potential gf talking to her ex.
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potential gf talking to her ex.
Well, there is this girl... We've been talking for about 3 months, I had to move about an hour away from her for college, but I do drive back home to see her every weekend. Things have obiviously moved to more than just friends, as that we have sex whenever we can, and can't keep our hands off each other when we are together.
So, just this past week that I have sensed that she has been very distant to me, we usually text each other through out the day, like probably, 50 text messages, atleast aday. But for the past 3-4 days, we probably didnt even break 10 message.
So, I got a little suspicious, and I went on to her ex-bf's (they dated for like 3 years, and broke up about 1 and a half year ago) myspace page and saw her left a message on his page that says "Hurry up and get off work! I want to hangout with u! Hopefully ull be calling soon. I was thinking about going out tonight...maybe a movie? talk to u soon."
I got upset when I saw that, because I asked her what she was doing that afternoon, she told me that she's going out to eat with her brother... but then she left that message on her ex.'s myspace page.... anyways.... I'm just asking for advices as in what should I do? should I confront her, even though we are not OFFICIALY BF/GF? or should I just ditch her and move on? Or Should I even be worried as that the message might be just platonic , and nothing more than that? Sorry about the long post... but I just can't stop thinking about all this...
So, just this past week that I have sensed that she has been very distant to me, we usually text each other through out the day, like probably, 50 text messages, atleast aday. But for the past 3-4 days, we probably didnt even break 10 message.
So, I got a little suspicious, and I went on to her ex-bf's (they dated for like 3 years, and broke up about 1 and a half year ago) myspace page and saw her left a message on his page that says "Hurry up and get off work! I want to hangout with u! Hopefully ull be calling soon. I was thinking about going out tonight...maybe a movie? talk to u soon."
I got upset when I saw that, because I asked her what she was doing that afternoon, she told me that she's going out to eat with her brother... but then she left that message on her ex.'s myspace page.... anyways.... I'm just asking for advices as in what should I do? should I confront her, even though we are not OFFICIALY BF/GF? or should I just ditch her and move on? Or Should I even be worried as that the message might be just platonic , and nothing more than that? Sorry about the long post... but I just can't stop thinking about all this...
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You should probally start looking for other options at the moment, please dont get emotionally attached to her.......just let her fad away slowly....women who still have a strong connection with their ex's are never ready for a relationship.
Move on. Tell her you are looking for something serious and you think she needs to resolve anything with her ex before you can do that. Don't tell her you were on his My Space page. And in the future, if you have a suspicion, ask her, don't go hunting on someone elses My Space page, etc. Now you just have a bunch of doubt.
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Originally Posted by RaviNJCLs
Move on. Tell her you are looking for something serious and you think she needs to resolve anything with her ex before you can do that. Don't tell her you were on his My Space page. And in the future, if you have a suspicion, ask her, don't go hunting on someone elses My Space page, etc. Now you just have a bunch of doubt.
There goes the trust...
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So... basically, just forget about her and move on? She hasn't text me or anything since lastnight at 10...I think she's getting more and more distant. Im so glad that I didnt let myself go all out and fall for her emotionally, it wouldnt be that hard for me to break it off with her, plus I really need to focus on school anyways. Thanks for everybody's advices...
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let her free..if she comes back then shes interested in you and you should go after it, if not, well then atleast you got to hit it...(just make sure to take pics next time) LOL!
what i would do is not text her or call her and wait for her to call you..if she says how come you havent called her or texted her, just tell her you have been spending time with your family (which isn't a lie..your talking to all your brothers on AZ :P)
what i would do is not text her or call her and wait for her to call you..if she says how come you havent called her or texted her, just tell her you have been spending time with your family (which isn't a lie..your talking to all your brothers on AZ :P)
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If she's running around on MySpace setting up dates, she might as well rent billboard space in Times Square, but clearly, she doesn't much care about letting you know what is going on, including giving your relationship a decent burial.
I wouldn't waste further time on this twit. Nothing left to see, time to move on.....
I wouldn't waste further time on this twit. Nothing left to see, time to move on.....
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Yup. I agree with most everyone here ... gals like this are comparable to bad job experiences. Stick around for the benefits and compensation (sex) but have your resume out and start interviewing with new firms (gals).
Without trust, a relationship is nothing ... except for heartbreak and OJ-type scenarios.
Without trust, a relationship is nothing ... except for heartbreak and OJ-type scenarios.
