K guys...so heres my story. i met a girl over a year ago..we talked...we hung out..we hit it off! we would hang out all the time and constantly talk. one day..it just stopped out of nowhere..no calls, no texts, no nothing. and then she decides to call me a few days later. and well i liked her..she kenw it..bvut she lbew it off and gave me the holw "your my best friend" im like..umm ok..so i elft it at that..shes my "best friend" now. so i dated aorund and got with this new girl..great girl..things went great until the lies began..my "best friend" got mad at this new girl and said she wasnt good enuff for me and all this stuff.

so me and the new girl broke up..and me and my "best friend" hung out more..and one day she told me "i was dumb..i shud have gotten with you..your the guy for me and the one i wanna be with" and the next day shes like "your my best friend..i dont wanna ruin that" and then she said that she wud think things over and let me know on her bday..it passed this friday and she brushed it off..today she emailed me and told me that the reason being was that she had looked through my phone and saw some "pictures" of me and my ex girlfriend..and that she cudnt get that out of her head..

so my questions are.

1. is she being dramatic? i mean she gave me the run around for a year and so i moved on

2. am i wrong for having the pics on my phone still

3. im over my ex..but she says the pictures say otherwise....do u guys think this is a reaosn for her to think this?

well im prolly gonna get bashed..but i know i will get many different opinions on here..thanks in advance guys

 

thats ridicoulous. you were single.....she had her chance, what does she expect you not to see anyone?

Shes being immature, and either she gets over it, and hopes you take her back after she dicked you around, or go find someone on the same page as you, b/c she clearly aint.

 

1. English owns you. Spell check should be available on Azine.

2. Post those pics before we go any further.

3. It sounds like your "best friend" does have feelings for you. The problem is that it took you hooking up with some other chick for her to realize it. Not always a bad thing.

However, to me she does seem a bit dramatic, so you may need to decide if she will stay dramatic in a relationship.

Either way, I don't know how you are going to remain "best friends" since if you hook up, it will change your relationship. And if you don't then she is probably going to feel a bit offended. Especially since she knows that you liked her in the past.

Good luck.

 

Sounds like she wants to keep you around for those times when she isn't dating anyone else. Quite selfish, unfortunately not uncommon.

 

1. lmao..i knew i should have read it over b4 posting..haha


2. pm? nws...pm when im off work if anyone is interested

3. yepp she likes me..i liked/still like her..and well shes not drama at all..just acting dumb about the pics she saw...saying how she cant look at me the same anymore

 

thats what i figured too..becuase when i liked it..she would date around..and when i got with my girl..she wasnt dating anyone and got mad becuase i had no time for her. good point!


thanks for all the great advice so far guys, keep it coming

 

Personally, I don't see this ending well. You havn't even started dating and she is already complaining about your ex?

 

yea thats what i dont get...i told her i liked her a while back..she brushed it off..i moved on..i got with my girl..she got mad..i broke up with my girl..she says she likes me and wants to be with me..then she brushes it off as if she neevr told me a thing..and now..she says its cuz of the pics.

 

its becuase she saw some "pics" of me and my ex..and says that it means im not over her if i still have them on my phone

 

dope, continue to do you man. be happy and explore new things. if your so called "best friend" wants more down the road then i'm sure she'll make it abundantly clear. i think you've done well enough so far. no need to pause your life because she feels like thinking about things

 

that has got to be the clearest, easiest reply yet..you are right..theres no need for me to stop and elt her think..she did enough thinking..she had her chance..and now i will do me and mod my car!

girls+ trying to mod car=FTL! lol

 

Yes, but what is she getting at? My guess is she wants you to reassure her by telling her "oh, it was actually you I always wanted, I'll get those pictures right off there and never look at another woman again, bla, bla, bla"

If you are the type who dosn't mind CONSTANTLY reassuring a girl, then she may be the right one for you. I am not that type.

 

It sounds like she's one of those girls who doesn't necessarily want you for herself, but doesn't want your attention drifting to someone else either. Granted there could be more to this story, but from what you've said, that's my read.

