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LOL at spanking a dog (much less a 12yr old) and expecting it to behave better. That's just stupid talk.

 

Pic of the bitch. Not the dog.

 

But the dog is a bitch

 

A person who talks for their pets like a child and dresses one like it... oooo boy Have fun!

So my question is this... If you are hungry and that poor excuse for a dog is hungry as well, who does she feed first?

If it ain't you, I pity the fool. lol

PS I love pets, had 3 German Shepherds in my life, now that's a dog. :P

 

 

Hey, look! It's Cesar Romero.
This. It's hard to tell what's the dynamic between your GF and the dog (who is the alpha), but no matter what, YOU have to be the alpha. (Any human in the house should be the alpha to the dog, but that's a different topic.) Once you have asserted your dominance over the dog, the dog will respond to your command. If you do it right, the dog will work to make you happy. If you don't know what I am talking about or how to go about it, I suggest looking into Cesar Milan's techniques and philosophies.

What a dumb fucking article. Anyone who buys this shit is retarded. The deciding factor of what makes or breaks a relationship has nothing to do with housing before marriage. In addition, a lasting marriage has no correlation to a healthy or happy relationship.
OHHH!!! A chance to preach about something that has nothing to do with the thread!

 

Just for your viewing pleasure... here are some pics of the bitch






Anybody else feel like punching the shit out of something?!


This dog will not get between my gf and I. I will make it MY bitch.

 

That's not a dog... that's a rat

 

That's what I said in my first post.

 

I love some of the replies in here...you can tell who all the bitter spinsters are who have no idea how to make a relationship work in the first place.

 

So my wife absolutely loves dogs. I've been bitten and was largely terrorized by them growing up, so I don't like them in general. Eventually I lost the battle and we got a dog, now on our second. Not because I wanted to, but because it was so important to her. As our kids got older, even more so. So I've been in the situation of having to live with dog that annoys you but you're stuck with it.

I think if you like the girl you are stuck with the dog and you're just going to have to figure out how to co-exist. A 12 year old is difficult if not impossible to re-train, so I would not hold out any hope of that happening. Also be careful how you treat the dog too. I know it's easy to speak badly of the dog and be visibly annoyed, but if your gf loves the dog like you say, how you treat it will be a reflection of your character, not the dog's bad behavior. Even if you are totally in the right. When I got mad at our dog, my wife would react like I was mad at her. She took it personally when I was indifferent towards it. That's the kind of thing women will file away now but will show up later during your next argument.

Sounds like your gf is making an effort, which is a good sign. Shows she cares about how this is impacting you - that's very good BTW, much better than if she valued the dog over you. But I think you're only play here is to ride it out as best you can and get something you both like the next time. I found a fan drowns out a lot of noise - once you get used to the white noise in the background that may help. Or maybe the dog doesn't have to be on the bed, but maybe just at bed height? Maybe put the dog bed on a small table or nightstand so she is at the same level? Maybe just having your gf in eyeshot will be enough to stop the whining.

I think continuing to experiment with sleeping arrangements is the best way through this.

 

I gotta ask-- does the dog have more outfits than your GF?


FWIW, I have no reasonable advice to give since my wife is afraid of most dogs, so we don't have one, but can only wish you well.

 

Does the gf have matching outfits with the dog?

 

No and no, she has far more outfits than the dog

 

The dog doesn't look all that happy or enthused in any of those pics.
Maybe we have looking at this all wrong and you and the dog need to sit down and have a talk with the GF -

 

At 12, it's too late...the gf probably didn't have the discipline or know enough about training a dog if she's had her for that long. I wouldn't automatically make any assumptions about her based on it though, that's like someone trying to decide that the qualities I possessed when I was 25 are the same as the ones I show now, ten years later. People change and learn

Ride it out, Dog's have an insane amount of intuition and they can sense that you go around calling it a rat and contemplate killing it... Try a different approach and it might actually listen to you and start shitting on HER pillow. Plus, the gf is more likely to value your input and feelings if it isn't so one sided (ie disgust for her dog). It being pretty or ugly doesn't matter...like with kids, when you form that bond, you love them unconditionally and don't care if their teeth are straight or if they have shitt breath.

