my best female friend game me an ultimatum this weekend.

she said that either I marry her, or everything I've ever told her is lies, and we're no longer friends. WTF!?!?!

 

to the entire thing.

But the "or else nothing you ever said was true" part is so overly dramatic and manipulative.

 

 

Wow. I think I would have to away from that situation. WTF are you supposed to do? If you give in, she will be doing that to you the rest of your life.

By the way....Have you ever told her you have an interest in marrying her?

 

Errr...You don't "give in" to marriage. You want to be married.

 

I know. Sorry....I was trying to emphersise how retarded it would be for him to marry this chick. It will be the same as GIVING IN.

 

I fell in love with my best friend and she fell in love with me and decided to tell me after i told her. We went through a bunch of BS in the past 2 weeks caues of all this but we are good again. Take the chance man you never know when you will pass up your chance to be with your soulmate. Now we are going to New years even in NYC wahooooooo we leave on saturday haha and for christmas she got us matching tie dye bandanas haha. (yes we are tie dye people who rock berkin's and hemp)

 

But yeah, I know Astro's not the type to get married simply cuz she gave him an ultimatum or pressured him.

 

I thought for some reason, that I read he wasn't planning on getting married. Could be wrong.

 

but she has told me for years that she wants me to marry her and give her children. I have steadfastly held my ground that we are just friends.

We had a 1month relationship 4 or 5 yrs ago, and have been friends since.

 

you read right. no plans for marriage, or children.

 

Nice. It should be interesting when you speak to her.

 

Get drunk with her one night, try making out. If it doesn't work out blame it on the booze and move on. If it does, you might get what you want.

 

i'm in the navy and i'm stationed here in norfolk, va. back in november i had a gf (jess) i was happy with who lives in virginia beach. come thanksgiving time i went home (in louisville, ky) to be with my family and i spent some time with my best friend of 4 years named laura.we met in college together and i've always liked her more than a friend. basically she breaks down thanksgiving weekend that she wants to be with me and always has, but was too afraid to ruin the friendship. but she's not worried anymore because she knows we could work. needless to say after i heard that, i didn't really seem happy to be with jess anymore and she seemed very immature as she is only 18. so i broke it off with her. it was tough, but i am now happier with laura and i can see this working very long term.


laura and i

 

Congrats, and nice pic.

 

In my case I took a chance and we've been together for two years now

 

My goal was always to have a great friend first then have a relationship with her.
This way you know all the goods and the bads of the person.
I ended up jumping ladders and it's been awesome ever since. She is a great friend of mine still and an awesome partner.

You should express your interest to her or you'll never know what she would have said.

Good luck

 

I'm in love with my best friend... She knows, but doesn't feel the same way. We're still friends though and it really only bothers me when I'm alone thinking about it. When I'm with her, it's fine.

 

How bout this then....I really like this girl at work....not crazy in love not that i think i am..but i cant keep her off my mind and we have become good friends but i have a girl that i love and have been with for 5 years but its been kinda dull lately and i am moving foward in my life as my girl isnt moving at my speed...this girl is pretty much what i would like to have but dont want to ruin a good friendship or a work relationship and dont want to break my current girlfriends heart...she's very dependent on me and thats the part thats pushing me away and maybe causing me to like this girl at work since she is more independent...what would you do?

 

If my memory is any good...you two are engaged, correct?

 

I had a really good guy-friend in college that I had no idea was into me & had never really thought of in a romantic light. Not because of any shortfall on his part, it just hadn't occurred to me. Not sure what happened, but one night we ended up in the sack (& no, I wasn't drunk). We've been together about 11 years now, married almost 6, and are ridiculously happy. Point being that, as mentioned, friendship is an excellent basis for a relationship.

I never imagined I'd end up marrying someone I started dating at 19, but he was just too good to give up.

 

seeing all these people who have dated their best friends and then getting married later on gives me a good hope for my gf and i's future. Everything is going great (except for the fact that she's 600 miles away ) but she graduates college in 2008 and i am willing to wait for her and then get married.

 

tough situation.... i fell hard for my best friend when i was a senior in high school. she was dating someone at the time. me and her went down the shore, we drank and started hookin up. she ended up breakin up with her boyfriend. we were hookin up but she didnt wanna date anyone at the time since she was fresh out of a relationship. i had this other girl i liked knockin on my door. so i told my best friend the deal and she still didnt wanna date. so i dated the other chick and never spoke to my best friend again. she was HOTTT and i miss her.... damn it did ruin my friendship

 

friends come and go....but you dont want to go around always saying WHAT IF....i hate that thought...

 

Alright, heres how it worked with me and one of my best friends. We both had feelings for each other but we decided we should save the friendship. It was a good idea we have been friends for years. There is one HUGE problem. She went out and picked the worlds biggest faggot to date EVER. He hated me but he said "sorry" and apparently didnt hate me anymore. Also he woudlnt tell me to my face I had to read his livejournal to relieze why I was such a jerk. So now that has kind of ruined my friendship with her becuase obviously she is closer to her loser boyfriend. I hate him so much like he honestly fucked my friendship badly. So just be careful if you dont date her thats fine (I would NOT take back the fact we didnt date) but just make sure she gets a good boyfriend.

 

Not much else for to say but I'll take the chance and if the friendship is meant to work out then it will. That's just me though....

 

We are

 

^ Cool, congrats

 

How long have you known her?

Since, say, you were 5 years old? If so, something would have probably happened by now. Don't chance it.

A few years? Well, if you've only known her a few years and you get along so well I would take the chance. But make sure you go about it in a more casual way. Don't come pouring out all at once. You obviously get along with this girl well enough to be best friends, and that is the stuff marriages can be made of.

 

lol me too my gf knows i like my best female friend too. she greek wit h green eye. god dammn shes gorgeous

 

from my experience, go for what you want. if it works out for you great, if it doesn't, prepare to lose that friend and have it blow up in your face.

 

Fuck this bitch.

 

 

^^

she's mad sketchy...fuck her

 

Sounds like you've solved that problem...

 

= one relationship in all of our lives

 

How did we get here? Did you mention/try something and it blew up in your face?

Story time. After all, you started this thread.....

 

LMFAO!!!

 

Nah she's just been mad suspect bout shit lately. She's really wierd sometimes I can't stand it. This makes me not want to have a relationship or anything like that wit her...she's still gorgeous though I can't help that. But we'll see, for now I'm just letting it be. I'm having a great time being single don't really wanna mess wit that right now anyway.