I suspect that as soon as you start seriously dating someone else, she's going to teeter back to the "hmm, maybe we really could have something" camp, just to test her control.

 

PM said pics

Look bro, if she's in to you at this point and you're into her, and now that you're single it should be a no brainer. If she doesn't realize that she's your EX and is feeling too insecure that's really her problem. And if you don't want to deal with that drama then don't pursue it. Easy as that man. Do what's best for you. IF you want her, take her. IF she wants to think about things and you don't want to wait, don't wait.

 

and i agree with wndrlst, Girls like that are just stringing you a long and putting you in their back pocket only to use you when they are ready to...

 

PM said pics.

I would say go for it. What do you have to lose. I would say all the women I was friends with, had feelings for and we remained friends are all women I no longer speak to anyways.

I dated a lot of girls I was friends with first. Some of those relationships were good, some weren't. And one I call wifey.

 

What was she doing looking through your phone anyway? Did you give her permission. Snooping is a big fat

 

You know what, a lot of people are insecure. Women and men. If you go into a relationship thinking that her insecurity is going to make her into a crazy girl friend, then I recommend you just stay at home and wack it to porn.

Live a little. All you have to do is reassure her. And either it works or not.

Like I said before, I think your "best friend" status is probably done anyways. Either you date this chick or you will drift apart as friends. I just don't see how you will remain friends if you say NO to her and date someone else.

 

I'm not a fan of that either. I had one ex go through my phone and ask about every woman on there.

 

You should have never agreed to the "best friends" thing.

 

PM sent. Pics please.

I would say give it a shot. If she was your "best friend" she wouldn't just start ignoring you regardless. She's just acting her age. I don't see you losing much out of this except a "best friend."

 

yes to the PM. and yes you should dump her as a friend/gf/associate/whatever.

 

the best friends thing just kinda happened..and well she says she wants me..but shes not talking to me right now..she just texted me saying she doesnt want to talk to me and that she needs "time alone." i waited a year and she kept me around to only say that she wanted to be my "best friend" now a year later shes coming at me with this..after i had a girlfriend and dated several others...she says shes very disappointed at what she saw..and well she had no business looking throuhg my phone..guess it just happened..she wa laying on my bed..i got up to go to the livingroom and she looked through it..i told her she had no business looking through it in the first place..but what's done is done..

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glad i could help. hopefully i can stray you away from making a mistake that i had to deal with

 

Are the pics on your phone the NWS ones? I can understand her seeing those and getting a bit miffed about it.

Regardless, she seems to be just using you as a fall back. She wants you there when she wants you, but isn't necessarily there when you want her. If you really think she's worth persuing, give her one last opportunity to put the ex thing behind her and give a relationship a chance. If you don't think she's worth it, she doesn't want to get together right now or can't get over the ex, then she never really wanted you enough and you are better off without her in your life.

 

Thanks again!

anyone else wanna chime in with some advice?

 

yep the pics are on my phone

 

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I dont really have any advice, as that we are about the same age, and I probably know as much as you do.

 

Its cool..lol pm ya later

 

PM?

 

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You're 20... i'm not much older but from what i've learned... Date while you still can... have your fun... with her or without her... just don't get too serious just yet... be her "best friend" maybe when you two are a bit older (tired of partying and such) then you can see if both of you are ready to settle down...

Until then... Yes she is being dramatic and selfish... which in turn is acting her age...


Have fun...

Oh... and the pics shouldn't matter, since she is still not in a relationship with you... Best friends don't care who's pics you have on your phone... or who's phone number etc... If she was your GF... different story...

 

she's just acting her age..... Live your life to the fullest





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dope, is the pic you're sending us of your ex, your best friend, or one of each. another piece of advice, MAKE SURE SHE DOESN'T FIND HER WAY TO THIS THREAD

 

Listen to more rap.

 

my ex..and she will never find her way to this thread..she hated my obsession with my car..and didnt know i was on the forums..pm's on the way!

 

all pms sent

 

PM please!

Since we all are pretty young, just dump her and have fun with many girls (one at a time though..), gain as much experience as possible. She sounds pretty insecure to me. Good luck!

 

dope, pictures dont work for me

 

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