I second that karma is a bitch and you and the new girl are going to get yall. The so called "best friend" should have had more respect for her "best friend" than to be fucking around with your ass. You should have had more respect for the current girlfriend than to fuck around with her "best friend". Both of yall are bitches, lack morals, and are pieces of shit for even going after each other. You said that they haven't been best friends in a while that's why if you are always with her so call "best friend".

 

I guess posting a story like that on the internet is not the best idea.. it's just good to vent once in a while.. but none of you know me neither do you know my gf / friend so you cant judge us/the situation...

Calling us POS bitches with no morals is just plain stupid though.


Have a good day.

 

I'd be pissed too, but I would try to understand and find out why it happened. It's not right to keep on going in a relationship that goes nowhere and with which you're not comfortable anymore. Staying with someone just because you are afraid of what will happen if you leave her is another way of not being honest. I'd rather get it over and go on with my life than being stuck in a relationship that will not bring me anything more than sadness and worries.

It might not be the way you guys see it, but I'm the one involved in this whole situation and that's the way I see things. It doesnt matter to me what people say, I'm doing what I think is best for me.

I've made mistakes, but what's been done's done and I cant rewind and start again. I now have to live with the consequences of my actions. I gotta be a man and stand up for what I did. I'm sure you'll all be glad if I come back in a few weeks/months and say I fucked up... but oh well.. good for me, I guess.

 

You hit the nail on the head B. OF COURSE people are gonna judge y'all/the situation. That's the whole idea of posting something on a PUBLIC forum, let alone something this controversial.

At the end of the day, you have to do what makes you happy, but karma is a mutha...

 

You post this story on here what did you expect you said to flame you and I did. Yeah you are right we don't know you or know your current girl friend so called "best friend" but we can judge the situation and you because you post this tread and put it out there. What did you expect, for us to be all on your side and for us to be rooting you on? You just don't do stuff like this you will realize this when not this girl but another girl comes around and you love her and then she dump you for your best friend. Or better yet you propose to a girl and she dump you for your best man, imagine how crushed you will be. Always remember what goes around come around.

 

Ya, karma is definitely a bitch...

i'm with the other ppl that say you should break up with your girl and handle that as a seperate issue than hooking up with her best friend... even tho ur not gonna do that... just be prepared for a really ugly ending...

oh ya and post pics

 

I am pretty sure it has been said but in case it hasnt

the relationship with the best friend is going to be short and rocky or long and rocky...she will never trust you since you left her friend you might leave her and she will always think like that.

 

Ill have "not agree" with you. Maybe its just in how youre analyzing it.

First off, the best friend isnt really that. If anything, this girl is going to get two people who care more about themselves (not necessarily a bad thing) than her out of her life. Nothing worse than counting on someone to be there and then in the worst case scenario they arent.

Secondly, the guy isnt happy. Who cares how he got to that point. Who cares if it happens with the next girl 9 months from now...but getting the girlfriend off his rollercoaster is good FOR HER. She wont have to waste another day with someone who doesnt care about her. Woo hoo!

This is coming from personal experience. I dumped a guy who made a mistake (definitely breakup worthy), then dated one of his friends 2 weeks later. My "best friend" went with the crowd one one occassion (a particularly important one for me) and sided with him. She refused to apologize appropriately (it was more like, sorry but thats how shit is). I havent seen her since.

My philosophy: Sure it sucked, but ultimately Im better off. I got rid of a guy who wasnt 100% with me and a "best friend" who wasnt as concerned for my feelings as I thought she was. Sure, it took me a couple years to realize it all, but shit. It was worth it.

Youre well aware of the drama that will ensue. Just dont be surprised about it and DEFINITELY be the better man during it.

 

I did not come here looking for sympathy... but I did not come to be called a piece of shit...

JJ4Short: I dont think trust will be an issue.. cuz we discussed the matter many many times and she knows how I am and what kind of guy I am... the same goes for me... I'm not worried about that.

Let me sum it up:

1. i will be happier
2. in the long run my gf will be happier
3. life will go on

Have a good day people!

 

I agree with Saki. Ultimately, it's best for both you and your girl to part ways for the reasons already mentioned. What we are just stressing here is for you not to have high expectations about retaining the friendship. Be prepared not only for the reaction of your gf, but also for the criticism from family and friends.

So when are you planning to talk to your gf?

 

so then u came here for...??

i think you hit the nail on the head when you said this story isn't for posting on an online forum, because all we do here is voice (type) our opinions on stuff... so you have to expect that people here will tell you what they think...

 

Well said. However, if this is what you want then don't be selfish enough to expect her to still be your friend and confidant. There is little chance that you will get both. IMO, to even want that is unfair to your soon to be ex-girlfriend and soon to be girlfriend. Chances are those girls will never really care to talk much after you "make the switch." And I'm almost sure that the new gf will be extremely jeolous and pissed off if you talk to your ex.

