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06-20-2007, 07:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Babyfer
laughing, i guess.. but either way the car is mine , he has a honda pilot, but should i really throw away 10 years cause of no sex?
06-20-2007, 09:17 PM
#364
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It's very sad to see that most married couples have lost it when it comes to sex life. True kids do get in the way but damn!!! 
I always thought and convinced I was underfed after 4yrs of marriage(once a week or three times per month at most) but jesus I never knew it was like this...It doesn't have to be like this though may be your partner feels the same way...Ahh if it was possible to make some kinda schedule 
I always thought and convinced I was underfed after 4yrs of marriage(once a week or three times per month at most) but jesus I never knew it was like this...It doesn't have to be like this though may be your partner feels the same way...Ahh if it was possible to make some kinda schedule
06-20-2007, 09:24 PM
#365
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May be my end is near?! 
06-20-2007, 09:36 PM
#366
I love cars!
I still say it's not normal. Had you guys had a direct, sober conversation about what his needs are (does he have a PC porn stash that "does it" for him, so you don't have to?) I just can't see a straight 32 yo man witha hot 29 yo wife who looks her over and says "nah, I'm alright, I'm good" rather than jumpipng her bones over a FOUR MONTH period.
I still say something on the side, or his masculinity's in doubt, in all seriousness.
Option two is for you to find a fuckbuddy...casual, no-strings-attached sex, then you go back home to your otherwise normal routine.
I still say something on the side, or his masculinity's in doubt, in all seriousness.
Option two is for you to find a fuckbuddy...casual, no-strings-attached sex, then you go back home to your otherwise normal routine.
06-20-2007, 09:52 PM
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^ 
It boggles the mind.
I couldn't imagine being in a relationship that seems so cold, with no apparent communication.
What does he say when you ask for sex? Do you ever yell or fight over this? I honestly have a hard time picturing what your going through.
It boggles the mind. I couldn't imagine being in a relationship that seems so cold, with no apparent communication.
What does he say when you ask for sex? Do you ever yell or fight over this? I honestly have a hard time picturing what your going through.
06-20-2007, 11:40 PM
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when i ask for sex, he's "too tired" course this was the excuse when he didn't have a job for 6 mos too. when i get sad and cry saying that i NEED IT, then he turns it on me, that i made him feel bad for not doing it, when i ask if he's not happy with something about me he always says no. i would liek to see a counceler (sp) but he won't honestly, i think that he's just got no drive, i've turned on, you know the weak porn on tv, and still nothing gets him in the mood, but yes he still does continue to tease me and promise it "on the weekend" i still seriously try to give him a bj and he pushes me away, it's not the baby's fault either, he goed to bed pretty early. he IS again playing on the internet till 1am, playing everquest again, i know this cause he plays with our friends sometimes too.
and when i do say that i'm gonna go find some, he makes me feel bad, when he makes a face and says you don't want me.. that's NOT the case. seriously though, if we agreed on it, would that make me a bad wife?? or no cause he would know? and i think since JJ was born, it's honestly been like 4 MAYBE 5 times since april 06.. sooo sad
and when i do say that i'm gonna go find some, he makes me feel bad, when he makes a face and says you don't want me.. that's NOT the case. seriously though, if we agreed on it, would that make me a bad wife?? or no cause he would know? and i think since JJ was born, it's honestly been like 4 MAYBE 5 times since april 06.. sooo sad
06-21-2007, 12:44 AM
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Man after reading this thread it makes me not want to marry.
I guess ray and debra on everybody loves raymond were like a real couple.
I guess ray and debra on everybody loves raymond were like a real couple.
06-21-2007, 01:04 AM
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i didn't watch that show, so he lost his sex drive too?
i guess it's funny cause when we got married, i said the sex better not change, and he agreed.. funny that years later, he's the one to change.. i guess i am backwards....lol.. the girly is supposed to stop 1st
i guess it's funny cause when we got married, i said the sex better not change, and he agreed.. funny that years later, he's the one to change.. i guess i am backwards....lol.. the girly is supposed to stop 1st
06-21-2007, 07:31 AM
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06-21-2007, 10:01 AM
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Wow, I was wondering what ever happened with this.
And like dominator said, it boggles the mind to think that he is still acting like this. I know a lot of people were wondering if he was cheating....have you seen any signs of this?
Anyways, just remember that you aren't doing anything wrong. This is completely his fault. Good luck
And like dominator said, it boggles the mind to think that he is still acting like this. I know a lot of people were wondering if he was cheating....have you seen any signs of this?
