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10-19-2006, 01:10 PM
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babyfer, i think your husband must be a latent homosexual. Do you have more experience than he does? have you ever compared your numbers with each other? I blame this for my sisters sexless marriage....
10-19-2006, 01:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Babyfer
so last night he goes to go shopping for clothes before vacation, cuz he's pretty much ruined all his workin in the dirt, except for his nice clothes..
anyway, he leaves i get in the shower and all fresh shaved up.. put on somethin sexy and a robe over it, knowing that when he gets home he will pull the tie and take it off
like 2 hours go by, nothin, he knows what i'm thinking, cuz of my b-day.. he keep looking at the clock, it's about 11:30, i say no it's not my b-day yet.
anyway then i'm bendin over on the couch and he walkover and lifts up the back and says .. ooo i know what's under there, now you ruined it.. i said WHAT.. ruined it, the point is that you see it...
so i take the robe off, he's like nice, K well i got stuff to do..
WTF... last month he was complaning that i didn't wear it enough, now he doesn't care when i do...... i throw him on the couch and get on top of him and start kissing and undoin his pants, he hugs me and like rolls over so i'm under, then gets up and tells me that he has to finish building the deck.. IT'S FRIGGEN 11:51 AT NIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
also, before he left to go shoppin he was really gettin me riled up and hopin that i was gonna get some.. lickin and kissin and biting..
gggrrrrrrr
anyway, he leaves i get in the shower and all fresh shaved up.. put on somethin sexy and a robe over it, knowing that when he gets home he will pull the tie and take it off
like 2 hours go by, nothin, he knows what i'm thinking, cuz of my b-day.. he keep looking at the clock, it's about 11:30, i say no it's not my b-day yet.
anyway then i'm bendin over on the couch and he walkover and lifts up the back and says .. ooo i know what's under there, now you ruined it.. i said WHAT.. ruined it, the point is that you see it...
so i take the robe off, he's like nice, K well i got stuff to do..
WTF... last month he was complaning that i didn't wear it enough, now he doesn't care when i do...... i throw him on the couch and get on top of him and start kissing and undoin his pants, he hugs me and like rolls over so i'm under, then gets up and tells me that he has to finish building the deck.. IT'S FRIGGEN 11:51 AT NIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
also, before he left to go shoppin he was really gettin me riled up and hopin that i was gonna get some.. lickin and kissin and biting..
gggrrrrrrr
I would kill the little dog accross the street right now
if my wife would start doing things like that. How far are you from Seattle? j/k. Kinda.
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10-19-2006, 01:33 PM
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Originally Posted by DiveforTL-s
How far are you from Seattle?
10-19-2006, 02:47 PM
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Originally Posted by Astroboy
babyfer, i think your husband must be a latent homosexual. Do you have more experience than he does? have you ever compared your numbers with each other? I blame this for my sisters sexless marriage....
and about 3 days from canada... lol, we're on our way tonight.. seriously.. then to chicago..
i'm just so sad cuz i hate to be teased!
c- if i can make people get a woody typin it, then i know it did the trick for him, he just pushed me off and went out side
10-19-2006, 03:27 PM
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Originally Posted by AcuraDriver2006
errr............ the answer is no. Don't generalize the entire race based on the fact that you're horny. So if you're short, does that mean all asians are short? 
somebody needs a 
or something.
10-19-2006, 03:31 PM
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Originally Posted by Babyfer
i've been w/ him he was my 1st, and i don't know his #'s he wont share
Hopefully he'll surprise you while you're away. here's hoping anyways!
10-19-2006, 07:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Caliadria
What, are you proud of yourself for being a prude? 
No, I want to get laid damnit!!! PUT OUT!!
10-19-2006, 09:17 PM
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Originally Posted by Gpump
No communication barrier there. Blunt isn't the most romantic way, but it sure gets the job done. 
10-19-2006, 09:55 PM
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Have you checked the signs of cheating? I just don't know guys with that little interest in sex..
http://dating.about.com/od/cheating/...atingSigns.htm
http://www.spousealert.homestead.com..._cheating.html
http://womansdivorce.com/signs-of-cheating.html
http://dating.about.com/od/cheating/...atingSigns.htm
http://www.spousealert.homestead.com..._cheating.html
http://womansdivorce.com/signs-of-cheating.html
10-19-2006, 10:18 PM
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Yeah, no interest in sex from a guy is rare enough... but in Babyfer's situation, he is using it as a tease/power thing. There's something really not right there. Sorry.
10-19-2006, 10:52 PM
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Originally Posted by CLpower
No, I want to get laid damnit!!! PUT OUT!!
Wasnt your wife just complaining 2 weeks ago that she isnt getting sex? I think you two need to get your cycles synched up.
10-20-2006, 10:41 AM
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I got a little chub from that story as well. Um, I can see that happening once in a while but not for 84 straight days. For both women here...it sounds like he's just tired of hittin it. 
Do your guys have short attention spans? Have they been known to jump around from girl to girl before they married you? Seems like they might just be bored. I dunno, just throwing things out there.
