Ok. From a previous thread I had, I was discussing the fact that my female coworker and I are really cool and have mutual attraction. We work in 2 different locations about 3 miles apart. The big thing was she is in a 5-year relationship. We(and other coworkers) typically go to Happy Hour every other Friday or so. Her and I tend to gravitate towards each other towards the end of the night.

So, we are supposed to all hang out tonite for happy hour. though emails today, she said she was really stressed. So, I asked her about her car cause she had to more money to get it fixed yesterday. She said it wasn't about the car. She said her relationship is really heavy on her head right now. In previous convos b4 today, she told me that she never really gets to see her b/f because he works 2 jobs. So, I guess her attraction to me is not helping out her situation.

So, when she told me that she was having problems with her relationship - she really didn't have to tell her business to me - I told her we talk later on tonight if she wanted to.

Note: I haven't forced anything upon her. When we talk, everything is up for discussion. Case in point: she asked me some girl I went on a date with like 3 weeks. She wanted to see if anything was going on.


Do you think she is on her way out of her relationship?

 

Five year relationship can be hard to give up. Sounds like you'll find out soon enough.

 

True. I think because of convenience and the fact she is hanging around with me and our coworkers who are in our mid-20's, about something, she might be starting to grow apart from her b/f. IMO, I would want someone is kinda detached from my work, but someone I can relate to. 90% of the girls I've dated have been outside of work. 50% have been from college. Since we are coming into our own, and finding things about each other that we like/dislike, I think our attributes are starting to grow for another. I don't think her b/f is a scrub or anything. But, I think things have become old for her relationship. IMO again, after 5 years with the same person, marriage should be on the doorsteps.

 

Perhaps her relationship problems are stemming from her bf not asking her to marry him.

 

MMH, I found out I should have listened to Acura members when they told me not to mess with a coworker. Nothing crazy happened between us, she just got stupid with a phone call, I never called her again (even though we hung out one time after that), and we just never hung out ever again because I couldn't stand her shyness which by the way, makes me look like the bad guy. I regret hanging out with her because now other coworkers are smirking and talking behind my back because who knows what kind of bullshit she told the downstairs crew (I'm with the upstairs crew) about me? Did she tell them I was an asshole because I was supposed to call her and hang out with her for her birthday and I didn't? Did she fail to mention I didn't call her because the 1st and only time I called her because we had plans to go out that day, she cancelled and said she was doing taxes that day? My point is that when things go sour, you have to deal with nosey ass coworkers and although I know that my coworker is 100% at fault, I bet her retarded ass doesn't see it that way and now my downstairs coworkers think I'm an asshole who dumps any girl after 1 or 2 dates for no reason at all. The truth is, I broke out because she was playing too many games with her call me, call me, please for the life of my child call me, yet she wouldn't pick up the phone herself to call, but my coworkers don't know what an attention whore she is. Don't date a coworker. People will talk shit even though they don't know the truth. I know my coworker's too shy and plays games, but I bet she told her buddies, some of whom are my buddies, that I'm just an asshole, so stay away from this girl and you won't be the victim of fake rumors.

 

Rumors don't get passed around over here. We all go to the source if we wanna know info. We are all mature enough not to start petty bullshit games and rumors about other people. She is very open, honest, and ginuine. All my coworkers that I hang with regularly are honest. They all know that we like each other, but as far as rumors of us doing anything...no rumors have been published.

 

What if she turns out to be crazy like my coworker is? I'm just lucky she's not the type with abandonment issues, but she is a nutjob. Any girl who cancels a date on the guy's phone call is not all there. What if your coworker turns out to be crazy like that? What if you take things a step further and she gets obsessed with you? You could lose your job over a piece of ass. Is it worth it? I think not.

 

I've done the crazy coworker chick b4 in the past. From I've seen, and the way I've learned to deal with women so far, I don't think she'll be flipping out on me if we were to get together. I think the reason why some women flip out is because their spouse brings that out of them. I know from my past ex's, I've made them flip out because I pushed them to their limit. Its not even the fact that its a piece of ass, I ginuinely like her. Our friendship is the best thing I could ask for right now. I think that is the best way to consider starting a relationship.

Sidenote: I know that some people in relationships tend to start drama to keep the fire going...which I feel is a very unhealthy thing to do.

