Well reality hit me today.
Me and my girl broke up about 2 months ago. Basically what happened was I gained 50 lbs and lost my confidence (BIG TIME!) and it's funny because when we first started dating she wasn't confident and you know I put a lot of time into her, making sure she knew how special she was to me. Well it back fired, now she is confident and all that time wasted...driving 100 miles every weekend to see her, stopped lifting weights...etc.

Basically she got her confidence back started partying and caring less about me because now I got "needy" because I had gained 50 lbs and it fucked me up in the head big time. Well she was telling me she was upset too and needed to get her shit together and wasn't going to date anyone for a good while. I believed her and thought everything was cool, I would get back on my lifting/running and lose weight and she would get her shit together and maybe we would get back together or in worst case I would be in shape so fuck her. Well its been about 2 months I have lost 15 lbs and back to benching about 275...(I used to bench 300 when I met her) so I am on my way.

Well Reality Check stepped in for me today, she is talking to someone else now. It was like a punch to the gut and she doesn't know I know but I do know and the worst part is he is a musician (she likes spoken word and soul rap music and he is one of those guys) and probably is just in to hit it and run.

So to all you pussy's heres my message to you...girls lie and girls normally could give 2 fucks about you. If you lose your confidence you are totally fucked in the long run. You can be a total asshole as long as you are confident they will never leave.

This one I put my guard down because when I met her she was sad and I thought "Well hell its not that big of a deal I am gaining weight because when we met she was a sad person and I stuck by even though I disliked it" It doesn't work that way.

SOOOOOOOOO anyways instead of being sad and feeling bad for myself I am doing something about it and getting back in shape. So all you bastards riding the coat tails of these bitches...fuck them, get them out of your life and run damn it!

Anywho I might not be on as much now because I am going to try to stay away from the computer and get my shit together that I neglected with this chick.

Just in case she reads this...Fuck you, you lied to me and led me to believe shit that wasn't true...PEACE!

 

sounds good man, good for you for figuring it out.

gaining 50 pounds... that can be changed with work and dedication... just hit the gym and you'll be straight. turn that extra weight into muscle

also whats the point in being pissed that she lied to you? you realize now that women will say shit like that... fuck it, its in their nature. no point being all tight about it, if u let yourself be all tight about this shit then it means u care too much about it.

stay up, women aint worth the stressin most of the time.

 

See that's what I am trying to fix. I am crazy uptight about shit. Really conservative, always followed the straight and narrow path. You know I grew up thinking if you are nice to people they will be nice to you back, if you do this this will happen. I mean shit I have had "sex" with 2 different chicks (got head and other goodies from others), I always sit back and think "Man I am not going to be like those guys who run around fucking girls and chicks will respect me for that" You know I never smoked a cigarette or weed and rarely drink.

AGH! this shit sucks man!

 

Worst part is she stays wanting to talk to me. I told her I didn't want to talk anymore and she was like "Why, can't we be friends" and that's what we have been for the past 2 months...man I am so fucking stupid

Plus I see this dude and he is one of these weed head artists, not in college, and it just pisses me off that I do all this shit. Try to be nice to these ho's, I hear my female friends complaining and I say "Man I am never going to be that" Put a year and a half into this bitch and she is back to talking to losers. I should have known, the dude she was talking to before was a pot head who got kicked out of UF and had to go to community college and was a basketball player...UGH!

I guess the thing that gets me is that right now I was serious about getting back in shape, getting my grades back up...she said the same thing talking about she needs to get her grades back up and get stable before she even thinks about talking to another guy. I was serious, she wasn't. Plus we were each others firsts

BUT on a happy note, my previous ex came into town around a month ago and we had sex since we never did when we dated 3 years ago, and I even felt bad about doing that.

 

i wonder if jellyfish is reading this

 

thats cool that you're conservative... but conservative doesn't mean you should let women get the better of you. i mean you dont need to be a super asshole to women but dont let them fuck around with you. yea sure to get relationships to work you gotta let shit slide time to time but you need to know when to put your foot down.

so you got your ex in the picture. thats good, i mean you say shes seeing another guy, whats keeping you from getting at other women?

shes messin with this other fella thats a college drop out and smokes trees... maybe you two didnt match like that... could be that she might be looking for someone that is a little less conservative.

look for women that are more compatible with you. might be tough but better than going through drama.

 

yeah I feel you, my ex isn't really in the picture because she goes to school out of state but we are basically fuck buddies and whenever she comes into town (holidays and such) she said we could fuck...so why the fuck not?

Yeah I know the game and shit but I slipped up thinking she was different. That's why I yell at JellyFish about shit. I got a few chicks in my crosshairs who are conservitive, attractive, and such but the biggest thing is a lot of consevative chicks (who are black, I prefer chicks my color no offense to anyone are usually into church and I sure as hell am not (believe in god, but fuck organized religion) so yeah its gonna be hard finding mrs. Right...but for right now, I am using my parents time share all next spring and summer because i have been tied down in relationships 3/4 years of my college life...time to get some random Poontang (with a condom

 

my ex g/f gave me the same BS. I still want to be friends. Like I told her, it is not about friendship... I can't be around someone who I still want. Unfortunately, you will have to brush it off and move on. But to be brutally honest, 50 lbs is alot to gain and ask someone to accept. Drop the weight back and take care of yourself....

