Before the story heres a litle background.

I've known kelli for some odd 5 years, we've been best friends for a while. Im a guy she's a girl. She's the only person in the world i could tell ANYTHING and she'll never think bad of me. She knows EVERYTHING about me from allergies to fav foods, she's seen me butt ass naked, she knows and have seen everything about me.


Yesterday, Kelli and I were out at the mall shopping for some clothes. We came home from the mall and Kelli's mom offered me some food, I said yes and we all ate.

A few hours later Kelli's mom ran out to the casino and me and kelli were there watching television. She would always try to wrestle with me, because she thought mabey she could beat me i guess, or mabey she liked loosing. We got a GOOD MATCH in that day, and she tried to Pull on the couch to get away from me, i had a tight grip on her shorts which were some type of cottony material, and ripped them off. she kept trying to get away as if her clothes never came off and some how we like ended up Kissing. I honestly dont remember when how or what made me kiss her but we had a little makeout session. then a few minutes later, we had sex!

It may not seem like much to you fellas and ladies, however this is like the best friend i've ever had, and i dont think sex would ever help a FRIEND RELATIONSHIP OUT. after everything was said and done, I went home.

Today im actually at work at the moment. She usually calls me everyday, she hasnt today. I called her house and she didnt have much at all to say to me............

AT ALL .

what should i do??? i mean i can get ass from other girls easy, and I dont want to loose our perfect friendship over sex and i think its too late.. can someone help me out

 

She is just as guilty as you. Ask her wtf her problem is..I mean it's just sex for christs sake.

 

Didn't know flirting leads to sex, eh?

 

yea meet up with her and talk to her about it? then again im a so dont listen to me

 

For shame Killer...

 

I forgot to mention I'm her first.

 

oh, shit.

You're screwed.

 

well that does make it more interesting. she must like you to let you be her first. can you see yourself dating her, if so, give it a try, nothing really to lose at this point, you already did the derty.

 

sounds like its a perfect start to a good relationship...

 

ohhh shit, um dude i think your fucked. obviousely she wanted to have sex with you, and i think she actually likes you more then a friend. or maybe she is guilty just like you and is second guessing it. and u two where just caught up in the moment. talk to her about it asap.

 

as long as you protected yourselves... (did you?) it will work itself out. Just talk to her asap. She might be scared right now, and need you to re-asure her that things are gonna change drastically.

 

DAmn, sounds like an erotic movie.

Good job on the sex. Dude, of course she don't have much to say. Time for a real MAN to take action. Lead the way man. What does your heart tell you? Just say what you feel and act it out again. I'm sure she has feelings for you or she wouldn't of let you fuck.

keep us updated.

 

you took her v-card, get ready for attachment, thats not a bad thing persay, but it is if you dont like her that way. Then again, you kinda had to want to do it too, it couldn't be all her in this situation. If you could see yourself with her, then I think it would be a start of a good relationship. Best friends often do make the best relationships IMO.

 

is she girlfriend material?

 

I think what you do "now" will affect how she perceives "sex and men" in the future.

Think before you do/say anything that may hurt her. Good luck, man.

 

girls should not flirt with guys that are REALLY their friends...

i can honestly say there are 3 guys in my life that i have never flirted with, done anything with that i wouldn't do with a girl friend...
would i wrestle on a couch with my best girlfriend? no.. why? ... well, why would i? i don't feel the need to touch her, i don't need her to build up my ego by flirting with me etc...

girls that are like "we're SUCH GOOD friends, blah blah blah" then they're sitting on their lap and shit after 3 beer...i just gotta shake my head... i don't feel that that's RESPECTING your supposedly "so valuable friendship"

that isn't directed personally at you VITEK or your situation..i just wanted to say that for some reason....
back on topic,

so you don't wanna be her boyfriend, correct?

now she's acting awkward either because
a: she likes you and doesn't know where to go from here and feeling embarassed
or
b: doesn't like you that way, doesn't want you to get the wrong impression and is feeling embarassed about it..

either way, if the friendship is going to have a chance, you need to talk about...cause if you don't, it's gonna be the elephant in living room FOREVER...

