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Old Mar 14, 2013 | 11:23 PM
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Ok, need advice

So I'm currently in the process of breaking up with my live in girlfriend of 4 years. She is moving out by the end of the month. No hard feelings all friendly.

I just took a flight to Puerto Rico alone for a little relaxation for a few days. On the way down, I was seated next to a lovely young woman who was very nice and very talkative. We hit it off. Like really well.

Towards the end of the flight she asks if I wanted to hang tomorrow night, I said sure. Did I mention she is engaged to be MARRIED next month? Did I mention she is engaged to be married to a guy who works in my company? Although, they both live on the west coast and I live on the east coast.

To make it further complicated, we just had a late night chat on the phone. She is currently like 10 minutes away at her family's house and I'm at my hotel. We talked about nonsense but then the conversation got sexual. She pretty much hinted that she really likes me and that it might be dangerous to hang out tomorrow night. I asked why (of course I know why) and she just giggled and said " oh boy lets change the subject"

Cliffs: met a girl who is about to get married and there is a 90% chance I could hit it and never see her again. Should I do it?

Ps- my relationship has been sexless for about 6 months. And I could really use this. Lol
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 12:45 AM
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Uhh... someone's fiancee?

No.
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 12:51 AM
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 06:00 AM
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DON'T DO IT.......












...Unless you plan on taking nudez, then go for it. Here, I'll make it easy for you and start a list

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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 07:54 AM
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Hit it and quit it.
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 09:39 AM
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Don't shit where you eat. Find some nice Puerto Rican to bang.
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 09:57 AM
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You probably wouldn't be the first or last, so I wouldn't worry about you being solely responsible for ruining their marriage or anything... Seems like she's already intent on that. Hoe fa sho - hit it.
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 10:34 AM
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she's hurtin' for a squirtin'

do it and pm nudes.

who initiated teh sexual talk? but yea if the fiance ever finds out...could make work life difficult. do you actively work with him or you two are just in the same company but different divisions?
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 10:56 AM
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If you do this, we expect pics and lots of them.. AkuraCLS style.
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 10:56 AM
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I'm gonna admit I'm kinda torn on this but common sense says no. Don't do it.The fact alone that her fiancee works in the same company as you could have serious repercussions down the line. not to mention karma.

On the flip side, sounds like she shouldn't be getting tied down in the first place. If you're thinking about it, you likely have crossed that boundary and you should just do it and get it over with. but I'd say go out with a bang and get nudes. it'll be a one-nighter for you and might as well get some good memories.
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 11:25 AM
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 01:21 PM
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Once a whore, always whore. Do you want to sleep with a whore?
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 01:23 PM
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Yolo
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 06:20 PM
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 06:35 PM
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Stay away, for this has an extremely high risk of ending is disaster.
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 06:35 PM
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Karma is a bitch.

Don't get teh herpes. That is all.
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 07:00 PM
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You should always ask yourself, how would you feel if you were in that guys position and you found out your woman slept with another man?

Would you really want that lingering in your mind for the rest of your life?

I can't believe you are/were actually considering this.
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 07:03 PM
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Originally Posted by hairymonkey019
you should always ask yourself, how would you feel if you were in that guys position and you found out your woman slept with another man?

Would you really want that lingering in your mind for the rest of your life?

I can't believe you are/were actually considering this.
qft.
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 09:13 PM
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Couple points....

You're single. She's hot. You seem attracted to her and she to you. You will not likely have any future with her. Normally I would say go for it. She sounds like the PERFECT rebound girl.

On the flip side....if she is engaged to be married and will try to get some on the side with you, what's to say that she hasn't with someone else.

You ask me....I would leave it alone. Or wrap the hell out of it.
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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 10:56 PM
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If this guy's fiancee is hinting at cheating on him, its better she do it now than do it when she marries the guy.

Save the guy and sleep with his fiancee so that she doesn't do it when she is his wife.

Originally Posted by ravinjcls
couple points....

You're single. She's hot. You seem attracted to her and she to you. You will not likely have any future with her. Normally i would say go for it. She sounds like the perfect rebound girl.

