ok I'm having a tough time not because I can't find a girl. It is because I can't make enough to support a potential future wife. It really sucks because I have met some really nice women where I was thinking wow I'd marry her if I had the financial stability.

I meet women who have big jobs and money, but they are butt ugly. They don't do anything for me. They are really into me, but I am totally turned off. On the other hand, the girls I go for are attractive and broke like me.

I know some of my friends got married to women who basically made all the money and they own them now. They bake pies, babysit kids in their wifes family, and clean the house etc. All they get out of it is sex. I refuse to go out like that! I plan on keeping my manhood. I am a sworn member of No M'am. (National organization of men against amazion masterhood)

Should I play the ugly rich chicks for money and see the hot girls on the side? Hold out, continue my education and rough it until someone takes some pity on me and offers me a job? Wait to strike paydirt with a girl who's hot and rich?

 

Once the other testicle drops you will eventually find the right man/woman (who am I to judge?) and money won't matter. I mean, its good to set goals for financial freedom but don't do it to try to land a girl/guy...

My opinion: A woman that marries you because of what you can provide will leave you for the pool boy with the 12" rod and take half your stuff with her. A woman that marries you when you have nothing but yourself to offer is the one that will stand by your side through the good and bad times.

-Mark

 

ummm....

 

You have a very set of choices you've set up for yourself.

1) Only play the rich ones and see the hot ones on the side if you are a dirtbag.
2) People don't give jobs out of pity.
3) Hot rich girls aren't looking for you unless you are a pool boy with a 12" tool.

Go with none of the above. If you aren't satisfied with your means, better yourself. Don't expect improved means out of a relationship that you expect to last.

 

You're still young and I don't know why you sound pessimisitic about your financial situation and wife prospects. You can still plan for the future you want for yourself and take steps to achieve them.

If that future involves settling down with someone you really want, just continue your education and use what you learn to ensure financial stability. Go out with women you really like, especially if you are dating girls of your age since you guys are still just starting out your careers.

 

damn, you're only 23 and you're stressed out about this?

if it's true love, you go through EVERYTHING together.... I mean... so you date someone that's "broke" like you... but you're attractive to her and vice versa, right? And there's chemistry mentally and physically. What do I mean by EVERYTHING? I mean... you go through financial struggles together, you buy a house together, you have good times and bad times TOGETHER... You decide what wall papers together. Suppose you make ALL the money in the world, and you find someone that likes you, BUT wouldn't have given you the time of day if you were just "average" (financially), well, what does that really tell you about her?

 

they bake pies

 

You need humor, charisma, and skills to attract ladies. Money helps but it's not the only thing women look for.
Ugly women are just ugly, if you can't see yourself with an ugly woman the chances are you shouldn't be with them.


"Never Settle" and "Go for what you desire" are 2 of the best advice I can give you.

 

you're only 23, man. you still have lots of time.

i'd say continue your education and let things flow naturally. don't try to force a relationship for the sake of it.

and i agree with boostedjack. humor, charisma, and being able to hold a conversation is what will eventually get you a girlfriend. don't try settle for a ugly girl if you can't imagine yourself with her. and don't try to target a hot girl because then you're just making things difficult for yourself.

and if you're running into girls that aren't attracted to you because of your income, then you're better off without them anyways.

 

It's interesting that the ugly women have the $$$. This contradicts research that finds a posivitive correlation between looks and income. I'd echo the sentiment that you need to look past the money, as well as the looks. Both can be fleeting, so find something with more substance.

 

Looks>Money. I'd marry a dirt poor good looking girl over a rich ugly girl. I'd rather be happy and stressed than unhappy and relaxed.

Mike

 

i'd take the chick with the $$$

 

The attractive women with $$$ are out with attractive men with $$$.

The ugly women with $$$ are looking for boy toys because the attractive men with $$$ are busy, as noted above.

That doesn't contradict the research.

 

earning capacity (present and future) is very important. When I met my wife (now ex), we did not even think about it. Later on in the years, she made about 25% of what I made, partly cause she had the choice on how much she wanted to work. I did not care as I made enough for both of us. Well, now I am divorced and I think back about it. We would have been so set had she been an equitable party in the income dept. I am not single and it is hard to find a woman with decent income and no issues (if you know what I mean).

You are still young but even though you are not making much now, don't settle for looks with no potential...

 

Makes sense !

 

I agree. You can't fawk money. Literally anyway.

 

Both come and go.....Doesn't matter. Marry for love...

 

Personality,Compatibility > *

 

with SwervinCL ....personality and compatability is what keeps you there in the long run.....

 

find a girl in the middle... not ugly... not beautiful...

she should have some kinda money and be a little easier on the eyes!

 

I married a girl with no $$, but with awesome looks. We've been through thick and thin TOGETHER. I didn't start out making great money but we managed and raised 3 kids. I make good money now and the kids are all grown. It's what's inside that is important. If she is a great girl with looks too, that a bonus. Your only 23, take your time. One day you will finish school and get into the working world. Nothing wrong with being financially ready for marriage. My son is 30 and still dating. He makes about as much as I do and can do whatever because he has money now. But, if your looking for a part time job for some extra good money, check this out:

www.monavie.com

PM me if intertested. Good luck!!

 

+ 1

 

Date ugly women with money and have them get plastic surgery.

 

Does anybody remember that King of Queens episode where Doug's neighbor convinces him to become a distributor for that water filtration system?

 

HAHAHAHA i remember that one!!


i heard some comedian say that people shouldnt marry for money.... but money will get u so damn close to love u cant tell the difference!

 

Hmmm... or... how bout being a man and situate yourself to make money?

Get a job, go back to school, get career oriented, etc.

Honestly... do you go out there and say "Hey, I want that girl. Yup that one right there. Sure she's stupid, broke, unmotivated and lazy, but at least she'll look hot for five, or maybe ten more years!"

Yeah buddy.. Women don't do that either.

 

money is the root of all evil, but damn i love it so.

anyway, be patient and you'll find a wonderful girl with a great personality. when you get to know her, you'll find that certain characteristics can make her hot. money will come with hard work from both of you...teamwork!