This may seem kinda silly to some of you guys, but I just asked a woman out and we both don't share a language that we're both fluent in. I speak english, cantonese and spanish and she speaks portuguese, some english and understands spanish. Although she can understand me when I speak spanish, I can't understand portuguese. She's cute as hell though.

What I'm getting to is, has any one of you went out with, dated or even married a person and language was a problem (at least in the begining)? If so, how was it dealt with? Was it a difficult? Did it work out?

I sweared to God that this wouldn't happen to me nor would I allow it to either after talking shit about a friend who was struggling to communicate with a woman he met in China, who eventually became his wife. I guess my rational side lost this round.

 

eh just speak slowly in standard English

 

 

Not even close.

Oh, yeah

 

SPEAK LOUDLY AND SLOWLY TO HER
& make lots of hand gestures.

 

One of my good friends married a Russian woman, he is 62 she is 32. When they met she spoke minimal English, she is getting a lot better and treats him great, they are very happy together and are both very appreciative for what they've learned from each other. Like most relationships you only get out what you put in. At first it was very difficult, but they both wanted to learn from each other. Now he speaks a bit of Russian and she speaks very good English. The language wasn't the problem as much as the lifestyle difference, being born and raised in Russia is very different from the USA, if there are no huge cultural differences then language is easy to overcome.

 

she's not deaf LOL

 

that's encouraging. i just hope she'll like me. She's a latina and I know some south american culture, just not from the country where she's from.

i hope i'm not going to screw myself over.

 

i dont' really see a big deal. It's always worth a try. If you get stuck, there's always altavista babelfish translator handy.

 

My girl is from Taiwan and in the beginning we had to say "what?" alot. After a year we converse very well...if she's worth it you'll do just fine

 

Well try to stay on the spanish and her speak portuguese..It is so similar that if you just listen carefully you can get it. I remember this portugese guy nailed my car at a light and I spoke to him in Spanish and he spoke to me in Portuguese and we came to a common result that he is an ass and owes me money but the communication wasnt that much of a problem.

 

It'll work out if you try to make it work. Eventually, you either learn her language a bit or her english becomes fluent.

 

good luck mang.. hope it works out well for you

 

speak in the internationa language of love

 

 

>speak in the internationa language of love