Am I missing something?

 

Nothing like a guy jumping to conclusions...

 

First, I am sorry that two women with large sexual drives did not end up with me. I merried a woman who "blessed me" by waiting for the one. Why is this bad? First, I had to break a virgin. No fun unless you are a pedifile (if you like virgins and are not a pedifile, I am sorry, but I have yet to meet anyone who likes breaking virgins and not 14 yr olds). Second, as I have had to learn, a woman is like a violin. They need playing often or tighten up and lose their tone. Sex is painful for her. So, for me, I change my oil more than I get sex. I used to atleast get sex after long underways (when I was on a sub), but even that went away. She seems to not even like me pleasuring her. It got worse once she went onto the pill. That was a shotgun shot to the sex drive. I just have to hope she is not getting it somewhere else. I am always on the lookout, but we both work a lot so she could be doing anything. I guess that got a little off subject, but o well. I guess I can tell you all.

 

Seems like all you people are at one end of the spectrum or the other. Sure, everyone does it a lot more when you first get married. When you've been married for a while (12+ for me), it can still be great, but the key is not to force it when the mood isn't right. It's a lot better when you're both into it, and when you've had a week or so to "miss it". I don't konw... count me in the "quality vs. quantity" camp.

 

I completely agree! I have had relationships in which we have sex 1-2 times daily, on average, and one (now) in which we only have sex 2-4 times per week and I much prefer this one. The sex is better everytime because it is not forced as it was before and we do not have a quota in order to feel that we are keeping up with everyone else. We also take much longer and it is more intense....much better than several small sessions!

 

LOL, it's funny hearing the "in the mood" women chime in b/c my neighbor's wife is always in the mood... she'd do it every day if she had her way... but her husband is hardly in the mood. It's funny b/'c she and I always joke that we should switch spouses.

 

I'm 30 and seem to be getting hornier and hornier each year Not sure what his problem is.

 

Hmm it's gettin awfully steamy up in here. You women in your late twenties (sara, babyfer) need to find some stud in his early 20's. I don't think you'll have a "frequency" problem after that.

Either that or just spike your man's drink with some Stanolozol or HGH or something like that

 

Don't make me laugh

 

Seriously...

Mike, you did see me mention that my husband is only 24, right? Early 20s apparently doesn't mean that much.

 

I am really surprised. It is hard to believe what you are saying.

Even some say that men think about sex every 15 minutes.

 

i feel you (no lance bass)

 

Yeah, i saw it, that's why i didn't mention you in my post

 

Oh. I just thought you were being polite by not lumping me in with the others in their late twenties.

 

Better be on the lookout for Jody.

 

Aww

 

Haha, no...means absolutely nothing. Thank god there's someone else who feels my pain!

 

So... what do you think the correlation is between uber-horny women, less-than-normally horny men, and Acurazine?

 

The women on here are planning on using the AZ male collective to fullfill their sexual desires.

 

Ugly women, hot men.....

 

Orly...You callin me ugly, Whiskers?

 

Ill need naked pics for more evaluation.....

 

k, so yesterday was our 9year anniversary.. after dinner we came home, he laid on the couch and i fed the baby..
then he went to sleep... WTF??????
i woke him up, to come to bed, and he didn't even get off the couch till 4am..
ON OUR ANNIVERSARY!!!!!

totally thought i'd be gettin some

what's up w/ him????

 

Your guess is as good as mine.

I have always made sure that I (we) get some on every anniversary (marriage, enagement, house purchase, etc, etc).

That on top of the regular schedule

 

A new trick I've recently figured out is to offer a no-strings BJ... unless he's actually legitimately tired, he'll accept... and then I just go really slow so he gets impatient and wants to ... move on, so to speak.

My stock in the BJ Skills dept has definitely slacked, but he probably just thinks I'm in a slump.

<--evilly manipulative, but I get what I want, damn it.

 

What do you look like?

