I dont know what happened
I was hoping you would've found her in bed with another chick....and she would have said to call Doom878
04-16-2009, 08:57 AM
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i don't know. i can understand her reasoning but i can't understand the way she handled the situation. you can't just bail on someone, especially if you were getting as close as you two were, without explaining yourself. sounds like she has issues.
when she goes to college, she will fall in love w/ another guy and will probably do this again once she realizes they will have to go back to their home town
when she goes to college, she will fall in love w/ another guy and will probably do this again once she realizes they will have to go back to their home town
04-16-2009, 09:30 AM
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i don't know. i can understand her reasoning but i can't understand the way she handled the situation. you can't just bail on someone, especially if you were getting as close as you two were, without explaining yourself. sounds like she has issues.
when she goes to college, she will fall in love w/ another guy and will probably do this again once she realizes they will have to go back to their home town
when she goes to college, she will fall in love w/ another guy and will probably do this again once she realizes they will have to go back to their home town
I was hoping you know.
04-16-2009, 10:42 AM
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i don't know. i can understand her reasoning but i can't understand the way she handled the situation. you can't just bail on someone, especially if you were getting as close as you two were, without explaining yourself. sounds like she has issues.
when she goes to college, she will fall in love w/ another guy and will probably do this again once she realizes they will have to go back to their home town
when she goes to college, she will fall in love w/ another guy and will probably do this again once she realizes they will have to go back to their home town
Sometimes I just dont understand the female species
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04-16-2009, 11:01 AM
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+1 for understanding her reasons but going about it the wrong way.
is she going off to college in a few months? so is she in high school?
or is she just transferring to a different school?
regardless, glad it's gotten resolved. sorry it happened this way. you'll get through it.
and apparently, we'll never understand the female species.
is she going off to college in a few months? so is she in high school?
or is she just transferring to a different school?regardless, glad it's gotten resolved. sorry it happened this way. you'll get through it.
and apparently, we'll never understand the female species.
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+1 for understanding her reasons but going about it the wrong way.
is she going off to college in a few months? so is she in high school? or is she just transferring to a different school?
regardless, glad it's gotten resolved. sorry it happened this way. you'll get through it.
and apparently, we'll never understand the female species.
is she going off to college in a few months? so is she in high school?
or is she just transferring to a different school?regardless, glad it's gotten resolved. sorry it happened this way. you'll get through it.
and apparently, we'll never understand the female species.
Thnx, but there isnt really much to get thorugh, i mean we didnt have an actual boyfriend/girlfriend relationship so there arent any feelings of a break up. But all I do is think about what could have been, what we could have been. But its over, so theres no reason to cry about it or get all sad asnd shit. I just moved on, and im back on the prowl........Ladies
lolAmen to that brother!
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04-16-2009, 03:08 PM
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Mark, glad you got some resolution and closure. It's still beyond me why she didn't have the courtesy to discuss this with you face-to-face, especially if she thought you were important but I guess she's weak like that. Props for handling the situation like an adult and GL with scoring some poon-tang soon.
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04-17-2009, 09:39 AM
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Personally I wouldn't have gone to her house to see why she went AWOL. If it were me I'd just be content with the notion that she lost out. No sense in seeing why she abondoned you just for pridesake.
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Shes not crazy, just afraid of being hurt again and because of that, she has her guard up. And I told her that until she deals with that, she isnt gonna have a commited relationship beacuse shes gonna end up coming up with different scenarios for what could happen and scare herself into bailing out on the next guy she likes.
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04-17-2009, 01:00 PM
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PM the pics to gnate. As payment for photochopping the pics for us, he gets to keep the originals forever.
04-17-2009, 01:34 PM
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wow, i guess this sums it up that chicks really have no idea WTF is going on. I would call her in 5 yrs and do the "ha-ha" from the Simpsons.
Anyways proud you confronted her and maybe she will mature a little bit more now.
Anyways proud you confronted her and maybe she will mature a little bit more now.
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04-17-2009, 05:05 PM
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Glad you went over, but sorry it worked out that way. I think she owed you that explanation. I think she handled it poorly by just disappearing.
Knowing > Assuming.
Knowing > Assuming.
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So youve been seeing this girl for a few weeks, and she's already letting you take porno pics with her?
Sounds like a whore.
And going over to her a house? big no-no....makes you seem desperate with no self-esteem...if you never called chances are she would be chasing you at this point.
and your feeding into her nonsense about being scared to be committed...she was committed enough to let you take pictures of your cock in "1 of 3 holes"
she found someone else to fuck...sorry bro.
Sounds like a whore.
And going over to her a house? big no-no....makes you seem desperate with no self-esteem...if you never called chances are she would be chasing you at this point.
and your feeding into her nonsense about being scared to be committed...she was committed enough to let you take pictures of your cock in "1 of 3 holes"
she found someone else to fuck...sorry bro.
