Alright, so check it out. I've been seeing this woman for a while. We're kinda on again, off again. Ever since my accident, i've been spending a lot of time with her again. Back in the day, she wanted to marry me. But I never wanted to, because of our age difference. I'm 25, she's about to be 36. I know its not a lot, but it kinda is to me. I dont wanna marry her or be with her long term, but she gives great head and is the best fuck i've ever had. Plus, now, she ll bring me lunch while im' home and get me movies and shit. She keeps pressuring me for a commitment. I like her a lot, but not enough for a relationship.


What do i do?

 

she gives you head while you have burns and open sores all over your thighs?

she's a keeper.

 

Thats dedication. Age is just a number.

The question is..

Are you two on the same "level" ?



When I say level, I mean maturity, goals etc.

 

I'm going to disagree with the others Katana.. woman, especially older, pressuring for a committment = no thanks. her biological clock is prob ticking.. be cautious.

don't get me wrong, i'd tap that like nobody's business. But if you don't feel like committing then don't.

you're too young to get attached. or if anything be bf/gf for a while.. but def no ring.

 

make her your "girlfriend" and ditch her once ur healthy....

j/p dogg... only u can make the right decision

 

so keep the "on again, off again" thing going. how hard is that?

 

If you aren't ready for a relationship don't get into one. It doesn't matter how good the other person is to you, if you aren't into it its not going to work. If you care about her be honest and tell her you aren't ready, no sense leading her to believe there is an immediate chance when there isn't one. Good luck Kats!

 

Couldn't agree with more... if you're not ready, you won't be into the relationship...

 

either keep her, or tell her the exact same thing you said in your original post about not wanting anything more than a casual relationship. either way, make it clear.

 

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Talk to her and be honest about how you feel. Either she will accept you as a friend, or she will move on. Either way is best for both of you in the long run.

 

i agree... if you dont want to be comitted then dont. i thought i was the only one dating an older girl. im 18 and shes 22. but i'd still tap it as long as its good. i agree with Dax, just be honest and tell her straight out and i hope she understands. but the thing is, you'll never know in the future if shes the one or not. i kinda have a feeling that shes not for you but i'd still give it some more time.

 

tell her you dont want to be, but you may be in the future. that should solve your probs, at least for the time being!@

 

Age dont matter none. It all comes down to tightness of the box.

 

I personally don't think the age is the problem, but the pressure is.......... (I once had a wonderful affair with a woman about twelve years older than me, and we both enjoyed the run as long as it lasted, which was about six or eight months. One of the few 'formers' that stayed a friend.) I am of the "organic" belief when it comes to relationships, with the right woman, it will happen intuitively, and the formalization of hte relationship will follow the emotions.

"Pressing for a committment" is speaking to the absence of "something" with the hope that if you commit, it will magically appear. If ya don't love her now, in that overall sense (not just that she is a nice woman.......) making a committment will be fatal.

Given the pressure she is bringing to bear, it may be that you don't have a choice - she may blow out if you don't commit. But that beats being in a relationship that you don't want to be in.

 

Interesting comment.

 

keep hitting it and quit it when u want to

 

tell her how you feel. you think she is a wonderful person for all the things she has done for you and all BUT at this point in your life you just arent ready and forcing your hand isnt going to help matters at all. she what she has to say and take it from there

 

You've got to be honest with her. If you don't want a commitment, you should tell her because she's never going to change her mind or suddenly not want a commitment.

 

Cougar alert! Run, and run fast!

 

I agree 100%! I know a women who is doing just that. She's 35 & wants to settle down & have kids.

 

 

Katana,

Have you thought to yourself, why is a woman 36 years old dating someone 25? Noting against you, but did you stop and think that maybe she's got problems?

 

Why does she have problems? Maybe she just likes young guys? Is it any different if an older guy wants a yonger woman?

 

36 and still single would raise flags for me.

 

share the wealth man !! we can tag team her

afterall we are downthe street from eachother

 

I was in the same situation - without the great head and sex .. well it was good at the time, but I digress...

Anyway, like others have said, if you aren't ready for the commitment, then make sure she knows and don't let her force you into one. She may be the perfect person for you if you were ready, but if you aren't then it's not fair to either of you to keep the other person in a relationship they don't view the same way.

Still... keep getting it while the getting's still good!

 

Word. Don't even be her boyfriend dude. Just keep tappin it and if she's getting a little tooo close for comfort, end it. Leading her on isn't the answer either. I definitelty agree that her bio clock is tickin away and she wants to settle down. Whatever you do, DO NOT CUM IN HER even if she says she's on birth control & if even if you have before. She could just stop takin it. Chicks can use that as a trap, especially if your a nice guy...

Just speaking from experience man

 

break it off. don't lead her on.

 

I dated a woman when I was 23 who was 39 and like Kat's babe, she was the hottest thing goin.' Sit back, relax and enjoy the riding I say. Has she even mentioned she wants a relationship? Maybe you're just a bang buddy to her too!

 

i completely agree with this statement, but as a counter point:

"You know, there's a million fine-looking women in the world, dude... but they don't all bring you lasagna at work. Most of them just cheat on you." -Silent Bob, "Clerks"

 

Classis movie! "Chick with ..icks"

 

Hey man, do what feels right. I have been in a similar situation in college where the feelings were just not mutual. I was more into the physical aspects while she was all about being boyfriend and girlfriend. Needless to say we had a long talk and all the good sex stopped for about a month. But then she came to terms that it was not meant to be, and we just had drunk hook ups every other week or so. We are still friends to this day and still drunk dial even though we are 2000 miles apart. Sometimes it works out for the best. Who knows, you might end upo having feelings for this girl that you never knew existed