On the flip side....if she is engaged to be married and will try to get some on the side with you, what's to say that she hasn't with someone else.

You ask me....i would leave it alone. or wrap the hell out of it.
This!

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Old Mar 15, 2013 | 11:09 PM
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Stay away. Let some other dude carry the karma of knowingly cheating.
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Old Mar 16, 2013 | 03:17 AM
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If she is engaged to a guy at work you dont like, then yes. And PM me with the pics.
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Old Mar 16, 2013 | 09:18 AM
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So, what happened?
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Old Mar 16, 2013 | 09:43 AM
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You run out and get her breakfast or just leave before she woke up?

I hope you pulled something cool, like the raccoon (pull out and give her a raccoon mask and knock over her trash as you run out) or something.
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Old Mar 16, 2013 | 10:35 AM
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Don't do it. This one has a high risk of following you around since her soon to be husband works for the same company. Eventually she will tell him, and eventually he will find you. I'd look at the situation as if evenyone will eventually know (and they will). So when he knows, and when the woman you will eventually be seeing (and really like) knows you knowingly slept with someone's fiancee, ask yourself if that drama is worth it.

Also, women who sleep with strangers that easily are high risk. Do you really want to mess with whatever disease some guy has undoubtedly given her already?

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Old Mar 16, 2013 | 10:48 AM
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Originally Posted by akplaya92
If this guy's fiancee is hinting at cheating on him, its better she do it now than do it when she marries the guy.

Save the guy and sleep with his fiancee so that she doesn't do it when she is his wife.



This!
If someone is going to cheat on you, there is not a GD thing you can do about it. If she's gonna do it, he's got no way of controlling her actions...
However, there is soooooo much pussy in the world, why would you want someone elses? Let's hope he took the high road.
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Old Mar 16, 2013 | 03:03 PM
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If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't meet up with her. The fact that she's about to be married in a month is enough reason for me to stay away from her. Add the fact that her fiancee is working for the same company?! Hell, no. Even though you guys live in separate coasts, there's a possibility she'll feel guilty one day and confess to him. Then what if he tells a friend at work?

Besides, she sounds like a trouble maker.
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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 01:32 AM
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You can do whatever you want man, no one can tell you to do anything.

But coming from me, I would never do that. I am a huge believer in karma. I don't know whether it's actual karma or just coincidence, but I have seen karma unfold itself in front of my eyes countless times.

If you're sexually deprived and just wanting to have some fun, think about it: you hit it on with a random chick, on a plane, going to Puerto Rico. What makes you think you won't hit it on with another chick that isn't engaged? I am not preemptively calling you this, but I would never want to label myself as a homewrecker. I can't live with that in the back of my head.
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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 04:51 AM
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Are you still alive?
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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 06:30 AM
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I'm sure he's alive. Maybe missing a kidney or has herpes but alive.
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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 07:36 PM
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she wants the D. Do it.
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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 07:59 PM
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Do it.

Karma? Psst. Can't live life without taking chances. Either do it or tell her fiancé... Or you can do it and then tell her fiancé. A win win
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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 08:18 PM
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Wow^ Worst date/love advice I've ever heard. Commit a morally wrong act, then get the shit beat out of yourself.

Hmm, have you ever been laid 503?
Signs point to NO.

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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 08:37 PM
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He did it....



and he is no longer with us.

Would be fuckin hilarious if the fiancee was on Azine.
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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 08:38 PM
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So, did you slip her the stiff one eye or what?
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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 08:47 PM
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Of course you never know what the girl looks like, she could be so hot that even the best of us couldn't resist. Or she could be shopping here:

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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 09:19 PM
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I only see it fine if it is a cuckold type of thing
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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 10:14 PM
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Originally Posted by RaviNJCLs
I'm sure he's alive. Maybe missing a kidney or has herpes but alive.


He's in a bathtub somewhere full of ice... Or he's still tied to the bed.
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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 11:03 PM
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Lmao sorry guys im alive!
Got caught up in the fun and sun down here

I'll post an update when back home Tuesday
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Old Mar 17, 2013 | 11:11 PM
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How was she?
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