Hey guys, thought I'd vent here and get some input... Anyway, here it goes.

Basically this all started 2 weeks ago when my friend called me to a local diner to come meet a girl. He and his girlfriend set me up with their friend for our Junior Prom. This girl and my friends girlfriend go to a charter school a half hour away. Anyway, so were good to go with that, and I set up a date just to get to know each other. Never intended for it really to develop into anything. Anyway, we get to talking and she asks me to take her to her junior (formal combo) prom. I accept the invitation and offer to take her.

We hang out, talk, go out another couple times as friends (and that one together) and so fourth. She even mentions we should go out again, AND that she may drive down to SC this summer and asks if I want to go. So we are still just friendly I guess, I know its not safe to make any assumptions. So I pay for all the tickets to both proms, flowers, corsages, my tux for hers, totaling 400-500 all said and done. Afterall, she asked if I wanted to take her, so I treated her.

Fast forward to last (Friday) night. We are having fun about an hour in, and she mentions she needs to go outside for a smoke... Now putting aside she doesn't actually smoke I think alright. She says she will be right back, I sit at the table for about 30-45 minutes. She finally comes back, we dance for a little while more, shes a lot less into it (I have an inkling something is up) and then this guy comes up and actually takes her hand while we are dancing, refuses to look at me, and she tells me shes gonna run outside... Gone another 45 minutes and this time when she comes back she keeps hidden. I know NOBODY at this place but my friend (who recovered from girlfriend addiction after 6 months by the way, or at least talks to us again), his girlfriend, and my date. She's behind me clearly into this guy, so I just ignore it. She's with him the rest of the night except for the last dance, when she is just staring at him... Now from a completely not gay perspective this fucker has a giant head, half formed ears, a nose bigger than his over sized head, and weighs about 95 pounds.

So anyway... It ends with us walking to the car, her asking if I mind driving her to her car, and my friend telling me when she gets out that she asked the other kid if he wanted to drive... Basically they went somewhere together. My friends girlfriend (as well as some of her friends, including one who's had an abortion and 8 guys in a week) are very apologetic, unnecessarily, saying they didn't expect this behavior. I'm not crushed, killed, etc, but I feel kinda like a tool. I did have some fun, but I also was left alone for more than half the night while my date who invited me and I treated was god knows where with "balloon head sped."

Now in terms of my treatment of this fucker. I was so close to kicking his ass in there, but there were a handful of cops, and I didn't want to embarrass those I was with. The big thing is I think I could have seriously hurt him, and I can't afford an assault charge as it can hurt my military ambitions. They were all going to a local resteraunt afterwards, and we were going to drop my friends girlfriend off at home and go back and teach him something about the "Man Code," but my friends girlfriend basically asked us to respect her and not do so.

So fast forward to today. My semi-formal is tonight. She is still going with me, shes acting like nothing happened and she really wants to go. I told her that I wasn't sure since she stood me up last night. She didn't "mean to make me feel stood up" and she didn't respond when I said well "you left me alone with a bunch of strangers while you went god knows where with some guy who dumped his girlfriend right there for you, tell me if I'm missing something."

Now I know their are retributive ways to get back at her, and no, I don't plan to call her back. Tonight we were going to bail early and go out somewhere. I honestly don't know what will come of it. It's not a relationship I'm looking for, but is it worth just hooking up with her if the opportunity presents itself... I know she is apparently garbage, but I don't expect all the girls I'm with to be church going virgins.

Just venting and looking for peoples thoughts and such.

Thanks guys,

Cliffs:
-Setup for semi-formal with friends girflriends friend
-She invites me to escort her to her formal
-we go out a couple times
-She leaves me alone and spends the majority of the night with some partial birth abortion
-She is still excited about tonights prom at my school

Mike

 

Mike, ditch her like the plague...you don't deserve this John-Kerrying type of treatment. Her behavior at her formal was inexcusable and you have every right to be mad and offended.

 

I'm seriously contemplating it. But the situation becomes more wound up than that. I'd rather bring a date than go alone, as the girls at my school are even worse than this girl, and I figure I still can possibly get some fun out of it. Basically tonight there will be nobody she knows to go off with and kids respect me at my school enough not to fuck with me like that, and we are all going out to a "secluded area" afterwards, at least that was the plan.

If everything was going my way nobody would be going to this thing tonight and the guy from last night would have a broken nose. That said, I have plans to accompany my friend to our dance tonight and be the designated driver, third wheeling is even less fun than being caught in a car with this girl.