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Same exact thing just happened to me. Cute girl, looked like a potential girlfriend. However, she started chatting it up with the ex-boyfriend and now, they're together. Just let it go and find someone else at this point, don't invest anymore time. It's a lost cause...
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oyyy..... a whole day without a text... thats a first since we've been talking for the past 3 months... 
seriously... how could someone loose feelings for another person that fast? All this took place just last week, monday, she was sweet to me, tuesday, she's been alright, wednesday, slightly less text than usually, thursday, lesser text, friday, basically no text, and things has just been going down hill ever since then...
seriously... how could someone loose feelings for another person that fast? All this took place just last week, monday, she was sweet to me, tuesday, she's been alright, wednesday, slightly less text than usually, thursday, lesser text, friday, basically no text, and things has just been going down hill ever since then...
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I'm siding with the others in this thread. But, her lack of contact with you may be a direct response to your lack of contact with her. After all, she doesn't know why all of a sudden you stopped texting.
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^^^^I've been trying to strike up conversation with her through text for the past 3 or 4 days, but her replies are kinda "meh", you know, like when you can sense that the other person is not wanting to conversate w/ you,yeah, its kinda like that... So, I've tried to keep in contact w/ her...but no reciprocation from her...
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Originally Posted by Renegade
Don't confront her, and don't consider her as a potential girlfriend anymore. Just hit it.
If you have no feelings for her just get some free tail until you find someone that interests you. If you do have feelings for her move along. You will not overcome the power of the ex.
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i would suggest that you move on... just think of the potential problems this will give you in the future if you guys are officially together. Do you want more headache? Seems like she's a girl you couldn't trust.
There are a lot of fishes in the sea.
There are a lot of fishes in the sea.
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Update
Alright, so, I got a lil alcohol in me tonight and brought this issue up to her in text messages. So, basically, she's telling me that things were moving a little fast, and its not my fault because she had a big part in it too, but thats not the main reason, its just that she's been hanging out with a lot of new people and having fun and doing that makes her tink about how she's not really ready for a bf, she just feel like she shouldn't lead me on and get my hopes up if shes not ready.
So, I text her back and said "so, in a nutshell, you dont want things to get continue between us?"
She text back and said that its not that, and she just dont want to get caught up and rush with things, she need to stay focused and take her time.
And then basically, I asked her if she has found someone shes more attracted and not sure if she wants to continuing w/ me.
Then she text me back saying shes tired and continue it tomorrow morning.
So, I text her back and said "so, in a nutshell, you dont want things to get continue between us?"
She text back and said that its not that, and she just dont want to get caught up and rush with things, she need to stay focused and take her time.
And then basically, I asked her if she has found someone shes more attracted and not sure if she wants to continuing w/ me.
Then she text me back saying shes tired and continue it tomorrow morning.
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Originally Posted by coconut
Alright, so, I got a lil alcohol in me tonight and brought this issue up to her in text messages. So, basically, she's telling me that things were moving a little fast, and its not my fault because she had a big part in it too, but thats not the main reason, its just that she's been hanging out with a lot of new people and having fun and doing that makes her tink about how she's not really ready for a bf, she just feel like she shouldn't lead me on and get my hopes up if shes not ready.
So, I text her back and said "so, in a nutshell, you dont want things to get continue between us?"
She text back and said that its not that, and she just dont want to get caught up and rush with things, she need to stay focused and take her time.
And then basically, I asked her if she has found someone shes more attracted and not sure if she wants to continuing w/ me.
Then she text me back saying shes tired and continue it tomorrow morning.
So, I text her back and said "so, in a nutshell, you dont want things to get continue between us?"
She text back and said that its not that, and she just dont want to get caught up and rush with things, she need to stay focused and take her time.
And then basically, I asked her if she has found someone shes more attracted and not sure if she wants to continuing w/ me.
Then she text me back saying shes tired and continue it tomorrow morning.
sounds like she found somebody else and is letting you go gently. she's probably back with the ex.
shoulda took pics of her gobbling your manhood and post a link on his myspace page.
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Originally Posted by coconut
Alright, so, I got a lil alcohol in me tonight and brought this issue up to her in text messages. So, basically, she's telling me that things were moving a little fast, and its not my fault because she had a big part in it too, but thats not the main reason, its just that she's been hanging out with a lot of new people and having fun and doing that makes her tink about how she's not really ready for a bf, she just feel like she shouldn't lead me on and get my hopes up if shes not ready.
So, I text her back and said "so, in a nutshell, you dont want things to get continue between us?"
She text back and said that its not that, and she just dont want to get caught up and rush with things, she need to stay focused and take her time.
