My wife and my side chick aka my tl
04-07-2010 | 09:52 AM
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From: Waffles, BU
04-07-2010 | 09:57 AM
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Dear Billy,
This is your "wife" writing. Please note I am using this term loosely, because at the end of this letter, this will no longer be the case.
First of all, why are you putting our business on the internet? I have asked you and told you repeatedly that what happens to us is BETWEEN us. Clearly, your little plan to gain support backfired. Most of the people who commented on this thread AGREED WITH ME. The funny thing, is that they haven't even heard my side of the story.
So, since you insist on insulting me, I must insist on defending myself. Let's get a few things clear. When you are good, you are the greatest man I know. But ever since our child has been born, you have been nothing but a selfish idiot.
You are not the father of the year, so stop giving people the impression that you take care of her because I do all the work. She is 8 months old and I have been taking care of her ever since she was born. True, there was a month that you helped out because I called you a deadbeat dad, and you did take care of her after she was born because I had a C Section, but beyond that, the only time you take care of her is when you absolutely have to. Otherwise, you would rather pay for a sitter to do the job so you can spend your day online or working on your stupid car.
Which, incidentally, is under my name. Don't forget that.
Furthermore, the problem we have is not about the car. It is about your order of importance. Every time you have to take the car in for maintenance, I don't object. When you need to buy things that the car NEEDS, I don't object. But when you want to waste your money on frivolous items when you know we need to spend money on other things, LIKE YOUR CITIZENSHIP SO YOU CAN GET A DAMN JOB! then I have a problem. I think your peers would agree with me.
I love you more than any person I have ever loved in my life, but you are impossible to live with. I am working over 50 hours a week, I am taking 18 credits in school, and I am raising our daughter when I am not doing one or the other. All you do is work as a bouncer 3 nights a week. Dude, get real.
Why is it wrong that I want you to spend time with me, with us? When did I become a bitch because I want you in our life? Being in a relationship means sacrifice. Contrary to what you wrote, the "$13K worth of sh*t" that is in my closet was acquired BEFORE YOU CAME INTO THE PICTURE. I got that on my own. There is a reason why I don't have any new designer handbags, I have something much more valuable to me: MY DAUGHTER!!!
And, FYI, you are obligated to tell me what you are doing with your time and your money. I have a right to know where you are in case of emergency. Your "movements" as you call them are not what matters. What matters is that I know that you are safe and plan on coming home, because believe it or not I care about what happens to you. At least, I did.
In the end, I am sorry it came to this. I am sorry you felt that you had to talk to complete strangers about our problems instead of me. I am also sorry that this isn't going to work anymore, because I really do love you.
Perhaps next time you shouldn't leave your AcuraZine account logged on for me to view it. I have already opened up my own AcuraZine account, so if you delete this post, I will simply repost it under my own.
Hopefully with the next girl, you will have learned your lesson because I am tired of trying to raising you into being a man.
"And I'm on to the next one...."
Good Luck,
Rachel
P.S. Thank you to all that offered support. These last few months have been very challenging to me and it very endearing to see that I have the support of strangers. For those of you that have met us, I apologize that you had to see this. This kind of behavior is not appropriate. We are not legally married, and he has been given the option many times to leave if he is so unhappy.
I look forward to seeing the replys on this!!! FYI, if you do catch me on AcuraZine in the future (as I prefer to spend my free time with my daughter and not the internet), you will find me under MDX. Have to upgrade to a bigger car for the baby and dogs!
And don't worry about me. I will be fine. It isn't the first time the man I relied on showed me that he was unreliable.
This is your "wife" writing. Please note I am using this term loosely, because at the end of this letter, this will no longer be the case.
First of all, why are you putting our business on the internet? I have asked you and told you repeatedly that what happens to us is BETWEEN us. Clearly, your little plan to gain support backfired. Most of the people who commented on this thread AGREED WITH ME. The funny thing, is that they haven't even heard my side of the story.
So, since you insist on insulting me, I must insist on defending myself. Let's get a few things clear. When you are good, you are the greatest man I know. But ever since our child has been born, you have been nothing but a selfish idiot.
You are not the father of the year, so stop giving people the impression that you take care of her because I do all the work. She is 8 months old and I have been taking care of her ever since she was born. True, there was a month that you helped out because I called you a deadbeat dad, and you did take care of her after she was born because I had a C Section, but beyond that, the only time you take care of her is when you absolutely have to. Otherwise, you would rather pay for a sitter to do the job so you can spend your day online or working on your stupid car.