Mike

 

Shit! I'M mad and offended.

But your prom is tonight. You don't change canoes in the middle of the stream. You've already made an investment.

And, you might get some if she's feeling guilty over last night.

If I had a friend (girl) at the prom who would go along with it, and it looked like a lost cause tonight, I would consider splitting and leaving her sit on her rather public ass.

Turnabout is fair play. What's good for the goose is good for the gander and all that.

Man.... congratulations for keeping your cool last night. It's alright to have the feelings but you don't want to do anything that would mess up your future plans.

But, tomorrow, I would drop kick this beeyotch into the Maine woods.

And tell your friend, "Thanks for the set up!"

 

1) Pics?
2) Any chance of sex?

 

1) Thats the one thing she paid for, her mother drove out 40 minutes to take pictures of us at my friends house. She said her mother loved me because I showed up sober and have no criminal record... I guess that speaks to her moral character

2) At this point I have no fucking idea... But if I go out with a girl of such high moral fiber tonight I think it gives me a better chance than third wheeling with my friend and his unofficial fiance.

Mike

 

I can see your quandary, dude...but, that being said, I'd rather go it alone than lose my dignity especially after the treatment that whore put you through.

 

Make her give you road head on the way there. Then leave her sitting at the table while you go "smoke"....

 

meh...better then going alone...

 

That's stupid.

So, despite the crap treatment from the formal, you're suggesting that Mike swallows his pride and just put up with her for the sake of not going alone...? Ridiculous.

 

dam you got played..she g'd ur head up and u went along and bought everything...now when prom comes around shes gonna ignore u and thats that...and why would u wanna kick that dudes ass? shes not your girl shes just a friend so u'd have no reason to have an issue with him

 

a) This is just some girl, they don't have a past relationship. He is not in love with her.
b) Many girls are this nuts anyways.
c) Its something to do.
d) Maybe she will give him some lovin

 

Lame.

So, for the sake of "getting some" (in your words), you want Mike to throw away his dignity after what that girl did to him...?

Wow.

 

The thing is nobody at my school knows I'm swallowing my pride except for my friend. I'm hoping I get more out of it than a "prom date," and for that I can swallow my pride.

I do see your side, and I heavily considered calling her and just telling her to forget it. I think I can make her even more uncomfortable by making her look at me for a few hours after treating my like crap last night. And I will not be contacting her after the fact. I contemplated this for about 4 hours with my friend last night, I fricken slept on his couch. I even, and this is rare, had a dream about it. No joke, but it was more about going to kick the kids ass and then having someone steal my car.

Now as far as taking issue with the other kid, I have every right to. I agree it is largely her fault but it takes two to tango. I show up driving her, I walk her in, I take pictures with her, I eat with her, and I dance with her for the first hour or so. For him to come, take her hand while shes dancing with me, and bring her god knows where for 45 minutes is ridiculous. Did I mention he was their with his girlfriend, who apparently was pretty devastated that they left together, both during the dance and after. He knew what he was doing was wrong, that's why he wouldn't look at me.

Mike

 

well im from new york city...and when a dude does that...thats called game..its not his fault...its all fair game and aggressive competition... ok u walked her in took pics ate with her...but shes not your girl...therefor shes on the market for any other guy...you interfering with it would be called cockblocking...maybe things r different from where ur from but thats the way things are here in new york...

 

I think its better then not going or being a 3rd wheel....

 

Yeah we hate Yankees fans here, that only has a little to do with it.

"Our" man code states that you don't jack someones date. We went together, and were together for the night. We didn't go as friends, we went as a couple, regardless of our "outside situation." Even that I wasn't sure of, she said she wanted to go out again, so were we "going out," I don't know. I figured I'd play it safe and say no.

Mike

 

I don't see the need to throttle the other guy. Here is my "opinion": If he hits on her in your presence and she tells him to f off and he then continues to hit on her, throttle him. If he hits on her and she accepts the advances and leaves you hanging there then either don't call her and just don't go pick her up or bring her with you and "pay" her back.

 

I understand it was mostly her fault, but I can't hit her. I know me nor any of my friends would go up to someone we knew came with a date, and both leave our GIRLFRIEND hanging, and steal a girl from some kid right in front of him. He was too scared or too ashamed to look at me, but he wouldn't look at me.

Mike

 

exactly its alll different everywhere so i understand ur situation...it was good that you told her no..it seems like to her ur a rag doll and she picks u up whenever shes bored and puts u back down when she finds suttin else to play with...