And then basically, I asked her if she has found someone shes more attracted and not sure if she wants to continuing w/ me.
Then she text me back saying shes tired and continue it tomorrow morning.
So, I text her back and said "so, in a nutshell, you dont want things to get continue between us?"
She text back and said that its not that, and she just dont want to get caught up and rush with things, she need to stay focused and take her time.
And then basically, I asked her if she has found someone shes more attracted and not sure if she wants to continuing w/ me.
Then she text me back saying shes tired and continue it tomorrow morning.
I got this excuse before though. Then, 2 weeks later, the same ex that told me she didn't want a bf right now and wanted to be single? She had a new boyfriend. She's using those lines to string you along in case things with someone else fail and you're pretty much second option.
Let it go. You're basically a game of pingpong right now.
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Originally Posted by DRM600
sounds like she found somebody else and is letting you go gently. she's probably back with the ex.
shoulda took pics of her gobbling your manhood and post a link on his myspace page.
shoulda took pics of her gobbling your manhood and post a link on his myspace page.
she is just letting you down gently, your probally a really nice, sweet guy and doesnt want to hurt your feelings. Shes probally been using her "chickenhead" on her new fun friends that shes been hanging around.I really dont see this as a lose for you, now you can go out and have fun with your friends.
Originally Posted by DRM600
sounds like she found somebody else and is letting you go gently. she's probably back with the ex.
shoulda took pics of her gobbling your manhood and post a link on his myspace page.
shoulda took pics of her gobbling your manhood and post a link on his myspace page.
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yeah forget her. Not worth your time. Girls do that shit all the time if you let them. If she's playing you, then you can either play her back or just ignore her all together, I'd personally just cut her off, not worth the trouble trying to get back at her.
Kind of off the topic but I heard this story about some golddigger who was just with this guy because he bought her anything she wanted. Little did she know that somehow he was using HER money to buy all that stuff without her even knowing it. Beat her at her own game!
Kind of off the topic but I heard this story about some golddigger who was just with this guy because he bought her anything she wanted. Little did she know that somehow he was using HER money to buy all that stuff without her even knowing it. Beat her at her own game!
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From: Alaska
Originally Posted by coconut
Man, I just can believe im being "played" by a chick, that shit is so fucking gay... I think my manhood meter went from 100% to about 30%...
Hit the gym to up that manhood meter.
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Originally Posted by coconut
Man, I just can believe im being "played" by a chick, that shit is so fucking gay... I think my manhood meter went from 100% to about 30%...
...the measure of your manhood is not whether or not you get knocked down, but how fast you get up and dust yourself off. So get up and dust yourself off and start enjoying college life, make this girl a distant memory, and maybe just maybe you'll find yourself hooking up with her on the side when you come home for breaks.
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Originally Posted by Mike 350Z
hey now ...the measure of your manhood is not whether or not you get knocked down, but how fast you get up and dust yourself off. So get up and dust yourself off and start enjoying college life, make this girl a distant memory, and maybe just maybe you'll find yourself hooking up with her on the side when you come home for breaks.
...the measure of your manhood is not whether or not you get knocked down, but how fast you get up and dust yourself off. So get up and dust yourself off and start enjoying college life, make this girl a distant memory, and maybe just maybe you'll find yourself hooking up with her on the side when you come home for breaks.
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Originally Posted by coconut
^^ohh nice!!!... never thought of that, lol... I've always wanted to try one of those "angry, breakup" kind of sex, lol.
If you want to stage a dramatic breakup, go for it. Might release some of your anger about her behavior by handing it back to her. And then, move on, man. Even at 19, life is to short to waste brooding over insolent and inconsiderate chicks.
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Originally Posted by coconut
Man, I just can believe im being "played" by a chick, that shit is so fucking gay... I think my manhood meter went from 100% to about 30%...
No, you need to realize how you came out on top here.
- You've been railing her for the past three months.
- Before you got too attached, you found out she's a slut.
- Chances are she'll come crying back to you once she's single again and you can road dog it a few more times without any time or energy investments before dumping her for good.
Always look at the positives
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I really thank all of you guys for being so supportive and helping me going thru this bs. Its really awesome that I can just come up here on Azine and re-read all of your comment whenever Im thinking about this hoebag, and it just makes everything alot easier. Serious props to all of you... Im young and I still have alotta shit to learn... but like the famous Dr. Dre says, "Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks". lol
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I read this a while ago in another forum and found it pretty funny. This can be said in many threads here in D&R.