Anyways, just remember that you aren't doing anything wrong. This is completely his fault. Good luck
06-21-2007, 01:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Babyfer
i didn't watch that show, so he lost his sex drive too?
i guess it's funny cause when we got married, i said the sex better not change, and he agreed.. funny that years later, he's the one to change.. i guess i am backwards....lol.. the girly is supposed to stop 1st
i guess it's funny cause when we got married, i said the sex better not change, and he agreed.. funny that years later, he's the one to change.. i guess i am backwards....lol.. the girly is supposed to stop 1st
06-21-2007, 02:19 PM
#374
Originally Posted by Trackruner228
Yeah thats pretty much what happened on that show expect she never wanted to have sex and he always did. It was pretty funny but apparently its more accurate then I thought. I figured it would go down a little but man apparently it goes down a lot.
This is far beyond an extreme case.
06-21-2007, 02:29 PM
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Originally Posted by Scottman111
This is far beyond an extreme case.
Plus it involves a homosexual or a guy who's getting it elsewhere.
We just haven't figured out which it is yet.
Could you imagine turning down a BJ?
06-21-2007, 02:36 PM
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Originally Posted by dom
Plus it involves a homosexual or a guy who's getting it elsewhere.
We just haven't figured out which it is yet.
To be honest, I'm leaning toward homo.
It seems like if a guy is cheating, he'll occasionally bang his wife a few times a week when his other partner isn't putting out.
But to just stop like this guy did.....makes you wonder
06-21-2007, 02:55 PM
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This guy is definitely screwy.
You need to wake up and dump this loser while you're still relatively young.
Find a guy to bang you the way you want to be banged. Sex is such a huge deal in relationships that I can't believe you've lasted this long without cheating.
Just because you split over sex doesn't mean that he'll stop being a father to your child. Share custody, but find someone else to feed you the rabid anaconda.
He may not necessarily be gay or cheating... It could be something else, like he's completely psychotic and has some eerie fetish you know nothing about. It could be anything, really. You've given him PLENTY of opportunity to make this right, and he's being selfish by not taking care of his wife.
Fuck that, leave this jerk.
You need to wake up and dump this loser while you're still relatively young.
Find a guy to bang you the way you want to be banged. Sex is such a huge deal in relationships that I can't believe you've lasted this long without cheating.
Just because you split over sex doesn't mean that he'll stop being a father to your child. Share custody, but find someone else to feed you the rabid anaconda.
He may not necessarily be gay or cheating... It could be something else, like he's completely psychotic and has some eerie fetish you know nothing about. It could be anything, really. You've given him PLENTY of opportunity to make this right, and he's being selfish by not taking care of his wife.
Fuck that, leave this jerk.
06-21-2007, 03:06 PM
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So, are we all trying to bang this girl or is he a real looser?
06-21-2007, 03:33 PM
#380
Originally Posted by amisconception
This guy is definitely screwy.
You need to wake up and dump this loser while you're still relatively young.
Find a guy to bang you the way you want to be banged. Sex is such a huge deal in relationships that I can't believe you've lasted this long without cheating.
Just because you split over sex doesn't mean that he'll stop being a father to your child. Share custody, but find someone else to feed you the rabid anaconda.
He may not necessarily be gay or cheating... It could be something else, like he's completely psychotic and has some eerie fetish you know nothing about. It could be anything, really. You've given him PLENTY of opportunity to make this right, and he's being selfish by not taking care of his wife.
Fuck that, leave this jerk.
You need to wake up and dump this loser while you're still relatively young.
Find a guy to bang you the way you want to be banged. Sex is such a huge deal in relationships that I can't believe you've lasted this long without cheating.
Just because you split over sex doesn't mean that he'll stop being a father to your child. Share custody, but find someone else to feed you the rabid anaconda.
He may not necessarily be gay or cheating... It could be something else, like he's completely psychotic and has some eerie fetish you know nothing about. It could be anything, really. You've given him PLENTY of opportunity to make this right, and he's being selfish by not taking care of his wife.
Fuck that, leave this jerk.
06-21-2007, 04:21 PM
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Originally Posted by amisconception
This guy is definitely screwy.
You need to wake up and dump this loser while you're still relatively young.
Find a guy to bang you the way you want to be banged. Sex is such a huge deal in relationships that I can't believe you've lasted this long without cheating.