 

The other guy is a dick, and the girl is not all there (maybe she is trying to make you jealous). Was the girl / other guy drinking before hand?

Do you like this girl? If not, screw it, go to the prom with her and have a fun night...Whatever happens, happens....If you do like her, don't go with her and tell her you aren't in the mood to go to a prom with someone who doesn't stay with their date.

 

You should have walked over to him and asked him to back off...

 

I figured by the point it wasn't worth it, since she left to smoke with another girl and came back with a guy... Too little to late. I almost walked out to find him the second time they "went out for a moment" after 20 minutes.

I liked her, I wasn't infatuated by her. but my attitude about her is now indifferent. I wouldn't be crushed to never see her again, and it wouldn't be a disaster if we had fun tonight.

Mike

 

Sounds like a winner....Have fun.

 

Don't go to prom single. Trust me on that one. Any date is better than no date. Been there, done that. Would never do it again.

 

I don't think so. Mike should be comfortable/confident enough in himself and that he can go to some event by himself if he has to. I don't see what's so tough about it...

And that sure beats the alternative of swallowing his pride (for the sake of "getting some" and not being alone) and taking some bitch who treated him like sh*t.

 

See, I feel the oppisite...I think by going with her, he is being more comfortable / confident...His tone suggests that...The girl still wants to go with him, even if its just as friends, who knows, maybe they will hit it off tonight...Even if not, its no skin off his back...I also think he would be more comfortable going with a "date" then just kinda being a third wheel....

 

JP isn't about pride anyway. It's about showing your friends what you have, and who your date is. It's a one night rental anyway...

But going single sucks. Most people they will have a date, and those who don't have a date (especially the girls) don't have one for a good reason. Thus, you'll have no one desirable to dance with.

 

Just go with her, and if you want, you don't have to talk/dance with her the whole night

 

and end the night with a donkey punch

 

best advice so far. you've been used, but as long as you've laid out the cash might as well make the most of it.

 

was that dude's gf even remotely cute? you could have easily scored a revenge hookup right there. "so my date ran off with your date...want to go have some fun of our own?"

 

Confucious say, "Woman who leave date twice in one night for 45 minute 'smoke break' do not go outside for cigarette, but for other guy sausage."



Take her to the prom, be nice, then start hitting on some other girl, and make her be alone for the night until you are ready to leave and hit it. Then give her some cab money for the ride home in the morning.

 

Well you obviously know she played you. Gotta cut your losses, pride has nothing to do with what others know/think; thats a personal vendetta. This bitch milked you and ditched you and your still taking her. I wouldn't do it, have to teach a bitch like that a lesson.

 

I'd have to go w/ michi's advice, only adding i'd wipe my dick off on her prom dress.

 

no you make the bitch suck it clean. its like one of those golf ball cleaners on the golf course you newb

 

go with her and try to get some ass... then post pics of her

 

The plot unfolds as we speak. Mike has entered the field of battle. In this corner, we have Crazymjb, Future Semper FI; and in that corner, we have Ophelia P. Looneytunz, comforter of the masses.

Stand by for the Ultimate Battle of the Sexes (BOS). Bwa-ha-haaaaa!

 

Go with her, hook up at the prom, leave her there at the end.

 

Heres how it played out. First off, basically she took off the show she put on for the first couple dates. Shes a megabitch. She even said on a few occasions that "nobody could touch her," shes a rich princess who thinks shes a goddess.

I will say going with her to fuck with her head was much more fun than third wheeling, basically because I had something to look at. 45 minutes into it we bailed because as predicted, ours genuinely sucked. We drove into Boston to do... nothing. She did change in the car so at least I saw her in her underwear, but that's as far as it went. It basically consisted of me being sarcastic the entire evening and her being a bitch. We got pulled over in Roxbury for speeding and running a red light (though we weren't and didn't, it was more for being white and in an Acura) and the cop said basically hurry up and get the hell out of here, have a nice night. No ticket.

Apparently she didn't do anything with the other kid except hang out last night (according to my friends girlfriend) but she still bailed on me for him, which is the point.

Cliffs:
-Bail on our prom at 8:15
-Drive around Boston
-Get pulled over in Roxbury and advised to get the hell out
-Walk around the North End
-Drive back to Newton and play man hunt in a sad excuse for woods

I was strangely through desperation turned on by her being a complete bitch, but nothing will come of that. I'll probably debrief her later, gloves off convo which I will post here. Ante-climactic ending to a semi-fun night.

Mike