So some friends are having a discussion about labels and levels of a relationship. Most agreed that when you go exclusive, you're dating and the SO is considered your boy/girl friend.

One of the girls says that seeing each other exclusively does not mean you're dating, and even though you're exclusive the SO is not your boy/girl friend.

Is there a difference? I think if you're not exclusive, you can be seeing each other but thats not your bf/gf. Once you go exclusive, that SO is a bf/gf.

 

I hate having this discussion... I just don't want a girl that I like to be with with someone else, so I make it a point... And then at that point she's either my gf or not. But with that comes certains obligations/responsibilities. For example, I no longer would think it's acceptable for her talk to any of her ex's (unless she had a kid with him, but I wouldn't be with a single mother to begin with), etc.

 

who cares as long as you, i mean both parties are getting what they want out of the whole deal.

 

Meh I dont like sharing food much less stink holes

 

everyone defines this stuff differently, so to acquire one set definition of each would be quite difficult


imo:
when you begin dating someone (ie "seeing someone") you are testing out the water to see if you two are a good match. you are not exclusive. you are still permitted to see others or go on other dates, etc.

when you are seriously dating someone (a certain amount of time has elapsed, feelings have been brought up), then you are exclusive. <---BUT, usually this is something decided upon and discussed by both people.

You don't want to put your all in to someone if they are still trying to figure out how they feel about you.

 

:troutslap share and share alike, j/k

well i didn't mean the extreme, also, i was just assuming by the tone it was dealing with younger people, 17-20. I know at that age i didn't want to play house with a steady. As you get older, yeah you don't want someone else's mess.

 

I've never gone through the conversation part. At some point, I find a way to call them my girlfriend to thierface. I've never had a problem with this one, I'm at the pouint where that is what I want, if they disagree its time to reconsider. However most girls just look at me and say something like "pretty confident aren't we" and I respond with a "yes I am."

I just play the confience card if done right you got em.

BTW I don't do open relationship or even open dating.

 

I'm with amisconception and DWI, I hate that conversation and after a short period of time with me it is either boyfriend/girlfriend or nothing. I don't do or understand open dating or open relationship.