How do you deal with rejection?

I've been seeing someone for 3 months. Because we never discussed our relationship, I finally decided to ask "where we stand". I thought that things were great between us and everything seemed to be on a right track but during our conversation I found out that he's not into me as much as I am, however, would like to continue the relationship.

What would you do? Would you give it time and see how things turn out or just let it go. I don't want to get hurt but I have a feeling that is exactly what will happen. On the other hand, he's a great guy and I would hate to let him go.

I'd like to get your opinion... if you cared about someone, you loved spending time with him/her and he/she made you happy, would you give it a try even though they just told you they don't have strong feelings toward you? I know "time will tell" but how much time is enough? Can you learn to love?

 

Funny... I'm actually on the other end of this one.

He just may not be into you for some fundamental reason. Religion? Annoying habits? Personality mismatch?? Could be anything, and its unlikely something based on physical attraction.

It does seem like he wants to stay friends, however. I would leave it at that and maybe try again in the future.

 

Just let it go...If he does not feel the same way about you, then theres no point. There are more guys out there that offer the same, if not better. You'll save yourself from being hurt in the end.

 

I'd probably just keep things as they are if you don't want to give up yet, just keep your options open

 

I wasted 6 years of my life trying to change someones mind, while I really care about this girl I had to just move on. Don't try and change their mind, move on and find the person who loves you for you! Easy to say, hard to do.

 

Usually if it is someone I'm dating, I can get over it pretty easily. If it's someone I was in a relationship with, I usually have to find ways to keep myself really occupied. It took me about a year to really get over this one girl, and in that time I joined 2 pool teams, a soccer league and was out in Manhattan about 5 nights a week.

IMO, I would have to say, move on sooner than later. If you keep getting closer to him and his attitude doesn't change, it will be a lot worse.

 

This is a tough one, as I'm someone who takes some time to truely open up in a relationship. I have found that some of the people I was instantly attracted to and really wanted before we started dating would never work out because the relationship was based on superficial things. While you cannot force or make someone love you, love does grow and this might turn out to be a great relationship. You have to decide for yourself if you truly see a future with him and are willing to be patient enough to see if he comes around.

 

I've been there. I tried eveything to "make" the other person happy & have stonger feelings for me. Nothing worked. Just drained me & my bank account. Let it go. Stay friends. If the other party isn't feeling it, there is no point.

 

and in answer to the question, you can't make them love you. What I mean is, he isn't gonna "learn to love" you. Just keep your options open, if he has some reason to not wanna be with you, then worry about yourself. Don't bend over backwards for someone that isn't gonna appreciate you

 

Cut my losses and move on.

 

just recently went through this...I finally had to let him go b/c of his inability to commit...For whatever reasons, no one wants to feel like they are in a relationship by themselves. If he is not as interested as you are, move on sister! They are either into you or they aren't.

 

Dang this girl is SMART!

 

You know what? This exact same thing happened to me. Except it was over the course of a year. At least it wasn't a total mistake because we're still very good friends. So I say if you break up with each other now, maybe you can still save the friendship before things get really bad and he dumps you, and then you're bitter and pining for him. What do you possibly have to gain from staying in the relationship, in the long term? If you're not good enough for somebody NOW, it can only get worse...I speak from experience.

 

Here's my take on rejections:
I grew up on a farm in NW Ohio from the time I was born till now. from the age I was 8-9 till I graduated I was responible to take care of 1000 head of hogs. So I wasn't viewed as the "cool kid" in high school. I asked out a lot of girls they laughed at me. but a lot has to do with belief in yourself and down the road how you will do. All my friends always asked me why do ask out all the hot chicks. I said "you know until you try. There's always that 1 in 100 chance she might say yes." Even if she says no. your out nothing. I had probably 20-30 girls a year say no to me in high school. Just remember even the coolest and most popular kids and people have some people their scared to ask out or ask for a date. so what your going through is normal.

I have a saying when it comes to getting rejected:
"EVERY REJECTION LEADS TO A CONNECTION."

 

Nothing gets you over the last like getting under the next.....

Deep thought....by Nicky Pass!