is not a "Serious gf problem." If she was a good gf, she wouldn't have gave him her number from the start. Is this still in H.S.? Because girls in high school are a complete waste of time. I realized that when I got into college. So much damn drama in high school and besides..girls are a lot hotter in college.

 

thanks guys, i'm going to try this today and hopefullly it works. my friend tried this with his girlfriend and she came crying back. i hope it works. she doesn't see the problem if thier just "freinds". to me going out with him is like going out on a date before you actually go out with someone. there is other girls but all the ones i met are complete blanks and have no personality. this one does have a personality. i have to watch out because her brother is 21 and wants to be a professional wrestler and is JACKED. he's protective of her because her father died a couple years ago. wish me luck

 

I, too, am learning this........all the drama that went on in high school really DID NOT matter at all. What a huge waste of energy and resources....

 

This one's kind of touch and go. She trusts you enough to tell you she wants to see a movie with someone else, but she shouldn't even be entertaining the thought. Ask her if she minds you going to the movies with your female friend and if she's cool with it, then you should do it too. If your girl doesn't want you to go, then she's setting a double standard. Talk to her and tell her that seeing a movie with another guy is not something you feel good about because it's disrespectful to you. If she accuses you of not trusting her, then tell her it's not a matter of trust but rather a matter of respect. If she still argues with you, then drop her like a hot potato because she's looking for an excuse to hang out with other guys. Good luck.

 

at 16, booties < *

 

AS3.0CL- And if she does that...think about how you'll feel when she gets to college when you're not gonna be there. She's gonna go partying with girls and guys. Hang out with other guys all she wants to because you're not around to accompany her. I can't stress this enough..after high school..you two will break up...and i bet a decent amount on that. Very rarely do girls actually last throughout the same high school and college relationship to get married. They'll make some bullshit excuse like .."oh..distant relationships...I don't like that.." or "I wanna explore around and see how other guys are.." and all that other crap. Most of the people who actually still have high school relationships..only last about a year into college.

Reloaded

 

just... let her go. she probably just doesn't like you anymore, i hate to say it. there's no other reason for her to be going out with another guy, esp. if she met him after she met you.

dating in high school is futile.

 

Whether or not she does something with this guy doesn't matter at this point. If she wants to leave you, she will (probably) let you know. She's not a piece of property you have to fight for, she's a teenage girl. They're fickle beyond belief.

He might also be the friend that she tells all her woman problems to when they're at the mall so that she can focus on your dick going in her ass later that night.

There's no way to tell, don't worry about it.

 

 

I would stay in school and learn how to spell a tad better

 

yeah, i know about my grammar. i had to go fast so i didn't check. here's the thing she actually met two guys before me but only hanged out with them like twice each. and havn't talked on the phone at all. yesterday i called her and she was kind of fine then she goes over her friends house and i im her and she's all pissed off again. what i say just seems not to get threw her head. my best friend is trying to talk to her to help me out. i don't know how far he got last night but hopefully he got threw. i hope everything is ok but if not and it stillls go on i'm gonna dump her, i can't take that shit it becomes a viciouse cycle and that is what it was last night over an over again. hopefully she comes to her senses but if not she's gone.

 

Why was she pissed off again? Was the friend's house one her new male friends' house?

 

yeah she got pissed off again. her best friend is female and thats the house she was at. talk to her again , she's still mad but i told her i'm over it, that iwas a dick, i over reacted, and so on. is there anything else i can do or do i have to ride it out.

 

if you just wanna tap dat azz, go ahead. Don't trip over the guys she wants to hang out with. She's too immature to realize the complexity of a serious relationship. Hit and run as many girls as you can while you're young. Don't worry about a relationship until you meet someone who is on your level. She obviously is not.

 

yeah i'm getting the fealing like she isn't on my level. i know i can tap that azz because she came to and said she wanted me to take her virginity. i was like yes but now i think it isn't worth it. just have to see what she says.

 

why is it that she wants you to take her virginity? Is she one of those girls who just gives head and nothing else. What I mean is b4 you, have you any info about her and anyone else?

 

now my question is.. did you deliberately spell grammar incorrectly to make a point, or did the pot just call the kettle black?

 

Like the others have said, there is no serious girlfriend problem in high school, unless she has a rash she forgot to tell you about.

Just have fun, she wants to go out with him tell her the truth - it stinks of her playing the field. When she plays the you don't trust me card, say trust, like respect, is earned and this ain't helping any. If she still goes, let her - not worth the time unless all you're after is getting laid.

Tap her, then say gotta run, gonna meet a friend at the movies....don't worry, it's not a movie you would like anyway and we've been planning this since we met 2 weeks ago.

 

Wear a condom.

 

Weird. My best friend is girl and we go out all the time. her BF nows me so nothing goes through anybodys head. Although i've known these two for like 7 years. I trust them and they trust me. Depends if you know the guy.

 

drop the biznitch, if shes acting like this at 3 months, imagine 3 years

 

see the problem is i don 't know these guys. and we only get to see each other like once a week. so her blowing me off and going to see another guy it's complete bullshit to me. i tell her i trust her because i do. and i think its more of a respect type of thing. they aren't freinds when they only met each other last year like two times and by the way it's two seperate guys with the same situation and one of them was kicked out of my school for drinking during school and is still a pot head and the other guy has a gf to. to me the guy that has the girlfrien has a lose relationship with her or doesn't want his gf anymore. long term friend ship i don't have a problem with. hopefully she calmed down since yesterday. i'll let you guys know. and thanks for the help.

yeah and i know wear a condom.

 

What out if you don't know the guy. And if she goes out with then many times without meeting them is a legit reason to drop her.

 

my favorite relationships were in hs, tho :

 

yeah i probably will do that. i told her i want to meet him and she said now you have to know my "friends" in order for me to out with them to the movies as "friends" to me there not friends but only a aquatnance(sp?). if its another girl idon't mind but another guy then i do

 

Have you brought up the "respect" thing?

 

my girlfriend and I had the same situation with this one guy that was her friend for awhile and then he wanted to go out with her but she ended up with me. We've been together for almost a year now, (not counting two weeks we were broken up for some random crap) and this guy would call her and show up places when she would go out with her girlfriends and seriously spidey's right, girls are just dumb. She couldn't figure out how her hanging out or going dancing with her girlfriends and him randomly showing up and dancing with her would upset me. Anyway we talked about I tried best I could to explain how guys just want to bone and the ones that are friends don't ask you out first and then because they have no choice become friends. She still doesn't get it but she doesn't talk to him very much anymore and I don't get random surprises like "I'm going out with the girls" next day "you'd never believe who I ran into" I think she had a talk with him or he got the point we he called her at 1 in the morning and I answered pissed to high hell.

 

Girls just can't fathim that the trust issue isn't because we think they'd cheat but that guys aren't trustworthy always. They can understand that girls aren't trustworthy always, like how my girl hates when I have lunch with a girl from work because "she wants you." Me understanding where she's coming from I don't have luch with said girl anymore, I don't know girls are dumb but you gotta love em.