How to tell if she wants to be more than freinds
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How to tell if she wants to be more than freinds
Ok so I met this girl and we have so much in common its great. Right now were freinds and hang out every once in a while, but I would like it to get a little more serious. My only problem is that I worried that if I express how I feel and she doesn't feel the same that it might ruin our current relationship.
Any idea's on how I can tell if she shares the same feelings?
Any idea's on how I can tell if she shares the same feelings?
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No, seriously...you might as well ask her how she feels...if not, you'll just keep thinking about it until you end up not wanting to be around her...
Plan a "date" that could go either way...friendly or
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EDIT: The auto show is coming up...maybe ride down, then plan an evening of dancing on DE Avenue...coupla slow slongs & you can decide then if she's got the same feelings. If you don't get the vibe, just play it cool & forget your "other" feelings.
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I've been in the same position you're in right now. What did I do? I didn't tell the girl how I felt and lived in regret for a while. Now I try to live by "with great risk comes great reward". If its a risk your willing to take, this girl may like you and you two can develop a serious relationship. If she doesn't like you it MIGHT change your friendship or it might not. And if she doesn't like you, don't let one girl get you down there's plenty more girls out there.
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Originally posted by liquid_x
I've been in the same position you're in right now. What did I do? I didn't tell the girl how I felt and lived in regret for a while. Now I try to live by "with great risk comes great reward". If its a risk your willing to take, this girl may like you and you two can develop a serious relationship. If she doesn't like you it MIGHT change your friendship or it might not. And if she doesn't like you, don't let one girl get you down there's plenty more girls out there.
I've been in the same position you're in right now. What did I do? I didn't tell the girl how I felt and lived in regret for a while. Now I try to live by "with great risk comes great reward". If its a risk your willing to take, this girl may like you and you two can develop a serious relationship. If she doesn't like you it MIGHT change your friendship or it might not. And if she doesn't like you, don't let one girl get you down there's plenty more girls out there.
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So much time/thought/energy is wasted in relationships trying to figure out how the person feels, and not wanting to come on too strong etc...... just straight up tell her how you've been feeling. If she's vibin then u can get started on the good stuff. If she isnt' then it wasn't meant to be anyways, and u just saved yourself alot of wondering and worrying. Good luck!
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What kind of inexperienced advice givers are posting here? Asking the girl how she feels shows a lack of confidence and experience. You need to feel her out, judge by instinct because if you ask her how she feels, you'll be putting her on the spot. Look for these signs. Does she flirt with you? Does she get physical with you?(head on shoulder, kisses you excessively) Does she call you often? Check for the signs and if they're there, make your move.
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Originally posted by liquid_x
I've been in the same position you're in right now. What did I do? I didn't tell the girl how I felt and lived in regret for a while. Now I try to live by "with great risk comes great reward". If its a risk your willing to take, this girl may like you and you two can develop a serious relationship. If she doesn't like you it MIGHT change your friendship or it might not. And if she doesn't like you, don't let one girl get you down there's plenty more girls out there.
I've been in the same position you're in right now. What did I do? I didn't tell the girl how I felt and lived in regret for a while. Now I try to live by "with great risk comes great reward". If its a risk your willing to take, this girl may like you and you two can develop a serious relationship. If she doesn't like you it MIGHT change your friendship or it might not. And if she doesn't like you, don't let one girl get you down there's plenty more girls out there.
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a friend of mine had this happen to him.
DO NOT DO WHAT HE DID.
They were making out and he said "i think im falling in love with you." she obviously didnt feel the same way she liked him but how much more he wanted her than vice versa wierded her out. 2 weeks after their first encounter, their friendship went down the shitter for a time. only reason they ever talk now is because she's a regular when we all get together and hang out.
DO NOT DO WHAT HE DID.
They were making out and he said "i think im falling in love with you." she obviously didnt feel the same way she liked him but how much more he wanted her than vice versa wierded her out. 2 weeks after their first encounter, their friendship went down the shitter for a time. only reason they ever talk now is because she's a regular when we all get together and hang out.
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Originally posted by ItalianStallion
a friend of mine had this happen to him.
DO NOT DO WHAT HE DID.
They were making out and he said "i think im falling in love with you." she obviously didnt feel the same way she liked him but how much more he wanted her than vice versa wierded her out. 2 weeks after their first encounter, their friendship went down the shitter for a time. only reason they ever talk now is because she's a regular when we all get together and hang out.
a friend of mine had this happen to him.
DO NOT DO WHAT HE DID.
They were making out and he said "i think im falling in love with you." she obviously didnt feel the same way she liked him but how much more he wanted her than vice versa wierded her out. 2 weeks after their first encounter, their friendship went down the shitter for a time. only reason they ever talk now is because she's a regular when we all get together and hang out.
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Perfect example of how the girl feels uncomfortable with that emotional bullshit. Just be confident and save the emotional nonsense for the soap operas.
Perfect example of how the girl feels uncomfortable with that emotional bullshit. Just be confident and save the emotional nonsense for the soap operas.
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Originally posted by Batin Dean
Pouring out your emotions to a girl whom you've established nothing physical with is like taking a layup right into David Robinson's hand, a stupid move.
Pouring out your emotions to a girl whom you've established nothing physical with is like taking a layup right into David Robinson's hand, a stupid move.
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Originally posted by Batin Dean
Look for these signs. Does she flirt with you? Does she get physical with you?(head on shoulder, kisses you excessively) Does she call you often? Check for the signs and if they're there, make your move.
Look for these signs. Does she flirt with you? Does she get physical with you?(head on shoulder, kisses you excessively) Does she call you often? Check for the signs and if they're there, make your move.
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BTW, I wasn't calling you stupid, liquid. I was pointing out that the risk of pouring out emotions could be stupid and I used your quote as an example.
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Originally posted by liquid_x
no worries man we all here to help each other out anyway
no worries man we all here to help each other out anyway
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thanks for all the replies guys![Thumbs Up](https://acurazine.com/forums/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif)
I think ill just play it cool for a while until I can get a more of a feel for the situation
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I think ill just play it cool for a while until I can get a more of a feel for the situation
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If there is a holiday coming up and she wants to spend it with you vs. her family or any other guy, that is a good indication. if you are afraid of getting shut down, then start off the time that you decide to "try" with something simple. If it is her birthday or something get her some tulips. If you can sense that things are "weird" then cool it down and move on. If she gets the "right look" that says thanks for making a move then just ask her out dancing or something.
I feel for you man. I've been there and never pulled the trigger as far as asking them out. Good luck.
I feel for you man. I've been there and never pulled the trigger as far as asking them out. Good luck.
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Originally posted by liquid_x
non-verbal communication is key
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I go strictly on body language. Some females don't even know how to express themselves but the body never lies.
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Originally posted by SilviaGTO
er. I dont think hes looking to spill out his heart and shout the love word.
I think he just wants to let her know hes interested in more than friendship
er. I dont think hes looking to spill out his heart and shout the love word.
I think he just wants to let her know hes interested in more than friendship
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Originally posted by amisconception
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batin has it down
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batin has it down
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Originally posted by spdy0001
thanks for all the replies guys![Thumbs Up](https://acurazine.com/forums/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif)
I think ill just play it cool for a while until I can get a more of a feel for the situation
thanks for all the replies guys
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I think ill just play it cool for a while until I can get a more of a feel for the situation
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