I've been pretty good friends with this girl for about 2 years now, girl A. She has two close friends who i'm also really close with, girl B and C. My roommate is currently dating girl C. When I first met girl A, I got her number and flirted a lot with her, she was into another guy at the time so I was going to let that die off before I made my move.

I was getting all my advice from girl B, and she kept telling me that A was not into me and I shouldn't embarass myself by making a move. I left it at this and all three come over and hang out a lot, we party together, etc...but of course I still have really strong feelings for girl A.

Recently I decided to talk to girl C about it, and if I would ever have a chance. I told her about how girl B had been giving me advice, and it turns out that it was completely wrong. Girl B had been telling me lies because she had major feelings towards me. I was basically making girl A think I wasn't interested even though she really was.

Now let's go to current times, girl C told girl A about what girl B did, and girl A said that we should start over from the beginning and take things really slow. I'm perfectly fine with that and I have been flirting a bit more with her and hanging out a lot more. Girl C told me not to make any major moves yet, because girl A doesn't really know what she wants yet in me. girl A wants to take a long time so her feelings will grow towards me.

Now here comes my dilemma, I know for a fact that girl C is on my side and really wants me and A to be together, but I just hate waiting. I need to do something that will make girl A's feelings grow. I can't really make a "move" yet, because A doesn't want to be rushed at all...I just wish she would realize that she does want to me with me.

Cliffs:
1. Girl A, B, C. I have liked girl A for 2 years.
2. Never made a move due to girl B giving me wrong advice due to girl B having secret feelings towards me.
3. Girl C and me figure that out and girl A wants to start over slowly with me.
4. She doesn't want to be rushed and doesn't know what she wants.
5. I need something I can do to make her feelings grow towards me so I don't lose her again.

Sorry for the rant/long post...just needed to vent a little

 

Sorry bud, but it don't work like that.

Nothing you will do will change her mind or speed up the process, so no use wasting time thinking like that.

Just go with the flow and see what happens. If things start going in circles and nothing is happening, move along and bang girl B

 

These kind of mis-communications and unspoken feelings make my head want to explode. You should be talking to Girl A about Girl A. Take it to the source. Then believe what SHE says. If she says take it slow, then do that. At least she's interested. If she says stop, then stop.

You can't force or manipulate someone elses feelings, and you shouldn't want to. Let her be her. If you gained her attention by anything other than honest means, it would blow up in your face.

It's difficult to be patient with love...and lust. If you're not willing to wait, then take charge of that and move on. If you are willing, then enjoy spending some time courting.

Try not to always do it when you're partying. Signals get confussed.

 

^ said so eloquently by our very own ms. gypsy.

Things went wrong when you liked Girl A, but went to talk to Girl B. Lesson learned: Go directly to your destination.

You like Girl A, go talk directly to Girl A, listen to Girl A. If she says to take it slow, take it slow. If she's worth it, you'll stick it out for her.

 

QFT. Girl B had a secondary agenda and her subterfuge was compromising your game with Girl A. You should have taken it straight to A, she would have appreciated your honesty and confidence. Games are for little kids and unless you're planning on a threeway with A+B then just chillax with A and distance yourself from B.

 

yeah I screwed up from the beginning, thanks for the replies guys

 

Just take your time and don't rush into anything. You aren't always going to get what you want right away, so if you decide you want to be with one of those girls, let it play out. It seems to me that these girls like yanking your chain around a tad, if you don't mind me saying so.

If "B" had such strong feelings towards you in the first place, I have no idea why she would deviate from agreeing to it. Even though she's been somewhat indecisive, are you still interested in her?

 

Two years? You fail.
Just get to the point with her, let her disappoint you, and move on. Sorry.

I don't feel bad telling you this because I've been there. Just part of growing up.

 

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there is nothing that you can do except wait, you just cant make the feeling grow stronger in a snap of a finger. but i think that since girl a liked you when u thought she didnt, those feeling had to have lessened or she would have probably hinted at in at one point or another. right now you are in the friend zone, and if you guys dont progress within a month , now that she knows how you feel, then you will remain just friends. imo thats how i see it

 

pics of a b and c please lol

 

To be honest you should forget A,B, and C. Just be friends and find someone else outside of there friendship. You are going to get yourself in alot of trouble. I bet they all playing games with you and you don't even know it. Believe me this will all blow up in your face and you will be caught in the middle.

 

Go with D none of the above and find other chicks. Are there only 3 chicks in your town. If A or B wanna bone, then gravy. If they both wanna bone you at the same time, gravy on waffles with bacon on the side.

 

 

but yea dont get caught up in a group of friends like that..girl D FTW

 

Here's some advice for you. Be careful. Since girl B has feelings for you and now know that you and girl A are taking it slow, girl B may try to do whatever she can to break you and girl A up. Make sure you're communication with girl A is on track.

 

So i'm confused. You've known girl A for years, and she's had a thing for you. She finds out you have a thing for her...and she wants time to sort out her feelings? I smell more drama. I have never been able to figure out what there was to "sort through" on this kind of stuff. If you're attracted to someone, and you like who they are, done. She knows who you are, and apparantly she is or was attacted to you.

But since I don't know them or you for that matter I'd just watch this one closely. If you think A is worth it, hang in there. Just don't be blind to D coming along. But I'm more curious about the fact that you are a known quantity to A, so whats to think about? And will whatever that drama is follow you into your future relationship with A.

 

Well done, Louder my friend.

 

Thanks Gypsy.

 

Blake,

Don't play games. If you are interested, let them know--if they are interested they will reciprocate, if not you move on.

There are plenty of other girls at school (it is a big ocean), don't get caught up with only fishing in this small pond.

Let A know what you would be comfortable with and she can decide if it works for her. If so try it out, if not you have a decision to make.

 

hey Blake... it may be hard to let go of girl A because you have strong feelings for her... but there are plenty of other fish in the sea... and u shouldn't waste your time if there is this much drama in this 'relationship' and you aren't even started yet... just start looking elsewhere and spread your wings... who knows it may actually work in your favor if girl A notices that she isn't getting anymore attention from you anymore and realize what she lost and comes running to you...



i am having lunch at my desk at work and i almost spit my food all over my screen...

Doom that was classic... imaginary rep points for that one +1...

 

Thanks for the points. Sig material?

 

Girl B = cockblock

 

Met a girl D over the weekend, wish me luck!

 

He lives

 

C'mon Hockeyman.. Phee's 20 and he has his shit together. You should be tapping girl A, B, C, D.. You play hockey but you have no game. Good luck with girl D.. because it sounds like girl A has already rank & filed you.

 

updates and pics???

 

Check out girl E, F and G...they're lookers..

 

knew that was coming, maybe sometime haha