Which, incidentally, is under my name. Don't forget that.
Furthermore, the problem we have is not about the car. It is about your order of importance. Every time you have to take the car in for maintenance, I don't object. When you need to buy things that the car NEEDS, I don't object. But when you want to waste your money on frivolous items when you know we need to spend money on other things, LIKE YOUR CITIZENSHIP SO YOU CAN GET A DAMN JOB! then I have a problem. I think your peers would agree with me.
I love you more than any person I have ever loved in my life, but you are impossible to live with. I am working over 50 hours a week, I am taking 18 credits in school, and I am raising our daughter when I am not doing one or the other. All you do is work as a bouncer 3 nights a week. Dude, get real.
Why is it wrong that I want you to spend time with me, with us? When did I become a bitch because I want you in our life? Being in a relationship means sacrifice. Contrary to what you wrote, the "$13K worth of sh*t" that is in my closet was acquired BEFORE YOU CAME INTO THE PICTURE. I got that on my own. There is a reason why I don't have any new designer handbags, I have something much more valuable to me: MY DAUGHTER!!!
And, FYI, you are obligated to tell me what you are doing with your time and your money. I have a right to know where you are in case of emergency. Your "movements" as you call them are not what matters. What matters is that I know that you are safe and plan on coming home, because believe it or not I care about what happens to you. At least, I did.
In the end, I am sorry it came to this. I am sorry you felt that you had to talk to complete strangers about our problems instead of me. I am also sorry that this isn't going to work anymore, because I really do love you.
Perhaps next time you shouldn't leave your AcuraZine account logged on for me to view it. I have already opened up my own AcuraZine account, so if you delete this post, I will simply repost it under my own.
Hopefully with the next girl, you will have learned your lesson because I am tired of trying to raising you into being a man.
"And I'm on to the next one...."
Good Luck,
Rachel
P.S. Thank you to all that offered support. These last few months have been very challenging to me and it very endearing to see that I have the support of strangers. For those of you that have met us, I apologize that you had to see this. This kind of behavior is not appropriate. We are not legally married, and he has been given the option many times to leave if he is so unhappy.
I look forward to seeing the replys on this!!! FYI, if you do catch me on AcuraZine in the future (as I prefer to spend my free time with my daughter and not the internet), you will find me under MDX. Have to upgrade to a bigger car for the baby and dogs!
And don't worry about me. I will be fine. It isn't the first time the man I relied on showed me that he was unreliable.
Rachel
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04-07-2010 | 10:49 AM
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From: Waffles, BU
Originally Posted by Finding Support
Let me give you a snap shot into my life: I am 26 years old with a great husband and my first child, a beautiful daughter. I have two dogs and am currently a student.
With all of these items in my title, when do I have time for myself?
I am many things first, but sad to say, being Rachel is not one of them. I am first a mother, first a wife, first a dog walker, but rarely am I first Rachel.
Make sense? What I mean to say is that lately I rarely put myself first.
This year my New Year's Resolution is to take control of myself, and get into a healthy place. I want to set a good example for my daugther.
04-07-2010 | 11:08 AM
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From: Waffles, BU
I'm guessing this is going to turn into an argument of how she embarrassed him to his online Azine buddies. Billy you seriously need to take care of your daughter, spend quality time with your girl and give her some free time. Look after your daughter while she hangs out with her girlfriends or catches a movie, even simple everyday stuff matters. Every week at least give her one day to breathe.. you're 25 but you act like an 8 yr old.
04-07-2010 | 12:46 PM
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It sounds like OP billy has to grow up and get his life together. Rachel seems willing to help him do that, so OP should thank her.
04-07-2010 | 01:04 PM
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I am so glad that I opened this thread...
Good luck Rachel and keep up the hard work and being the best mother to your daughter that you can be. Sorry that the father turned out to be a deadbeat dad (if everything said is true).
I would love to see the look on his face when he reads through this
Good luck Rachel and keep up the hard work and being the best mother to your daughter that you can be. Sorry that the father turned out to be a deadbeat dad (if everything said is true).
I would love to see the look on his face when he reads through this
04-07-2010 | 01:11 PM
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From: Waffles, BU