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So youve been seeing this girl for a few weeks, and she's already letting you take porno pics with her?
Sounds like a whore.
And going over to her a house? big no-no....makes you seem desperate with no self-esteem...if you never called chances are she would be chasing you at this point.
and your feeding into her nonsense about being scared to be committed...she was committed enough to let you take pictures of your cock in "1 of 3 holes"
she found someone else to fuck...sorry bro.
Sounds like a whore.
And going over to her a house? big no-no....makes you seem desperate with no self-esteem...if you never called chances are she would be chasing you at this point.
and your feeding into her nonsense about being scared to be committed...she was committed enough to let you take pictures of your cock in "1 of 3 holes"
she found someone else to fuck...sorry bro.
2.] I stopped trying to contact her the day after she 'dissapeared' on me and I went to her house almost a week after she 'dissapeared'. I didnt seem desperate at all, I didnt call her 30times everyday, leave voicemails or go to her house 5 times a day. I tried to call her a few times the day of and after that i stopped. And when I went to her house the only intention I had was to get an explanation of what happened, I didnt go to beg her to go out with me again.
3.] Is it that weird or uncommon that an 18 year old girl who had a bad break-up is scared of being hurt again? And it wasnt a fear of commitment, it was a fear of being hurt. I know a bunch of girls who have had bad break-ups and that ends up ruining any chances of building future relationships
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04-18-2009, 12:13 AM
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1.) Your better off, she did you a favor. Sounds like she was a bit unstable and not long term relationship material.
2.) She didn't really dig you enough to make the commitment regardless of her excuse. Its always better to have the girl sweat the guy more, we can handle the attention, they can't. Which leads me to the solution if this comes up again.
3.) Even if you really like a girl, the best thing to do is to ALWAYS have a sidepiece while dating. A plan B if you will. This will keep your mind off the main chick while you are away from her, and this will also show the main chick that it's her loss. Girls want an alpha male, a player, not a romantic guy who gives them attention on demand. Even when you marry the right one, keep them wanting for life and she'll be yours for life. Sorry, thats the way God made us. Even if you ask a girl what she wants, she will not even know the right answer, they will just say "I want a guy who makes me laugh", thats how retarded they are. They just want a guy to sweat and look up to.
2.) She didn't really dig you enough to make the commitment regardless of her excuse. Its always better to have the girl sweat the guy more, we can handle the attention, they can't. Which leads me to the solution if this comes up again.
3.) Even if you really like a girl, the best thing to do is to ALWAYS have a sidepiece while dating. A plan B if you will. This will keep your mind off the main chick while you are away from her, and this will also show the main chick that it's her loss. Girls want an alpha male, a player, not a romantic guy who gives them attention on demand. Even when you marry the right one, keep them wanting for life and she'll be yours for life. Sorry, thats the way God made us. Even if you ask a girl what she wants, she will not even know the right answer, they will just say "I want a guy who makes me laugh", thats how retarded they are. They just want a guy to sweat and look up to.
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that exact shit happen to me with my ex. dude never wanted her until I had her, he got jealous and then she wanted him and got rid of me :squintfaw
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1.) Your better off, she did you a favor. Sounds like she was a bit unstable and not long term relationship material.
2.) She didn't really dig you enough to make the commitment regardless of her excuse. Its always better to have the girl sweat the guy more, we can handle the attention, they can't. Which leads me to the solution if this comes up again.
3.) Even if you really like a girl, the best thing to do is to ALWAYS have a sidepiece while dating. A plan B if you will. This will keep your mind off the main chick while you are away from her, and this will also show the main chick that it's her loss. Girls want an alpha male, a player, not a romantic guy who gives them attention on demand. Even when you marry the right one, keep them wanting for life and she'll be yours for life. Sorry, thats the way God made us. Even if you ask a girl what she wants, she will not even know the right answer, they will just say "I want a guy who makes me laugh", thats how retarded they are. They just want a guy to sweat and look up to.
2.) She didn't really dig you enough to make the commitment regardless of her excuse. Its always better to have the girl sweat the guy more, we can handle the attention, they can't. Which leads me to the solution if this comes up again.
3.) Even if you really like a girl, the best thing to do is to ALWAYS have a sidepiece while dating. A plan B if you will. This will keep your mind off the main chick while you are away from her, and this will also show the main chick that it's her loss. Girls want an alpha male, a player, not a romantic guy who gives them attention on demand. Even when you marry the right one, keep them wanting for life and she'll be yours for life. Sorry, thats the way God made us. Even if you ask a girl what she wants, she will not even know the right answer, they will just say "I want a guy who makes me laugh", thats how retarded they are. They just want a guy to sweat and look up to.
