OK I just celebrated a 6 month anniversary with my GF. When ever we talk on the phone or do anything that makes her feel good, she tells me that she loves me. I'm not in love but I'm pretty close (I think). I feel bad when she tells me and I don't have anything to say back.. I have sat her down and told her that I adore her and want to be with her and no one else but I do not love her (yet). Should I suck it up and tell her I love her too, or do I just let her go on telling me and not saying anything back?

Its starting to bug me because she is starting to say it more frequently..

 

Next time she says "I love you"

Reply with "I hate you"

Then come on her face, punch her in the nose and smear it around.

 

Since you're a noob who made a good impression on me in the other thread...

Seriously, if you're not there yet...ask her to chill out a little. You'll get there eventually, but right now you don't want to feel pressured or forced to feel it...it will just push you away. Tell her that.

 

i dunno. 6 months is a long time...if i don't love a girl by 6 mos. it's probably never going to happen.

 

i spent two years with a girl hoping i'd get there. didn't happen. with me it's within a few months or likely never.

 

I like that idea! But my mom always told me to never hit a lady... However, I can kick the shit out of any bitch that gets out of line.

 

And at 33, you probly should know. Past experience should help.

 

I like that idea! But my mom always told me to never hit a lady... However, I can kick the shit out of any bitch that gets out of line.

 

Missed that part...yeah that might be true.

OK, im back to my original statement.

 

give her a raspberry doughnut

 

I had a over 12 yr relationshit in that 33 yr span.. I had a bunch of 2 week (or shorter) relationships in HS and college but nuthin serious. My baby's momma is the only woman i have ever told i love you to. Eventhough she was fine! I just couldnt put up with her shit anymore..

 

Talk is cheap. Tell her that if she really loves you, she'll follow you to your new job ... in Cleveland. :grin:

If she says yes, you should marry her. Such dedication, she is willing to suffer for you.
If she says no, well, then like I said talk is cheap. You can't love a girl who won't do things for you and follow you to the ends of the earth. or Ohio.

 

Awww... the kinder, gentler Sarlacc ...

That didn't last long, did it

 

 

no point at all in saying it if you don't mean it.

when you do mean it, it will actually have real sentiment behind it.

 

Dude! I went to school at Central State University (outside of Dayton Ohio). I would never wish Cleveland on anyone (well,, maybe patriot fans)!!

 

<------- lasted only 8 months in Cleveland , even though he had a pretty good job up there......

 

 

Never say anything you don't mean. If you don't love her yet - don't say it just for the fun of it.

EDIT: But don't doubt she hasn't noticed everytime she's said it without you responding similarly.

 

I don't see how her expressing her feelings towards him is "forcing" him to feel it as well. Sure, I'd assume she'd love to hear that he feels the same, but she's allowed to say it and she'll just have to deal with whatever response she does or doesn't get, I guess. "Asking her to chill out a little"......?

 

 

"thank you"

 

If you don't feel the same way, then don't say anything. Nothing worse than being led on.

 

Pull the plug

 

Thats what Im worried about.. I can see hope in her eyes evertime she says it. It looks like "maybe he'll say it this time". I dont want to lead her on in any way but her saying it is starting to bug me (just a little).

 

Whatever you do....dont punch her in the neck.....youll have a stalker...

 

But if you come on her face, you wont?

 

IF you do not feel it yet then you cant say it. If she can not understand that then that is her problem. you have told her that you really like her and that you are starting to feel love towards her just not completely sure. that is it, she has to handle that. If her saying it more is bugging you, tell her, she is not a mind reader.

 

I already know your opinion on the situation U dont have to post it.. Or are you trying to be a PH???

 

tell her u love her... get used to lying !!!

 

If you don't love her at 6 months, you never will

 

I used to be good at lying to get into a girls panties.. WTF happened to me that i cant lie to stay in a girls panties.

 

you became a good guy. that is what happened. i am so proud of you, even though you have your moments of being a jackass.

i dont care if you already know what i have to think, i am going to tell you again and again until you stop bitchin about it.

 

Damn! Why do i have to be a jackass (sometimes)!! And im not bitchin. I was stating facts..

 

I'm one of the classic non commitment guys, a slow mover if ya know what I mean .. When she first said it, I was like WHOA !! But since she said it during sex, I kind of let it slide. I guess she feels more comfortable now and lets it fly whenever she gets the urge.

I know I care for her deeply but I don't know if its love..

How do I know if I love her or not?? Is there a definition somewhere? I might be in love with her and just not know it!

 

awww sweetie you know i was just messin with ya. you are a great guy and i am honored to call you my best friend.

 

nothing says I love you like a beer and a blowjob

 

So if she brings me a beer and blows me while i drink it.. she really loves me?? WOW! I didnt know that..

 

Tell her if she really loves you...she'll do a rusty trombone....

 

Okay, so based on what you wrote, it's quite apparent you're not.