Good luck. I think you'll need it.

 

Fixed.

 

Yeh, wear extra padding. 19 year old girls can be really full of energy when shit like this happens. On second thought, carry some extra condoms too.

 

I am not expecting her to want to remain friend with me... I'm just hoping... I will totally understand her if she doesnt want to talk to me ever again...

I will be very happy if she wants to be friends with me again...


I'm planning to talk to her like tomorrow... or maybe tonight...

oh btw, the "new" GF also wants to remain friends with her... and she wants me to remain friends with her, too... but we all know it's gonna be hard...

cibs: i understand what you're sayin... it makes sense... but just like you i can express my opinion and disagree with what people say!

thank y'all for "listening".

 

Just please be sure to post the outcome. This will be good. Might I also suggest bringing the new GF with you to have this chat?

 

Having your cake and eating it too is not likely in this situation.

You and "best friend" = fucked

 

I'll keep you posted...

 

I think you owe it to the current gf to make it a clean break... period. If you keep any contact at all, she's going to go one of two ways:

1. She'll do her best to win you back - obsess about every conversation - and most importantly, take forever to get you out of her system

2. Do everything she can to show you that she's over you and on to other guys. She'll probably do things she'll later regret (that you won't like either).

You have to stop seeing her and talking to her. She'll hate you more in the near term, but trust me... it will be better for everyone. If you do stay with the "best friend", she should break off contact too. Otherwise, your gf may just do #2 above anyway and make sure you know about it.

 

Hey Justin....

Sounds like you've done a lot of thinking about what will be best for your happiness. Just remember that not only will your girlfriend have to hear you say you don't want to be with her anymore, she's going to have to swallow that the person you DO want to be with is someone she trusted and found friendship in. That'll make it EXTRA hard for her to deal with, especially all at once. Understand, expect, and allow her to be horribly angry, sad, hurt, betrayed.... Remember, she'll be dealing with the loss of TWO people she trusted to be there for her and care for her... IMO, don't even bother making known the thought of wanting to stay friends with her --- she won't want to even hear it, especially at this point (it's like a slap in the face). Of couse, I always think the more mature thing to do is break off one relationship before starting another, but as you've said, you can't change what's already happened. Good luck, and keep us posted!

 

I will take around a week "off" before really engaging into/confirming another relationship...

Im going away for the weekend so I'll have plenty of time to make the point on this whole situation that's going on in my life...

 

Maybe the two of them are just testing you to see if you would cheat on her and are using her best friend as bait. Watch out, you might end up with nothing.

 

someone pointed that out already but im sure it's not the case... cuz i doubt they'd fake crying and everything... plus they wouldve ditched me already... it's really something serious.

 

I wouldn't put anything pass a chick that's OK with cheating with guy that's dating her best friend. But that's just me.

 

 

Firstly :ghey: for using love so many damn times in your first post. You're 19, and leaving some broad for her best friend, seems like could be good if you get them really drunk and maybe they will make up and hug and kiss one another. Then 3some FTW.

You just basically took a shit, ate it, threw it up and are about to eat it again.

If I were you I would watch out for these 2 hoes, anything is possible.

 

ive read all this and i can only think of a few things

1) i have a feeling your gf isnt going to be as nice about this as you think..not only are you leaving her for another woman.. its her best friend

2)speaking of which, she has the added hurt that her supposed best friend has started a relationship with her boyfriend.. and while you two arent official yet, the fact that shes even discussed the possibility of a relationship with you while you and her best friend were together is heinous.

3) might want to keep an eye on the new girl since she seems to have no problem disregarding others for herself.

 

gotta see what the Ex and the new GF looks like

 

whatever man

 

god damn man post pics already

 

so i did it... tore her apart, i could hear her crying when i left her place.. but she did not go nuts on me... she just seemed scared to be left on her own... i explained myself and i think she understood... we'll see how things will go... i clearly told her that i wanted to remain friends with her and everything... i think she feels the same.. but i dont know yet... we'll see after a few days/weeks....

it's now time for me to move on with my life...

 

Did you tell her who you were leaving her for?

 

yes I did. You're either honest or you're not, I chose to be.

 

congratulations...



you're still a douche bag and the fact that you have no shame for such douche bagginess is appalling.

karma is a bitch and you'll get what's coming to you when some broad plays you like a sega.

 

Care to share what she said after you told her about your decision?

 

Stop with the insulting names. No need for it.

 

Apparently the clensing of D&R isn't quite complete...

:ibtheban:

 

I still think even if she seemed OK at first, allbeit crushed, you're probably in for some serious drama.

 

late to this thread but....

some best friend. you have a lot of growing up to do. break up with her and never try and contact her again...you'll be doing her a favor.

 

Well said.