We need to help these kids out here
For the sake of fuck I've just been browsing the forum and OHH MY GAWD what the fuck are we doing? Raising a pack of EMO homo douchecanoes or what?
Thread titles like,
Stay in the friend zone
Hot Chick should I just be her friend?
Younger guy older hotty, I cupper boob then felt sick so I went home
GROW SOME BALLS YOU BOYS
Listen it works like this
That dangly bit of skin you got hanging between your legs is there for not only urinating (which it seems most of you are doing with your lives)
When you see a hotty it's perfectly normal for it to get hard now for first timers this might make you feel a little confused and you might want to go home but rest assured if that milf is letting you grab her tits you're about 15 minutes away from sealing the deal.
There's no such thing as friend zone if there is you've blown your chance. Unless she gets drunk and feels sorry for your emo ass. Then in the morning she'll regret doing it and that'll be the end of the friendship anyway so you may as well tap it at first glance.
In my day if a female showed the slightest interest I'd be on her leg like a puppy on a pole.
Trust me guys you're all falling into the females perfect trap they keep you in the "friend zone" as a backup in case they can't get lucky elsewhere. This leaves you confused alone and horny.
Women think about sex more than men, this is true the only difference is that women don't talk about it as much as us guys do and the older the female the more chance you have of hittin it with less fuss.
Grow up guys, drink beer, fart in public, Belch, wear normal clothes and take it as any hole is a goal. You'll be happier for it.
For the sake of fuck I've just been browsing the forum and OHH MY GAWD what the fuck are we doing? Raising a pack of EMO homo douchecanoes or what?
Thread titles like,
Stay in the friend zone
Hot Chick should I just be her friend?
Younger guy older hotty, I cupper boob then felt sick so I went home
GROW SOME BALLS YOU BOYS
Listen it works like this
That dangly bit of skin you got hanging between your legs is there for not only urinating (which it seems most of you are doing with your lives)
When you see a hotty it's perfectly normal for it to get hard now for first timers this might make you feel a little confused and you might want to go home but rest assured if that milf is letting you grab her tits you're about 15 minutes away from sealing the deal.
There's no such thing as friend zone if there is you've blown your chance. Unless she gets drunk and feels sorry for your emo ass. Then in the morning she'll regret doing it and that'll be the end of the friendship anyway so you may as well tap it at first glance.
In my day if a female showed the slightest interest I'd be on her leg like a puppy on a pole.
Trust me guys you're all falling into the females perfect trap they keep you in the "friend zone" as a backup in case they can't get lucky elsewhere. This leaves you confused alone and horny.
Women think about sex more than men, this is true the only difference is that women don't talk about it as much as us guys do and the older the female the more chance you have of hittin it with less fuss.
Grow up guys, drink beer, fart in public, Belch, wear normal clothes and take it as any hole is a goal. You'll be happier for it.
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Originally Posted by FastAcura
I read this a while ago in another forum and found it pretty funny. This can be said in many threads here in D&R.
1919
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Originally Posted by FastAcura
I read this a while ago in another forum and found it pretty funny. This can be said in many threads here in D&R.
Nice article. And it's so true...kids these days are all little bitches
1919
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Originally Posted by coconut
^^^lol, but the things is that im about as far from emo as you can get, actually, I cannot stand emo kids back in my highschool...so, that post doesnt apply to me.
Nah, that article doesn't apply to you. You just got stuck in a situation that is weird for every guy the first time it happens (and it will happen again).
Just remember what I said before....always look at the positives and never waste your time dwelling on a girl when there is plenty of other hot chicks out there
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Update
Originally Posted by Scottman111
Nah, that article doesn't apply to you. You just got stuck in a situation that is weird for every guy the first time it happens (and it will happen again).
Just remember what I said before....always look at the positives and never waste your time dwelling on a girl when there is plenty of other hot chicks out there
Just remember what I said before....always look at the positives and never waste your time dwelling on a girl when there is plenty of other hot chicks out there
Originally Posted by coconut
Her bestfriend is also really good friends w/ me, and her bestfriend also knows the bitch's Myspace password, so, to help me out to see what is really going on, she logged on under that bitch's name for me so snoope around in the message box... So, after about 1 hour of intense reading, i guess it looks like that the ex-bf just currently broke up w/ his gf and now wants to get back with the bitch (<-- the chick i was supposedly talking to), and i guess she is falling for him again too... So, that bitch is a lost cause, well, atleast I get to hit, but I sure am going to miss that cute gargleling noise she makes when shes bobbing on my....you know.
No better way to get her back