 

Yeah I feel you man, that's why it took it's toll on me (just as reference so you guys don't think I am a bloated swamp hag...this is me the summer I met her and now

 

yikes! you look like mantis...WITH the tires.

 

Don't let the looks thing get to your head. Sure I got a lot more ass when I was in real good shape but I still get pretty good as although I'm a little doughier. Confidence is all in your head.

 

Yeah I know but you see that picture of me that summer...I used to be a really fat little kid and people used to fuck with me then in high school I slimmed down and lifted weights and ran cross country. So now when i gained this weight it was like I was a kid again. I dunno I guess it comes with maturity but weight is my achilles heel. It's crazy

 

ever since i met my girl i gained about 65lbs, but she dont seem to mind at all. stupid freshman 65!

 

It wasn't the weight that made her leave. It was how I started acting once I gained the weight. You ae probably fine with the way you look or even if you aren't you are probably not doubting yourself like I was. Shit if you are a guy and you are all fucked up looking and overweight you can still bag a chick as long as you are confident...trust that.

Weirdest part is she didn't break up with me and wouldn't for the life of her. No matter what I did or said she wouldnt break up with me. I think she felt bad about it, so I got tired and just said fuck it lets stop playing games and broke it off.

 

Give the health & fitness forum a look.

 

You know, the more I read about you, the more I like you, JJ. You sound like a really stand up guy, you have your head sitting on your shoulders right, and you are going to be a FANTASTIC catch to a really lucky lady one of these days. I truly mean that, pardon my sappiness.

It sounds like you need to work on your confidence as far as she is NOT concerned. It seems to me that you've been doing this improving in the past 2 months with the goal of re-catching her in your mind. Now you need to forget about her and do it because of yourself, because it will make YOU feel better about YOU.

Don't worry about what she's up to or who she went off with... just think that in five years you're going to be a success and she'll be married to an uneducated pothead with a specialty in... basketball. Yay. Great for her. Forget about it. She's not worth your worries.

And yeah, it's hard to find someone with the right mix of qualities that you're looking for... you want someone with values that isn't preachy. It's really tough, and you're going to find her in a really odd place, but she's out there. Trust me, I know about having unrealistic needs (a tall burly asshole with a heart of gold comes to mind). Let me know if you need to talk... I'm here for ya.

 

JJ is one of my favorites on here, right after JC, TMK, Greenie, Bulldog, that guy who almost bought my rims in BlackMarket and the n00b who came on and ripped on the US in R&P.

 

JJ, you are a young, very, very, very good looking, sexy, man. Go get yourself some fresh snatch.

 

I though I was your favorite.

 

can i be the replacement to TMK's currently vacated slot?

 

You're my favorite member on here who uses rabbit ears in all his avatars and live in Virginia.

 

You really think you have what it takes to fill TMK's slot?

 

not sure...how loose is he? i'm about average size.

 

I am sorry that you have to go through that. I myself had that happen to me about a month ago. I feel ya. Though i am a girl and had the guy do that to me. the guy was like i want to be friends blah blah blah and that he wasnt going to date, now he is dating some girl. I feel ya when you say you are pissed. I am sorry.
But as far as i have read you seem like a really nice guy and trust me when i say that you look GREAT!! even now. But keep on track if working out makes you happy never give it up. Even for a girl.
As a girl, it is girls like her that make it difficult for girl, such as myself, to find a nice guy not unlike yourself. So keep your head up there are some nice girls out there.

 

Its about time someone put out a post like this. I've been seeing way too many dudes posting and crying about how they got played by their girl. My thinking is that if they're like that, fock them and move on.

 

Why not just get together with JJ and save Soopa the bandwidth?

 

Yeah, we could really use another AZine relationship.

 

The Canadianoob is my current favorite. Anyone who can choose a stance and stick to it regardless of the actual evidence or coherent arguments posed to the contrary... that's my kinda guy!

My least favorite people: JC and dom.

 

I won a superlative!

 

Yeah. That's the thing.

Once you turn into a whipped wussy you'll lose your girl. I mean you simply cannot respect somebody who kisses your ass all the time.

I mean you can absolutely love and respect somebody without kissing their ass. I think alot of people get "loving somebody" and "being a wimpy pushover" confused sometimes. Men and women.

 

Shut up, you little wet-elbowed pansy. Take your enormously fat girlfriend to Lane Bryant or something.

 

Fuck them bitches....

 

Had the same thing happen to me... about 5 months ago... Yeah... i'm one of the pussies you are talking about... and reality hit me last night actually... and to read your post... really boosted my confidence and opened my eyes wider...

You speak the truth man... and i guess i know what to do now...

Gracias man... and sorry to hear about your break up... but thats good you are back on track getting your shit together... maybe i'll have to try the same... When i met my girl i was 180 lbs... 100 lbs later she wants her space and wants to see if i'm the right one by going out with other people... All i have to say is... if she leaves... good riddance... as much as i would have loved to be with her the rest of my life... gotta say since she is going to have others in her life... not enough room for me IMO...

My relationship was 5 years old and a child involved... sooo... kind of a harder situation... but like you said:

Guess I have extra love to give to my daughter...

 

Yes ma'am

 

Because he says he does not go out with white girls.

 

Spooky, you write too much in your posts. Hurts my eyes.

 

Post pics and we can decide if he'll go out with you

 

Cliff/Clip/whatever notes:


hope that helps...

 

no offense, but 100lbs later, i would want my space too. A whole lot of it.

 

Maybe she wasn't speaking metaphorically?