 

ohhh shoot..

first eh? didn't see that part....

that changes EVERYTHING....

 

damn. this thread gave me a bonar.
was she in pain?

usually with a girl's first she is very hesitant...i'm sure she gave it LOTS of thought before she initiated anything with you

 

^ lol

who says you cant fuck your best friend and continue being best friends

 

Harry....

 

I used to have a male friend who always wanted to wrestle...yea that friendship ended reaaaaalllyyy quickly. I would have hated to be his first

 

In prison?

 

You just gave her your soul, you have to be with her since she knows everything about you.

Or you can just want to be friends make it awkward, end oddly and have her blackmale and stalk you.

I'm not saying this will def happen, but the possibility is very high.

You Lose.

 

keep on hitting it

 

could be the start of a wonderful and lasting relationship? if you want that

 

 

oh, have you watched Love and Basketball?

 

 

Yeah, watch out for that. I wouldn't be surprised if lots of wrestlers are gay. At least judging from the number of boners during the college matches...

 

OH SHIT! QUICK, you need to talk about it ASAP!! You need to do that in person. You can't just ignore the situation. She's probably freaked out of her mind right now. Talk, talk, TALK!

 

Wow! You made the jump from the friendship ladder to the sex ladder! I thought that was impossible. To top it off, you got a cherry!

 

Ok, Here's the deal.

Yes, I am single, Yes I'd love a girlfriend. NO I wouldnt mind HER being my new Girl, However Im too scared that. a RELATIONSHIP will mess up our friendship forever, I mean Couples get in arguments, (we did get in arguments anyway) They have more of an attachment to things that are said and done, she knows how i am too, I dont CHEAT; but I do flirt alot. She'd always tell me that I would never keep a girl if she found out how much i flirt, its like I gave her the Cryptonite and said "hold this for me"

Honestly, I just love her to death, and I'm used to being able to tell her anything and not being worried about her judging me or anything like that. I'm not sure if you guys know where i'm comming from, but its a big decision for me to make, I'd love to be with her for some reasons while other reasons it probably would be a bad idea.

She's sexy, ALOT more mature than other chicks i've dealt with She's VERY OPENMINDED so you can have a conversation about your opinions and she would always be able to relate to you. Its just TOO MANY THINGS TO LIST..


BTW: I did call her last night and talked to her for a little while. we had a normal conversation about things. Her tone was a little bit different, and at the end of our conversation she said " I love you" she did say that before mind you. She only said it if she was upset and I would come over to chill just to comfort her, or if she was sad and If i was there with her, she said it everyonce and a while to me, but this time before we hung up she said it, and i Paused for a second, said I love you too, and then asked if she was alright. She replied Yes, I'm fine. Just thinking about the other day. I said was something wrong? She said well not really, just a few things.... Where do we stand? and I said, I dont know where do you want to be with me. she told me she didnt know. and i told her to think about it because im open almost any way she wants to take it. she said ok, and right before we hung up again she called my name and said, "It still hurts" I Kind of chuckled, and said it should feel better soon, we kind of ended the conversation on that. but i still dont know what i should do.......

 

give her some time... girls need time.. you wouldnt want to mess up the great relationship you're having... take your time, let her know your position (i think you already did)

btw, LOL @ the part she said it still hurt

 

Hey Vitek, how old is this girl?

 

20

 

So let me get this straight she has seen you naked and starts "fights" with you? Sounds like she has been wanting this...

I wouldnt wrestle with a guy if I didnt want his hands all over me

 

Cute movie. Actually, one of my favorite songs ever is in that movie... Maxwell "This Womans Work"
what a great song....

 

Shes sore from the sex? Was she a virgin?

 

She was. and she's seen me naked before, she hasn't started fights when i was naked, she's just seen everything about me.

 

You taking her virginity makes the story a lot more intense. Sorry if I missed that you said that already.