Alright so this girl I have been "seeing" or "fooling around with" or whatever you want to call it...she is still interested in me, which surprises even herself. Its because of the mystery, I don't call her all the time, I don;t ask her to dinner, I don;t send her flowers and all this stupid shit that other guys do to try and get in her good graces...AND IT FUCKING WORKING, I AM SHOCKED.

I have all of this from her roomate, told through my roomates girlfriend.

What I want to know, is how do I keep this mystery going? When to open up and what not? I definitely like this girl a lot, fooling around is great and I like what we have, BUT, I would not be oppsed in the least if it were to evolve into more.


What are all the suggestions?

 

Lay off the booz.

 

Nothing wrong with two people going out for dinner every once in awhile. Hold off on the flowers and shit. Don't call her all the time, but just enough that she knows that you're still there. It'll keep her wanting more.

 

just go w/ the flow... stick w/ what works... smack dat booty hard

 

damn, i wish the guy i had been "fooling around with"/hanging out, etc would have feelings for me.

my only advice: take it slow.

i'd suggest going to lunch first, then progress to dinner.

 

chicks like the assholes

 

She seems to like guys who have a life of their own, other interests besides hitting it...maybe someone that leaves her alone when she wants to be left alone? She probably appreciates the low-key approach.

But you can't build a further relationship on keeping it a "mystery" constantly and if you get more serious with her she might get a little tired of it because no one wants to constantly keep guessing...too damn hard. I would say for now just take it easy, don't open up until you feel like you have something important to say, like when you decide that you have strong feelings for her.