Just because you split over sex doesn't mean that he'll stop being a father to your child. Share custody, but find someone else to feed you the rabid anaconda.
He may not necessarily be gay or cheating... It could be something else, like he's completely psychotic and has some eerie fetish you know nothing about. It could be anything, really. You've given him PLENTY of opportunity to make this right, and he's being selfish by not taking care of his wife.
Fuck that, leave this jerk.
You need to wake up and dump this loser while you're still relatively young.
Find a guy to bang you the way you want to be banged. Sex is such a huge deal in relationships that I can't believe you've lasted this long without cheating.
Just because you split over sex doesn't mean that he'll stop being a father to your child. Share custody, but find someone else to feed you the rabid anaconda.
He may not necessarily be gay or cheating... It could be something else, like he's completely psychotic and has some eerie fetish you know nothing about. It could be anything, really. You've given him PLENTY of opportunity to make this right, and he's being selfish by not taking care of his wife.
Fuck that, leave this jerk.
06-21-2007, 06:46 PM
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that's funny! i just talked to a friend, and he says to try to take care of business, when he's in bed, and when he says what r u doin.. just reply with.. "no worries, i got this!"
LOL
i just might try that
LOL
i just might try that
06-21-2007, 07:44 PM
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Originally Posted by Babyfer
that's funny! i just talked to a friend, and he says to try to take care of business, when he's in bed, and when he says what r u doin.. just reply with.. "no worries, i got this!"
LOL
i just might try that
LOL
i just might try that
Do it right as he's about to fall asleep. Make sure your moans and/or the sounds of toys wakes him up.
06-21-2007, 09:23 PM
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Originally Posted by amisconception
This guy is definitely screwy.
You need to wake up and dump this loser while you're still relatively young.
Find a guy to bang you the way you want to be banged. Sex is such a huge deal in relationships that I can't believe you've lasted this long without cheating.
Just because you split over sex doesn't mean that he'll stop being a father to your child. Share custody, but find someone else to feed you the rabid anaconda.
He may not necessarily be gay or cheating... It could be something else, like he's completely psychotic and has some eerie fetish you know nothing about. It could be anything, really. You've given him PLENTY of opportunity to make this right, and he's being selfish by not taking care of his wife.
Fuck that, leave this jerk.
You need to wake up and dump this loser while you're still relatively young.
Find a guy to bang you the way you want to be banged. Sex is such a huge deal in relationships that I can't believe you've lasted this long without cheating.
Just because you split over sex doesn't mean that he'll stop being a father to your child. Share custody, but find someone else to feed you the rabid anaconda.
He may not necessarily be gay or cheating... It could be something else, like he's completely psychotic and has some eerie fetish you know nothing about. It could be anything, really. You've given him PLENTY of opportunity to make this right, and he's being selfish by not taking care of his wife.
Fuck that, leave this jerk.
06-21-2007, 09:36 PM
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Originally Posted by SaraWI
Thank you, yes..I'd say everyone here probably agrees with this. Myself included who was once in almost the EXACT same situation. I finally did do some drastic things to change. I was all but one fricken toe out the door before he came to realize what the hell he was doing to me. I'm talking drastic, sister. Now things are much, much better and, while unconventional, our sex life is fan-fucking-tastic. So I guess the moral of the story is that there is hope, but dammit, take control of your life or suffer the consequences. I can say all this because I know and I have been there and back...
06-21-2007, 09:38 PM
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Originally Posted by SaraWI
Thank you, yes..I'd say everyone here probably agrees with this. Myself included who was once in almost the EXACT same situation. I finally did do some drastic things to change. I was all but one fricken toe out the door before he came to realize what the hell he was doing to me. I'm talking drastic, sister. Now things are much, much better and, while unconventional, our sex life is fan-fucking-tastic. So I guess the moral of the story is that there is hope, but dammit, take control of your life or suffer the consequences. I can say all this because I know and I have been there and back...
06-21-2007, 09:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Gpump
Not to be a perv or anything, but now you got me wondering what "unconventional" means. Sorry. Glad your situation turned out for the better.
Thanks--I'm glad things worked out too. I also didn't want to throw away 10 years. We always were best friends--we just lost sight of what is important in a relationship. Once that became a priority again--wow. This has been the best year of my life and we're not turning back...
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Originally Posted by Babyfer
that's funny! i just talked to a friend, and he says to try to take care of business, when he's in bed, and when he says what r u doin.. just reply with.. "no worries, i got this!"
LOL
i just might try that
LOL
i just might try that