 

Actually I think she thinks of you as a friend. Otherwise why would she tell you about her problems. If she has problems in her relationship ,doesnt really mean she is going to inmediately hook up with you after she breaks up with the her BF. DONT BE THE REbound guy . that is pitiful. By the way "love doctor" let it go you are talking about the same girl all the time. You are not cool enough to call yourself the love doctor.

 

If you know women, you know they will tell you their problems to a guy who is not her boyfriend, who is comfortable with, someone she can relate to. I'm in no way a rebound guy. we are coworkers and friends. We like each other. I haven't put her any compromising positions. I haven't made her do anything she didn't want to do. Wait a minute, why am I explaining this to you? I know how she is and how are friendship is right now.

Do you have something against Batin? This is the 2nd time, I've seen you flaming him. what up with that?

 

He definitely has something against TLD. Gem is just mad because he believes girls should be chased and real men don't think like that. Gem, whether you're a guy or a girl, learn from TLD, don't bash TLD.

 

I dont think women should be chased. It has to be a mutual thing . The fact you are wating for her to break up with her boyfriend is pretty pathetic. THAT MAKES YOU the rebound guy that is in case you get some which I dont see happening.

I dont have anything against "The love doctor" except the fact that he cant let go of this coworker thing. SHe didnt like you? big deal, let it go . DOnt be hating on her because she was just not into you. why are you explaining this to me ^^^ ^^^ I guess because what I said makes some sense and you know it , otherwise why bother explaining it to anyone ??? anyway good day

 

dude, I'm not waiting for her to break up with her boyfriend. As a matter of fact, last nite when we were out playing pool, I talked to 2 other ladies right in her front of her.

Everyone is not like you where they can detach themselves because they have no feeling for anyone.

all opinions are definitely welcome, but if all you wanna do is sit back and judge, leave it up to G-O-D.

 

Good luck man, I've done the thing where you try and win a girl over while she's in a relationship and even when she ends up leaving her man (not "for you" but for what ever reason) it hasn't worked out. Something about jumping out of one relationship and directly into the next just doesn't work for most people. The last girl I dated for some what of a long period of time (1 year) was also a co-worker and it totally added stress to the relationship. She also had the issue with a long term relationship with her ex who was still interested in her. Now I don't know this girl or her whole story, but it sounds like she's got a ton of baggage that she'd potentially dump on your relationship (if there was one).

Its tough man, its hard to find a good girl that's more than just someone to hook up with. And it sucks when you think you've found that person but they are already in a relationship. I've learned you just gotta wait it out and see what happens. I honestly wouldn't even bring it up to her that you are interested in being more than just friends. It'll just complicate things. Unless you already have, then...

 

She did like me, son. I didn't like her shy ass, as in I'm not gonna waste my time with a goody 2 shoes, so called christian chick. If you don't know what you're talking about, learn the facts first, son.

 

what up Steve,

I don't want to be the reason why she breaks up with her current b/f. I don't want to be the rebound guy. It def not a hook-up type of thing. We haven't kissed or anything. Frequent intrusion of the 2-foot personal space has occured.

I'm sure she has been thinking about it for a some time now...more so nowadays because she sees my career potential, education, overall good human being. The hugs become longer, and I think shit is starting to add up her mind that will possibly play a role in current relationship.

We were actually supposed to go out tonight to the movies but I cancelled on her. I didn't really feel like going back out to the movies for a 2nd time today. plus she was just getting out of a movie also when she called me to see about the movie we were supposed to see. This all strikes me because A) we were going to hang out on a typically relationship-dedicated nite; B) It was just the 2 of us; C) We were supposed be going all the way to Annapolis...which about 15 mi east of the area we stay.

Not one of us(coworkers) has seen her b/f. I've brought my past girlfriends out with me before and so have some of my other coworkers. But, her b/f can't take a night off to see who his g/f is hanging out with?...Is he imaginary?

 

I've read your previous posts about this girl's current boyfriend and I'm sure he's a huge douchebag, but that doesn't mean she's gonna realize the grass is greener on the other side....

Good luck with her man. Bring her to the next mee

 

I actually have another girl lined up for the next meet. haha. She's actually into modding....rarity.