 

5'9" blonde hair to my a$$ 135... it's not that
cause he's ALWAYS tellin me how hott i am, and always gettin a woody for me, jsut won't give it up.. and i've tried the BJ thing.. sometimes he actually pushes me away... i'm confused?????
and NO he's not gay

 

Yeah, count me as someone else who doesn't get that. It's completely normal for the frequency to slow down, but I don't think I've EVER said no or resisted. One thing that I have noticed is that it tends to work better on weekends when we're not completely beat at the end of the day. Another issue might be if he "takes care of himself" too much. Challenge him to go a week without, and see how much he wants it at the end.

 

i've asked him if he does that often he said no like 1 time every week or two....

he really doens't watch porn.. i think he jsut lost his sex drive fo some reason...
but then again why does he get wood around me all the time and not let me do somethin about it.....
god i hate this and i can't believe that i'm talking about it here.... guess i really need advise

 

Wanna cyber?

 

Dude, tell me you're kidding. That' s so very inappropriate.

 

 

Yep, assuming he is faithful (and I have no reason to think he isn't), you are dealing with a lower sex drive. Have you guys talked about it? I would just be straight with him. Either he will "suffer" (yeah right) and give you more attention, or you will uncover a bigger problem. Either way, it's better to do it sooner than later.

 

he is faithful to me, so no that's not the problem.. i have talked to him about it, he just says that's he's tired (he's not to tired to stay up till 2-3 am playing on the computer or x-box). he know's how i feel, but doesn't seem to wanna change for me.
It wouldn't be so hard if he would stop teasing me, he loves to do that, get me all worked up, then say you're gonna get some tonight, then of course i don't.

and now when he says that, if i say "sure" then he says well with that attitude you're not.. i don't even have an attitude i just say it, i'm tired of getting all excited and gitty to get let down, i can't tell you how many times i'll go to bed and cry, i NEVER tell him though, cause the one time that i did, he said that t mad him feel crappy, and i don't wanna do that either.. i have no clue

maybe some addvise on how to get him to stop teasing me, since i think that i'm doomed to a sex-less life...

i'll never leave him, he loves me with all his heart, and i love him the same.. i've just decided that sex isn't everything in a relationship, love is so much more (don't get me wrong GOD I WANT IT, but.... )

i mean i do so much for him, and he does take it for granted.. i take care of the baby by myself, after i get him after work, i clean up after him (hubby) .. he's really messy.. i mean what more could he want... no i don't cook, but that's cause he does.

 

Think about what you're saying? He puts a guilt trip on you because HE "feels crappy" when you cry at night? That's exactly how he should feel. Call me crazy, but I actually like to fix a problem when I know it exists. Trust me: it is much worse for you to let this go and build resentment. That's a lot harder to fix than sexual frustration. Sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel, and be completely honest. If he uses the tired excuse again, just go for it on Saturday or Sunday morning when you wake up.

 

Wow, this is making me want to cry.
First, the point of teasing and bulding sexual tension is to heighten the plesure and climax. Not to just torture you. If you think torture is too strong a word for something your husband is doing to you, here is the relivent part of the definition from freediconary.com " 2. Excruciating physical or mental pain; agony: the torture of waiting in suspense". Does this sound true or am I missing the mark? I hate to be this blunt, but i think this is bull#^&*. I do not like women who tease and blue ball anymore than men who do. He cannot play this game and not expect you to do something about. I do not know how long you two have been togather, but he may have things in his past that have messed him up sexually and if so, he needs to deal with him for you twos sake and the sake of your new baby that will become a man or woman (I don't know if it is a boy or girl so I am stuck typing extra, sorry). I do not want to go that far into what those things may be but you can guess or PM me and I will talk to you more that way. I jsut do not want to hijack the thread unless there are more of you unsexed women that want me to.

 

i've tried that too TRUST ME
i've even tried to wake him w/ a BJ... & nada

 

consider yourself warned whiskers.

stop laming up good threads with your pathetic commentary.

 

Hey, I resemble that remark. Or wait, were you talking about the ladies in their late 20's??

Personally, I just don't get it. Any man with a penis should be happy to get sex at any time. I'll never understand guys who aren't in the mood. If the wind blows just the right way... I'm fired up. Makes no sense to me...

 

It was just a lame joke.....(posting while drunk is not good I suppose).