In light of my other thread, I've decided to make a new one. I don't really know how divorces or prenups work but I want to see how many people actually sign them.

 

All of the rich folk I know have them.

 

If Im gettin married to someone who isnt rich or wont be in the future....Im gettin a prenup.

 

Not going to answer the poll just yet. I've never put any thought into it.

 

IMHO A prenup is a good idea if there is a significant difference in the financial status of each parnter, or if previous marriages and kids from a previous marriage come into play.

 

Definately getting a pre-nup. Seen too many of my buddies get financially ruined because their wife turned into an evil succubus. Successful guys who are now penniless and living in a one bedroom appartment because the woman took all of his assets/retirement/savings. Then the 1500/mo+ child payments hurt as well.

Many have even had to go into bankruptcy.

 

I've thought about it and it all depends on the woman. I said yes to prenup though because I'm hoping I catch a sugar momma.

 

When that happens....make sure you put all the shit she buys you in your name

 

If I'm still with my current girlfriend in a couple years her salary will be around 4x mine.

 

I wish I had enough for me to worry about her taking it. The bank still owns most of my TSeX anyway. I can't answer the poll, since non of the choices apply.

 

Only if I had a lot and she had nothing.

When I got married we both had nothing, so no need.

 

I think the longer you're single before you get married, the more necessary it is to get a prenup. That being said, I think everyone should have a prenup because the 50/50 split just isn't fair. No way my Russian bride is getting a free ride from me if it doesn't work out. Ah who am I kidding, the mail order company said we'd be perfect for each other.

 

Say you own a house, soley, alone, you're the only one on the title. You get married, spouse moves in, title never changes, get divorced. Now do you still have 100% rights to your house since you're the only one on the title, or does the spouse still have a stake?

Basically I'm asking when they say each party gets 50%...is that just shared assets (like where both names are on the title) or are personal/individual stocks, houses, cars etc still subject to getting split up?

 

Just about anything she can take half or more. It all depends on how good her attorney is.

A buddy of mine had a 500K house, half a million in savings/retirement.

Got married.

2 years later she found somebody else.

She took the house and 3/4 of his retirement/savings.

 

It depends on which state you live in. I think, generally, whatever assets you have before the wedding would revert to you after a divorce and whatever assests you accumulate while married would be "community property" and be divided up between the two of you. But, it also depends on how good an attorney you have.

 

now that's what I'm looking for.

 

nope, i wouldn't sign one. if my husband has the idea that i am going to pull a fast one on him, then i don't think i could marry him. the foundation of marriage is trust, and if there's no trust that you will stay together, what's the point?

i plan on being in a situation in my future where i suppose my financial situation would merit grounds for signing one, but i would never ask a man to do that. and i don't think it would go over very well either, eh?

 

my girl and I have talked about and if we get married there will be a prenup. We both agree on this.

Hell. If I pop the the question to her...her rengagement ring AND wedding band will be grandmothers......if we were to divorce those hierlooms come back to my family.

 

Its not that we think you will pull a fast on us...its the fact that the future is unpredictable. You might be married to me and be in love with me now, but it doesnt mean 5 years from now, you will still be in love with me. I mean you can say you wont take my shit if we get divorced, but I'd want that in writing...hence the prenup.

 

Are there any time dependant prenups?

For example, if we divorce after one year, we split my assets 90/10. But if we divorce after 10+ years, 50/50.

That seems fair.

 

Of all my buddies that got divorced (about 20 of them) they all got reamed. Never saw it coming. That's the thing, nobody thinks they'll get divorced but it does happen. Very frequently. All these guys said "I never knew she could be this vindictive...she was the sweetest woman in the world and now she is taking everything...saying she deserves everything."

they change when they go into divorce mode - its like a hungry, rapid pitbull.

 

I voted do not want prenup, since I dont wanna marry a girl that i dont plan to be with for the rest of my life but I understand things happen, especially the younger you/spouse are. But after reading some of the horror stories, well it might be a necessary venture.

 

Im just gonna do what parents do...whatever I buy is mine.

 

Based on your gold digga thread, you WILL need the prenup

 

So it seems like everyone wants one, but no one actually gets one

 

One of my friend's parents divorced, and they were at least civil to each other. They sold the house and split the money 50/50. They already each had their own vehicles, and never actually merged their bank accounts, so everything was a pretty clean break.

That said, if I ever get married (who knows, now that I can in ), I would most likely get one, just for security.

Has anyone noticed NO females voted for one?

 

Hmm...I wonder why

 

 

Dude you're 21 and you're getting married?
GoodLuck!!

If i ever get married I will either have to get her to sign a prenup, put everything under my parents name, or get an over seas account to keep my finances cofidential. You may love her but she's still a woman, and they are capable of anything.

 

I'm not getting married. Hell no, not anytime soon. It was just something i was thinking about today.

 

yup. easier said than done.

 

with 1 in 3 marriages ending in divorce i wouldnt get married with out one. everyone says "no that wont happen to us" but it obviously happens to some of them. everyone has health/car insurance, but most swear they will never use it or dont need it, but if the time comes you'll be counting your lucky stars you do. same thinking for me on the prenump stuff.
me and the fiance are going to "draw" ours up soon. she didnt want one, shes got more money than i do, and i told her no way im doing it (marriage)with out it.
you dont know what the future holds, and i dont want anything to be held over anyones head....it just seems common sense to get one, and i know alot of people would be offended to be told "we" need one.

 

Right now I'm thinking prenup... but with a relationship comes trust so I could reconsider if I ever fall that deep in love...

 

IMHO, Anyone considering a prenup is pretty much expecting to get divorced...
I'm ready to for the

 

lol, im not going to flame. but im not going to agree either.

people change. something dont last. divorce rates are higher then ever. Me and my girlfriend are of the mind of only wanting to get married once and be with that person.....but what if? shit can always happen. better safe then sorry.

 

I agree somewhat....and after dating an old g/f who came from divorced parents, realized how traumatized she is about committment, which is what led to our breakup. To me, divorce is not an option(with the exception of very extreme circumstances like affairs, etc...), that's the way I was brought up.

 

They change dude once they get their two tokens (kids).

 

I wouldn't get married without a prenup.

 

btw, it's called a prenuptial agreement because both partners AGREE to the terms. what's wrong with coming up with a gameplan for a possible/probably break up? blind faith never saved the people (usually men) from getting screwed over by their ex's.

 

But I'd still like for woman to sweep me off my feet

But it probably wont happen, I'm never satisfied, too picky after a while.