Never thought in a million years
Princelybug has it right, if you continue to call you'll look like a desperate puppy dog. Women don't find that attractive.
You've asked a couple of times, the ball is in her court. Ditch her number, and continue to live your life filled with exciting things. When you do run into her again at the bank, tease and flirt!!!!!!!
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^ I dont think these questions matter.
you will only start to think..."what did i do wrong?" and then get into the puppy dog syndrome of calling and calling and calling......which equates to Lame, and stalkerish.
On your amusement park date, I don't think you built up the attraction enough. there has to be some flirting, and physical contact going on.
you didn't do anything that made you stand out from the joe schmoes.
Here's a little secret.
Have you ever seen Goodfellas, where the main character (forgot his name) leads his date into the crowded club? He puts his hand on the small of her back, letting her know that he's there. That's a pretty intimate spot, and you'll know right away if she accepts your touch or not.
you will only start to think..."what did i do wrong?" and then get into the puppy dog syndrome of calling and calling and calling......which equates to Lame, and stalkerish.
On your amusement park date, I don't think you built up the attraction enough. there has to be some flirting, and physical contact going on.
you didn't do anything that made you stand out from the joe schmoes.
Here's a little secret.
Have you ever seen Goodfellas, where the main character (forgot his name) leads his date into the crowded club? He puts his hand on the small of her back, letting her know that he's there. That's a pretty intimate spot, and you'll know right away if she accepts your touch or not.
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^ I dont think these questions matter.
you will only start to think..."what did i do wrong?" and then get into the puppy dog syndrome of calling and calling and calling......which equates to Lame, and stalkerish.
On your amusement park date, I don't think you built up the attraction enough. there has to be some flirting, and physical contact going on.
you didn't do anything that made you stand out from the joe schmoes.
Here's a little secret.
Have you ever seen Goodfellas, where the main character (forgot his name) leads his date into the crowded club? He puts his hand on the small of her back, letting her know that he's there. That's a pretty intimate spot, and you'll know right away if she accepts your touch or not.
you will only start to think..."what did i do wrong?" and then get into the puppy dog syndrome of calling and calling and calling......which equates to Lame, and stalkerish.
On your amusement park date, I don't think you built up the attraction enough. there has to be some flirting, and physical contact going on.
you didn't do anything that made you stand out from the joe schmoes.
Here's a little secret.
Have you ever seen Goodfellas, where the main character (forgot his name) leads his date into the crowded club? He puts his hand on the small of her back, letting her know that he's there. That's a pretty intimate spot, and you'll know right away if she accepts your touch or not.
^it seems pretty clear to me, he asked twice and both times "Busy"
the ball is in her court.
Create attraction and she'll call back.
In the movie Swingers , Vince Vaghn and Jon Favreau are in the casino and are talking to the waitress, Vince creates attraction by being an ass to the waitress, they eventually go back to her trailer home!
the ball is in her court.
Create attraction and she'll call back.
In the movie Swingers , Vince Vaghn and Jon Favreau are in the casino and are talking to the waitress, Vince creates attraction by being an ass to the waitress, they eventually go back to her trailer home!
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Miz, lesson #1
Women are indecisive, welcome to the party.
Give her a few days to become unbusy and then see if she wants to schedule something or not.
Women are indecisive, welcome to the party.
Give her a few days to become unbusy and then see if she wants to schedule something or not.
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Have you ever seen Goodfellas, where the main character (forgot his name) leads his date into the crowded club? He puts his hand on the small of her back, letting her know that he's there. That's a pretty intimate spot, and you'll know right away if she accepts your touch or not.
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OK - before I offer advice, I need to find out what your amusement park date was like, and as many details as you can remember about the interaction that led to that date. I'll need details like who asked who out, what made you think of taking her to an amusement park, how long were you chatting her up at your work before this date was arranged, did you meet her there or pick her up, what sort of conversations did you get into at the amusement park, did you make any moves whatsoever, etc.
wait....
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OK - before I offer advice, I need to find out what your amusement park date was like, and as many details as you can remember about the interaction that led to that date. I'll need details like who asked who out, what made you think of taking her to an amusement park, how long were you chatting her up at your work before this date was arranged, did you meet her there or pick her up, what sort of conversations did you get into at the amusement park, did you make any moves whatsoever, etc.
well she asked me first to go with her friends, then she said she couldnt go because she had work, so i stepped in and said "why dont we go together on your day off"
probably chatted up about 2 weeks before that "date"
i picked her up at her place.
i mostly asked questions about her.
moves...
.... 
i guess shared a moment in one of those sky view rotating tower thing. 
im sure i failed here..
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The problem most men have is... they just plain straight up have no clue how to talk to women. Just ask a question, okay? That's it. Because women do not care about what you have to say... at all anyway, you know. And all they want to do is talk about themselves. So you're just gonna let them do that. Okay? So remember. Questions, be cool, and be kind of a dick. Here, be David Caruso in Jade.
love that movie.
That is one of the busiest jobs out there. Restaurant managers work ridiculous hours. I would just keep at it enough to not be a stalker. But if she doesn't seem like she is willing to make time for a dinner or something then you are smart to move on.
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its been too long, if she really wants to hang out with you she'd make the time. the whole *busy* thing is bs. I could be busy as hell and if i want to go out Ill make time.
the ball is in her court, you made your point, now leave her alone and let her make the move. anything else, and you'll look desperate.
the ball is in her court, you made your point, now leave her alone and let her make the move. anything else, and you'll look desperate.
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its been too long, if she really wants to hang out with you she'd make the time. the whole *busy* thing is bs. I could be busy as hell and if i want to go out Ill make time.
the ball is in her court, you made your point, now leave her alone and let her make the move. anything else, and you'll look desperate.
the ball is in her court, you made your point, now leave her alone and let her make the move. anything else, and you'll look desperate.
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its been too long, if she really wants to hang out with you she'd make the time. the whole *busy* thing is bs. I could be busy as hell and if i want to go out Ill make time.
the ball is in her court, you made your point, now leave her alone and let her make the move. anything else, and you'll look desperate.
the ball is in her court, you made your point, now leave her alone and let her make the move. anything else, and you'll look desperate.
today i flat out disappeared when she showed up (only because i was off to lunch when she came in)
she sent me a message saying "are you not talking to me anymore?"
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I don't know that I'd waste 2 seconds on a woman that treated me with indifference. I'd talk with her if you saw her, but stop asking her out. I agree with sixsixfour - if I was really into someone I'd either make the time, or give a much better explanation as to why I'm busy and make an effort to schedule something. "We'll see" to me is as good as "no thanks".
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miz what are you looking for with this girl? hook up or a relationship? if youre just looking to hook up play with her mind do the push and pull routine give her attention then back off. drive her nuts. if its more than that be you, be genuine, just dont pursue her if she shows indifference.