Do your guys have short attention spans? Have they been known to jump around from girl to girl before they married you? Seems like they might just be bored. I dunno, just throwing things out there.
10-20-2006, 12:21 PM
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Originally Posted by Mike97 3.0P
Do your guys have short attention spans? Have they been known to jump around from girl to girl before they married you? Seems like they might just be bored. I dunno, just throwing things out there.
10-20-2006, 12:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Mike97 3.0P
I got a little chub from that story as well. Um, I can see that happening once in a while but not for 84 straight days. For both women here...it sounds like he's just tired of hittin it.
Do your guys have short attention spans? Have they been known to jump around from girl to girl before they married you? Seems like they might just be bored. I dunno, just throwing things out there.
Do your guys have short attention spans? Have they been known to jump around from girl to girl before they married you? Seems like they might just be bored. I dunno, just throwing things out there.
10-21-2006, 07:20 AM
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Originally Posted by fast-tl
He may be bored, but what is he doing with HIS "urges?" I have not once in my life gone more than 30 days without it since losing my virginity. Let alone since I was married. Two weeks, probably and three weeks, maybe. Three months for a guy? No way.
Babyfer, have you talked recently to your husband about this?
10-21-2006, 10:47 AM
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Originally Posted by dom
^Is it wrong that I got a woody reading that?
lmao
Anyways, there definitely seems to be something wrong here. Babyfer your situation is a bit odd, even if I were to work long hours and such, I'd give a day alone with my baby.
10-23-2006, 07:54 PM
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Originally Posted by fdl
Wasnt your wife just complaining 2 weeks ago that she isnt getting sex? I think you two need to get your cycles synched up.
ya, pick up a few pages back
Originally Posted by Caliadria
SHOWER!!
I'm not the one that doesn't shower everyday
10-24-2006, 07:56 AM
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Maybe he can't get it up? Babyfer, maybe he's too embarrassed to admit it so he instead acts as if he's not interested. I'd flat out ask him. The worse thing that could happen is he plows you into tommorrow for questioning his manhood. 
10-24-2006, 10:28 PM
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Wow, what a sad thread. My wife and I are less frequent than we were during the first eleven years of our marriage because she's had some serious health problems and is on meds , and I work 12 hours daily keeping a roof over our heads and the bills paid. Even so, we found enough time to make a baby, and I never, ever, ever, EVER refuse her request for "our time". 
Sex>>>>>>>>>>>>Acurazine any time.
Hell, sex>>>>>>>>>>sleep any night, I'd rather go into work tired than ignore what's lying next to me at night.
Never gone 84 days. Never even gone a week without. The ladies situation in this thread is terrible, especially Babyfer. You have got to communicate clearly with your husband about your needs. If my wife feels neglected, she will say so. Since I never refuse her (again: sex>>>>>>computer, work, anything), problem solved.
, and I work 12 hours daily keeping a roof over our heads and the bills paid. Even so, we found enough time to make a baby, and I never, ever, ever, EVER refuse her request for "our time". Sex>>>>>>>>>>>>Acurazine any time.
Hell, sex>>>>>>>>>>sleep any night, I'd rather go into work tired than ignore what's lying next to me at night.
Never gone 84 days. Never even gone a week without. The ladies situation in this thread is terrible, especially Babyfer. You have got to communicate clearly with your husband about your needs. If my wife feels neglected, she will say so. Since I never refuse her (again: sex>>>>>>computer, work, anything), problem solved.
10-24-2006, 11:06 PM
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Originally Posted by dom
Maybe he can't get it up? Babyfer, maybe he's too embarrassed to admit it so he instead acts as if he's not interested. I'd flat out ask him. The worse thing that could happen is he plows you into tommorrow for questioning his manhood.
11-07-2006, 10:47 AM
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OK just got back from our trip.. i didn't get it on my b-day (the 19th) but i did however get some on the 20th.. and ti was great, he even said that we need to do it more often.. so i was ALL HAPPY.. then we go to Niagra Falls.. HUGE Falls view room (the Honeymoon Suite). he starts the teasin thing again, tellin me how sexy i am, blah, blah... pushin me up agains the window nakie says he's showin me off. but still didn't get any.. a romantic place/time and tease, and NONE.
as far as the tryin to be clean thing.. i usually take a shower before anyway, especially after travling in a car for about 12-18 hours/day.. but i do the same at home after work.. i alway like to smell yummy for him.
and for the can't get it up thing.. he has NO prob there.. that's why i don't get why he does this.. he gets all hard and rubs on me and teases me, lets me lick it or what ever, then takes it away.
last night it was his b-day he said to give him head for his b-day, i said ok, and i can give you me then he smiles, goes outside for a bit to work on the deck.. comes back in then goes to shower.. this is my chance right i get nakie on the livingroom floor.... NOPE he wants to go to the store an get a new game AT 10:30 AT NIGHT (and no i don't believe that he's cheatin, cause he's always tellin me how he can't live w/o me... blah)
anyway, he comes back an hour later i say lets go f**k then he says "go to the room and wait 4 me, but don't hold your breath" i look at him and make a sign noise, then he gets MAD AT ME and says "great so now you wanna make me feel bad, like a piece of crap! thanks"
WTF??????????????? i said goodnight & walked away...
