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Come late June, I'm moving from Houston to NY and moving into an appartment with my girlfriend. I grew up in NY, went to HS there, went to college down here, and now I'm at my first job. I'm transferring to the NY office mostly becuase I wnat to back back in NY, i have a bunch of friends there, family, and shes's there. We've never lived in the same zip code for more than 3 months at a time for the almost 3 year we've been dating

Shit is either

A) going to go down like a trashy VH1 reality TV show with mad drama and ultimately fall apart

or

B) Go really well and we'll live happily every after


I have confidence that the likely outcome is B, but I'll keel y'all updated.

 

you are doomed

 

Try it out. Its not so bad.

That is, unless bad is finding out stuff about her you didnt want to know

 

It's better to find out now before you get married, or if you get married.

 

Take pics.

 

You'll both find little quirks about each other that the other won't like, but the chance for success just depends on how much you're willing to compromise with each other.

 

You will never know a person's true color unless you had live w/ that some one.


Scenerio A

 

make sure she brings home one of her hot girlfriends at least once a month.

 

DOOMED! Just kidding - Make sure you take care of your stuff and clean up after yourself...otherwise she'll say, "you don't respect 'my' house." Been there, done that.Don't lose the communication either.

 

I dated a girl for 4 years while I was going to school living at home. She would sleep there alot...and I thought it be good when I bought my own place. The when it wasn't "playing house" anymore...we broke up 15 days into living together.

 

Does your GF already live up there? So are you moving in with her? Or are you both moving up to NYC simultaenously?

Anyhow, make sure she works. There's few things worse than having a homebody GF whose daily highlight is waiting for you to come home ... and saving hours of nonsensical blabbering for your annoyance once you get there. Also, expenses and such should be split 50/50. This is the century of "gender equality" so friggin' gals should be able to pull their keep. I can't stress this enough ... make sure the GF is independent and self-sufficient.

It's not all that bad tho ... actually, it can be downright fun. But just remember that most guys enjoy consistency of routine. Gals, unfortunately, often serve to disrupt them. Best way to safeguard against stupid shit from cropping up is to thru communication and honesty (no kidding).

Oh yeah, DO NOT have any forms of incriminating evidence laying around. Gals love to play detective and they will go thru your stuff "on accident."

 

When you find out during the marriage, it's more likely to work out than when you find out before the marriage. So there's two sides to this as well..

 

You should be ok as long as you both think of it like a marriage. By that, I mean don't just decide to pack up your balls and leave at the drop of a hat. Work shit out. You'll have issues here and there but all in all, you should be ok as long as you keep an open mind and likewise for her.

 

just laughing at the idea of a guy supporting a girlfriend that does nothing all day...

 

You can crash on my futon if you get sick of her

 

his gf is going to work in nyc for a few years until he can support her and she can be a housewife, they will probably buy a hot car, place on LI and have a few kids.

hey are you going to move back to scarsdale to raise them?


^^enjoys freaking his brother out

 

ive been going out with my gf for nearly 3 years, she wants me to move in with her but shit we're just 21

 

 

well on the rare occasions if you guys really compliment each other (as in, as a match not verbally complimenting each other) it can work

I knew a couple that moved in together when they were 18 & still together now for last 7 years & are totally happy. But at the same time they never have any trust issues with each other. So I guess you just gotta make sure that your really willing to make it work, instead of half assing it.

Rare instances, but it could happen.

 

certainly dont have any trust issues, and for the most part the relationship is good. I just still want my own space at this point in my life

 

yeah I agree....we're generally really good about keeping everything 50/50....and we will definitely keep expenses this way. She'll be working, which is good. You def don't want the gf who is home all day wiating for you to come home. I'm feeling really good about this. Its a big step, but I think I'm ready to take it, and I'd rather test out the waters now than later. We looked around a few parts of the city this weekend, and will probably focus our areas on the grammercy area

 

ahh, i gave you shit, but really, good luck. It's not easy, but better to find out now

But I still say you're doomed, run man, just run.

 

ugh Ive had a gf at the time, an ex now, live with me for 3 weeks when i moved for my job. I worked and she didnt. Just sat at home all day until i got home from work. Wow talk about boring. Basic cable and dial-up internet. Im surprised she lasted that long. But she got home sick and I took her back home for 3 weeks untill she came back for another 2. Then I came back home for school. Living with her wasnt bad at all and she made sure she did everything that needed to be done. It was nice to have sex anytime we wanted to also!

 

It depends on how you and your G/F is as far as nit picky about crap.
-for example I have a certain way I wash clothes. I have to do the laundry because my doesn't do it right(that was a hell of a fight a couple times).

but at the same time at least you find out what they are like prior to marrying them.

 

22 years old and shakin' up. Best of luck to you.

 

I've lived with my GF for 8 years now and the best advice I can give is to keep your money seperate. A good buddy of mine combined his money with each GF he had (3 of them) and they took him to the cleaners every time.

 

Great...a relationship with no trust!

 

There are just some things you dont share with your gf. Bank accounts and password. There is no reason for to share them.

 

Also called C.Y.A.!

 

Except that sap trusted the wrong 3 people (or is just a miserble pushover), and Tom is assuming everyone is just like that.

Still, I say don't get joint accounts until you're married.

 

Where are you gonna hide the porn when you move in with her?

 

Make your own.

 

Why hide?

 

share and enjoy.

 

Kinda true. If you've got it, you might as well be up front. Come to think of it, I have no pr0n at all.

 

 

Scary, I know. Until last Spring, I was with the same woman for 4 years, was single for just a little while, and haven't been out of a dating-ish relationship for a while now (and am currently seeing someone). Can't say I really have the desire to watch a lot of pr0n lately. Call me crazy.

 

Well even i have a girls gone wild if you want to call that porn. I agree the need for porn isnt there so much when your in a steady relationship and ur getting some, or your just getting some in general. Best porn is the stuff you can just stream w/o downloading.

 

not combining the $, keeping separate and splitting bills, though gotta figure out the best way to do this (one person is the payer of all, gets reimbursed later, or each tackles separate bills and gets reimbursed later)

as far as the p0rn, i'm keeping (and in the wide open)

 

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