But the one thing I will argue with you on is the whole "all girls like alpha males who dont give them attention" In my experience, yes, that is a good generalization of females but like everything in life there is an exception to that rule. Ive met girls who wont give those kind of guys the time of day, but then ive met girls who will do anything for those type of guys.
My whole 'game' if you will, is playing the role of both the alpha male asshat and the romantic guy back to back. Its based off of the October Man Sequence and it works like a charm. When you act like a dick, and then get all romantic and sensi and do that same pattern over time, it drives chicks crazy(the good crazy). The constant change of emotions a girl gets from that pattern makes them melt. I know to any guy it sounds like a girl who falls for that kind of stuff must be crazy, but it fuckin works. Idk why it does, but it works, the female mind is a misterious creature so I guess we'll never know.
Now some of you guys might be laughing at that teqhnique, and I did too until I tried it and it worked. Not all guys can do it correctly and some guys can pull it off better than others. Its something that takes practice, you cant act like too much of a dick or be too romantic/sensi cuz you'll scare them off with too much of either. You need a proper balance of both and after a few times you'll get the perfect pattern down and learn to adjust it to individual girls.
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My whole 'game' if you will, is playing the role of both the alpha male asshat and the romantic guy back to back. Its based off of the October Man Sequence and it works like a charm. When you act like a dick, and then get all romantic and sensi and do that same pattern over time, it drives chicks crazy(the good crazy). The constant change of emotions a girl gets from that pattern makes them melt. I know to any guy it sounds like a girl who falls for that kind of stuff must be crazy, but it fuckin works. Idk why it does, but it works, the female mind is a misterious creature so I guess we'll never know.
Now some of you guys might be laughing at that teqhnique, and I did too until I tried it and it worked. Not all guys can do it correctly and some guys can pull it off better than others. Its something that takes practice, you cant act like too much of a dick or be too romantic/sensi cuz you'll scare them off with too much of either. You need a proper balance of both and after a few times you'll get the perfect pattern down and learn to adjust it to individual girls.
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When people say "act like an asshole" ...take it with a grain of salt...it does not mean 24/7....
It is crucial that an "alpha male" be emotional etc and loving, as of course, these things make females extremely happy...but on the same token...they need to learn the right times to chase, and when not to....and when to be a dick, and when not to....
Unless the chick is extremely insecure and has self-esteem/self worth issues , most girls wont tolerate a dude who's a complete asshole 24/7...and if they do...they are not marriage material in the first place.
04-18-2009, 10:20 PM
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tell you the truth, the alpha male thing is not like a instruction sheet to follow like when you put together a model plane or something. It only works when it is instinctual. Like standup comedy, its all in the delivery and timing. So even tho you might do things by the book, it really has to be genuine.
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tell you the truth, the alpha male thing is not like a instruction sheet to follow like when you put together a model plane or something. It only works when it is instinctual. Like standup comedy, its all in the delivery and timing. So even tho you might do things by the book, it really has to be genuine.
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tell you the truth, the alpha male thing is not like a instruction sheet to follow like when you put together a model plane or something. It only works when it is instinctual. Like standup comedy, its all in the delivery and timing. So even tho you might do things by the book, it really has to be genuine.
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tell you the truth, the alpha male thing is not like a instruction sheet to follow like when you put together a model plane or something. It only works when it is instinctual. Like standup comedy, its all in the delivery and timing. So even tho you might do things by the book, it really has to be genuine.
3.) Even if you really like a girl, the best thing to do is to ALWAYS have a sidepiece while dating. A plan B if you will. This will keep your mind off the main chick while you are away from her, and this will also show the main chick that it's her loss. Girls want an alpha male, a player, not a romantic guy who gives them attention on demand. Even when you marry the right one, keep them wanting for life and she'll be yours for life. Sorry, thats the way God made us. Even if you ask a girl what she wants, she will not even know the right answer, they will just say "I want a guy who makes me laugh", thats how retarded they are. They just want a guy to sweat and look up to.
04-19-2009, 08:59 PM
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I was thinking the same thing...
girls can smell an act (actually people can too)
you just have to be that person...
of course, it becomes THAT MUCH harder to instinctively be that way when you meet someone you REALLY like, which is the one you should be that way to the most if you want to get and keep her.
About the pics...drop it. There are plenty places to view naked chick pics online. Your talk of what you did and what you took pics of doesn't flow well with your intelligent posts on the actual subject you started the thread with. Don't feed into the childish ones.
IMO.
girls can smell an act (actually people can too)
you just have to be that person...
of course, it becomes THAT MUCH harder to instinctively be that way when you meet someone you REALLY like, which is the one you should be that way to the most if you want to get and keep her.
About the pics...drop it. There are plenty places to view naked chick pics online. Your talk of what you did and what you took pics of doesn't flow well with your intelligent posts on the actual subject you started the thread with. Don't feed into the childish ones.
IMO.