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Old 09-23-2009, 11:38 AM
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If you and your spouse wake up at different times in the morning....

It must be annoying if your spouse unintentionally wakes you up when getting ready in the morning.
Old 09-23-2009, 11:44 AM
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I'm either a heavy sleeper or she's very quiet getting out of bed. She rarely wakes me up. Thank god.
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What's the time difference between your alarms?
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She usually stays asleep until I finish.
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I don't mind that at all, but my ex used to snooze for at least an hour, meaning I got to hear the alarm go off about 6 or 7 times every morning. That wasn't good. Especially since it frequently woke me, but not him, so I'd have wake him up and ask him to turn it off. Of course, he'd just hit snooze again, and we'd repeat the whole thing 9 minutes later.
Old 09-23-2009, 01:21 PM
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She gets up first. She likes the solitude in the morning. It wouldn't matter though as we both wake up whenever the other one leaves as we have to untangle ourselves from each other.
Old 09-23-2009, 01:34 PM
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My husband has to wake up at 5:45am and I sometimes stay in bed for another 30-45 minutes. When I do stay in bed, he wakes me up before he leaves to give me a hug and a kiss so can't get annoyed at him.
Old 09-23-2009, 01:42 PM
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Originally Posted by dom
I'm either a heavy sleeper or she's very quiet getting out of bed. She rarely wakes me up. Thank god.
Good for you. I'm a very light sleeper, any type of noise will bother me.

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What's the time difference between your alarms?
2.5 hours, 6 vs 8:30

Originally Posted by Doom878
She usually stays asleep until I finish.
You're a good man for not making a lot of noise.

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I don't mind that at all, but my ex used to snooze for at least an hour, meaning I got to hear the alarm go off about 6 or 7 times every morning. That wasn't good. Especially since it frequently woke me, but not him, so I'd have wake him up and ask him to turn it off. Of course, he'd just hit snooze again, and we'd repeat the whole thing 9 minutes later.
So you don't mind that his alarm used to wake you up? I would be ready to kill her if that was an everyday thing.


Well, as you all may have guessed, my wife always wakes me up when she gets ready for work. I'm not faulting her for that but I do wish she actively tried to be quiet. Whenever I have to wake up earlier than someone already sleeping, I try to be as quiet as possible. This is why I'm a fan of carpet instead of hardwood in the bedroom.
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That morning kiss goodbye is pricless.
Old 09-23-2009, 01:45 PM
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Originally Posted by gypsygirl
That morning kiss goodbye is pricless.
I'm not a fan of this unless both parties have brushed/flossed/mouthwashed.
Old 09-23-2009, 01:47 PM
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Originally Posted by badboy


So you don't mind that his alarm used to wake you up? I would be ready to kill her if that was an everyday thing.
Sorry, no, in re-reading that, I wasn't at all clear. My BF wakes me when he's getting ready, and I don't mind at all. I like it that I get a smooch before he leaves.

The ex's incessant alarm made me want to smash something. It's already one of the top 5 worst sounds in the world. Hearing it so many times every morning grated severely, and really affected the quality of what I considered an important hour of sleep. I don't miss it.
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Ok. Hug then. I'm a very light sleeper like you are. Yes, it is annoying to be repeatedly awakened. It's also kindof inconsiderate of the person making excessive niose. I've learned that some people really don't know how to be that quiet. Maybe they walk heavily or click the squeaky doors. I've learned to pick my battles in this area. I've also learned to fall back to sleep quickly. Try hugging. It's nice.
Old 09-23-2009, 01:51 PM
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My wife gets up first. Honestly, I like opening my eyes and turning on the TV when she gets up, then going back to sleep for 30-45 more minutes. Waking up on the first try gives me a really grumpalicious mood all day.
Old 09-23-2009, 02:03 PM
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Originally Posted by gypsygirl
Ok. Hug then. I'm a very light sleeper like you are. Yes, it is annoying to be repeatedly awakened. It's also kindof inconsiderate of the person making excessive niose. I've learned that some people really don't know how to be that quiet. Maybe they walk heavily or click the squeaky doors. I've learned to pick my battles in this area. I've also learned to fall back to sleep quickly. Try hugging. It's nice.

Big fan of hugs in the am.

I agree when you say some people just don't know how to be quiet. My wife is one of them. Most days I'm okay with it, however some days suck especially if you didn't sleep well the entire night.
Old 09-23-2009, 02:12 PM
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Originally Posted by wndrlst
Sorry, no, in re-reading that, I wasn't at all clear. My BF wakes me when he's getting ready, and I don't mind at all. I like it that I get a smooch before he leaves.

The ex's incessant alarm made me want to smash something. It's already one of the top 5 worst sounds in the world. Hearing it so many times every morning grated severely, and really affected the quality of what I considered an important hour of sleep. I don't miss it.
Gotcha.