When I was single...if a girl came over and had the "ewww get your dogs away from me" look on their face about my 2 girls (that are well behaved...by no accident)...I knew it wouldn't work out and it was only a matter of time... As a general observation I've made...people that don't love dogs lack a certain compassion and can be very self centered. Ain't nobody got time for that...

 

Well said J

 

Gracias, Amigo!

 

Like I said before, I love dogs. I love all my family members' dogs, friends dogs, just not this one. . Oh well. I will ride it out and do my best to get along with it.

 

Well, I'd be more mad at you for creating the ultimatum, than her for picking the dog over you.

She could sit there with her friends or on her own forum saying, can you chicks believe my boyfriend tried to make me choose?!?! Not going to be a good Dad, huh?!?

Plus, TBH, I was just sharing my own experience in general...wasn't a judgment on you and your situation.

 

^ I know, and I appreciate your good input.

I didn't make an ultimatum though. I doubt she is on her own forum

 

LMAO,
no worries, man. I can tell you already know how to handle it, just wanted to hear what we had to say. Best way to make an educated decision. I'm sure it'll work itself out, and like others have mentioned, it'll be sad for her, but dogs don't live forever.

 

I'm not a dog person. I was traumatized as a kid and will never, ever own one. ed

that being said, if you really love the girl, you will bite your tongue and deal with it. if not, give her the ultimatum or you break it off.

 

The dog looks really derp in the last picture.

Well after this dog is gone, the next dog can be a dog you'll both like, right? But then she'll have those leftover dog clothes...

 

Oh so true.

 

lol lets talk about being a retard eh? go look up the stats, they are provided in that article.... but hey as long as one gets a piece, who cares, right?

 

So now you are calling his "GF" a piece?

Dude, not everyone is all wrapped up in some religious diatribe or stupid man made rule like you are. So just relax...If he wants to shack up with her... who cares? I mean really...Like I said, I moved in with my wife after dating 2 months...and I have been HAPPILY MARRIED for over 17 years.

 

that's fantastic!

I just had the civil ceremony to solidify my marriage application from last Monday. I've been dating my wife for 7 years...bout that time, huh

 

Conrats J

 

Thanks a lot, man!
I'm the lucky one...she's an angel in comparison to what a PITA I am.
AND, I was the one with 2 dogs...I just got lucky she's more of a sap for them than I am. I rule with an iron fist.

DSC_1315 by swimex37, on Flickr

 

Congrats bro!

 

Gracias Amigos!
I'm sorry for the thread derail...I guess felt like it almost run it's course.

 

Nice work there young man. Congrats!

 

She's hot.

 

thanks!
That's why I picked her on match.com 7 years ago!

 

Congrats rockstar!



Dude...what happened to you?! The old Whiskers would have said "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!"

 

Hey, I tricked her into marrying me, first!
She gets the "You look like Mila Kunis" thing a lot. Life could be worse.

 

OP, I've been in similar situations, just not living with them.

I don't do well with inside pets since my family never had any growing up, and to this day I've never had one. I'm not opposed to it, but to me there's a right way and a wrong way to do it. The personality of the pet makes a huge difference for me...some pets I like, some I completely despise. And I won't pretend to like a pet just to make someone happy.

I think in any situation like this, both parties need to realize that what one party thinks is completely normal can be foreign to another. Kinda like how barking, meowing, animal smells/allergies, pets in bed, needy pets, pet hair all over the house and bed, etc is not something I'm used to, but other people are.

I'm not saying a pet in the house is or should be a deal breaker, but if someone can't see your point of view on why it's a problem for you, then I see a problem, and personally it wouldn't go over well with me. I do see it as choosing the pets needs over those of their SO. Both parties should do what they can to make it easier for the other, and not be offended that you don't think their pet is perfect

Any yeah, I'm also freaked out by people that dress their dogs up and treat them like human kids, and/or talk to them all the time in weird voices

 

Dogs in people clothes



Congrats Rockstar, but you left out the boobs in that pic

 

Congrats, J.