i appreciate all your help, i really do, but i've come to the conclusion that i'm doomed, and it's either deal w/ it or move on.. and i do love him & we have a lil one in the mix now soooo i guess i'm stuck here
thanks though SO MUCH for letting me vent & offering advice, I REALLY APPRECIATE IT
as far as the tryin to be clean thing.. i usually take a shower before anyway, especially after travling in a car for about 12-18 hours/day.. but i do the same at home after work.. i alway like to smell yummy for him.
and for the can't get it up thing.. he has NO prob there.. that's why i don't get why he does this.. he gets all hard and rubs on me and teases me, lets me lick it or what ever, then takes it away.
last night it was his b-day he said to give him head for his b-day, i said ok, and i can give you me
then he smiles, goes outside for a bit to work on the deck.. comes back in then goes to shower.. this is my chance right i get nakie on the livingroom floor.... NOPE he wants to go to the store an get a new game AT 10:30 AT NIGHT (and no i don't believe that he's cheatin, cause he's always tellin me how he can't live w/o me... blah)anyway, he comes back an hour later i say lets go f**k then he says "go to the room and wait 4 me, but don't hold your breath" i look at him and make a sign noise, then he gets MAD AT ME and says "great so now you wanna make me feel bad, like a piece of crap! thanks"
WTF??????????????? i said goodnight & walked away...
i appreciate all your help, i really do, but i've come to the conclusion that i'm doomed, and it's either deal w/ it or move on.. and i do love him & we have a lil one in the mix now soooo i guess i'm stuck here
thanks though SO MUCH for letting me vent & offering advice, I REALLY APPRECIATE IT
11-07-2006, 11:09 AM
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Originally Posted by Babyfer
he gets all hard and rubs on me and teases me, lets me lick it or what ever, then takes it away.
Wow, I'm really sorry to hear this. But I wouldn't settle. I'm not telling you to leave him but somehow make him understand that you need more. There's something seriously fawked up with a man who won't have sex with his wife while at a hotel in Niagra falls.
Wow.
11-07-2006, 11:34 AM
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You have a lot of guts for posting here... I admire that. Anyway, I know it's been said before, but communication is the only answer here. If you really want a marriage to work, you have to be comforable enough with eachother to tell HIM all of the stuff you're telling us... every detail (including what you like and don't like when having sex). If he isn't willing to listen, then this is just one of many many problems you'll have. If he is willing to listen, you'll wonder what took you so long.
11-07-2006, 12:37 PM
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i have told him, that's the thing.. he turns it around on ME for making him feel bad.
always sayin "great now you make me feel liek a peice of shit" i never yell or raise my voice to him, simply talk... i've cried a few times during the conversation but then he gets madder that i'm so upset about it. so i usually go cry in another room where he doesn't know what i'm doin.
he i guess doesn't really care what my needs/wants are as far as sex.
i never imagined myself talking about all this stuff .. especially to people that i don't really know.. but maybe that's why i did, cause you don't know me or him.. so this way i guess that it's not so embarassing for me.
always sayin "great now you make me feel liek a peice of shit" i never yell or raise my voice to him, simply talk... i've cried a few times during the conversation but then he gets madder that i'm so upset about it. so i usually go cry in another room where he doesn't know what i'm doin.
he i guess doesn't really care what my needs/wants are as far as sex.
i never imagined myself talking about all this stuff .. especially to people that i don't really know.. but maybe that's why i did, cause you don't know me or him.. so this way i guess that it's not so embarassing for me.
11-07-2006, 01:52 PM
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Originally Posted by Babyfer
i have told him, that's the thing.. he turns it around on ME for making him feel bad.
always sayin "great now you make me feel liek a peice of shit"
always sayin "great now you make me feel liek a peice of shit"
No offence but he gives guys a bad rep.
11-07-2006, 02:05 PM
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Was he molested as a child? Is he on meds? He must have some deep issue that he is not sharing with you. I feel so terrible for you, sex is an important part of a marriage--not the most important thing, but a measure of how well the many other pieces of the marriage are going. Many couples are mildly incompatible sexually, even my wife and me, but most make a middle ground somewhere. Your case is an extreme.
Prayers that your hubby will come around....and the next time he tells you that you are making him feel bad, let him know in no uncertain terms that you feel he is rejecting you.
Prayers that your hubby will come around....and the next time he tells you that you are making him feel bad, let him know in no uncertain terms that you feel he is rejecting you.
11-07-2006, 02:08 PM
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Originally Posted by Babyfer
(and no i don't believe that he's cheatin, cause he's always tellin me how he can't live w/o me... blah)
always believe a man when he says that
11-07-2006, 02:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Babyfer
"great now you make me feel liek a peice of shit"