Thing I learned today: Girls like to be waken for kisses in the morning.
Thing I already knew: In the morning girls like to get it on.
Old 09-23-2009, 02:15 PM
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Originally Posted by badboy
I'm not a fan of this unless both parties have brushed/flossed/mouthwashed.
It's just a peck, not an open-mouth kiss. And sometimes, it's just on the cheek.
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Originally Posted by badboy
Gotcha.

Thing I learned today: Girls like to be waken for kisses in the morning.
Thing I already knew: In the morning girls like to get it on.
Afternoon is better when time permits.
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Originally Posted by badboy
Gotcha.

Thing I learned today: Girls like to be waken for kisses in the morning.
Thing I already knew: In the morning girls like to get it on.


Morning sex, ftw.
Old 09-23-2009, 02:25 PM
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Originally Posted by gypsygirl
Afternoon is better when time permits.



I like that, too...
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I like sex too.
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Originally Posted by Street Spirit
What's the time difference between your alarms?
Wife doesn't use an alarm. Her internal clock wakes her up at about 6:30 every day. I guess thats part of reason I don't wake up when she does.
Old 09-23-2009, 03:30 PM
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Originally Posted by wndrlst


Morning sex, ftw.

aahhhhhh....the morning wood! LOL!
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LOL....i think for the guys, anytime of the day sex is FTMFW till its not predicted or expected !!!!

Well, i wake up before my girl and she sleeps pretty light.....but seeing my father get ready without waking my mom up and then just kissing her and the kiddies by made me learn a lot.....

i get ready without turning the main bedroom lights on.....i just work with the closet light.....i dont really wake her up, i just kiss her bye while she is still sleeping!!!

btw i hate the snooze shit....i put my alarm so late that when it rings am like "shit am late" and jump outta bed LOL
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The wife wakes up a good 2 hours before me....Its still dark out
Old 09-23-2009, 05:05 PM
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Originally Posted by badboy

2.5 hours, 6 vs 8:30
You can't fall asleep after?...Even if you're up right when she gets up? When my husband has to get up earlier, I often fall back to sleep fairly easily after about 10 minutes...sometimes not, but usually. If it's really bothersome, can you change your work hours so you can get up at 6am with her anyway and leave work earlier in the afternoon? Or, do you have a second bathroom where she can shower or dry her hair (whatever makes the most noise) so it doesn't disturb you as much? Sometimes my husband uses his electric razor in the other bathroom so I can't hear it, even though it usually doesn't bother me for him to use it in the ensuite.
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Originally Posted by Doom878
She usually stays asleep until I finish.
finish with what??
Old 09-23-2009, 06:35 PM
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My wife currently sets her alarm for about 5:15 and almost without fail wakes up 1 or 2 minutes before the alarm and stops it from going off. She really tries and does a good job of trying not waking me up, but most of the time I will notice it. She then closes the bedroom door behind her and uses the second bathroom to shower and get ready. I fall back alseep within a few minutes and try to get up before she leaves just before 7:00 (after hitting the snooze button about 4 times from 6:30).

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finish with what??
That was what I was wondering.
Old 09-23-2009, 08:43 PM
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We deal with that every now and then. Usually we try not to wake the other one. It's not always easy, but you do the best you can. A lot of times when I am going out of town, or have early meetings, I would just put my stuff in the guest bed room so I don't have to fumble around.
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Originally Posted by Doom878
She usually stays asleep until I finish.
Maybe u should try a new position.
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Originally Posted by Doom878
She usually stays asleep until I finish.
I get pushed off with a big "NO!" Sucks to be me.
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The wife wakes up almost 2 1/2 hours earlier than me. I never even wake up to her alarm, apparently over the years my body learned to distinguish the difference. Fortunately she's not heavy on the snooze too, I usually don't know she's up till she wakes me up to kiss me goodbye.
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over the summer i stayed at my ex's on the weekends cause it was alot closer to my work. id get home at 5am. she'd be up, do the deed and go to bed. then she would wake up for work at 8, go to work, come back at 4 and by the time i woke up there was food she just finished making. then do the same thing all over the next night

didnt wake me up once. i had the life lol
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Originally Posted by badboy
Well, as you all may have guessed, my wife always wakes me up when she gets ready for work. I'm not faulting her for that but I do wish she actively tried to be quiet. Whenever I have to wake up earlier than someone already sleeping, I try to be as quiet as possible. This is why I'm a fan of carpet instead of hardwood in the bedroom.
I get up at 4 AM, so I'm rarely the one to get up second. But I always hated getting woken up if I was. That all changed when we moved into our current house - we specifically looked for a master bedroom where the bathroom and walk in closet were in the same area and behind a door you can close. So either of us can go in, shut the door and get ready without really disturbing the other.
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Originally Posted by Miss Phee
Maybe u should try a new position.
Depends how she laid in bed. Don't want to move her or else this

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I get pushed off with a big "NO!" Sucks to be me.
Old 09-24-2009, 12:38 PM
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My damn girlfriend's cat wakes me up in the morning more than her alarm.
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