I've been with my girlfriend for about 5 months now, and we barely fight. We disagree on some things, but it has never led to a big dispute. I do feel an argument here and there is part of a healthy relationship, but we just haven't had the opportunity. So how often do you fight with your SO?

 

You haven't been together long enough.

 

+1 subinf.

A friend of mine told me that she, every now and then, would start shit with her man just to fire shit up and make sure shit is on point. LOL! She is crazy as hell!

So hang in there, you got one coming OP! Then you gonna be wishing for the good ol' days!

Soon you'll be looking at your cue cards, depending on the situation:

1) But honey...
2) But I didn't...
3) I promise I...
4) Ok we don't have to fuck...

 

everyday I punch her to make sure she doesnt go anywhere

 

The neighbors would get worried if things got too quiet at our place. Plus, it's a good way to get to know the cops in case you really need them to show up.

 

I voted once per month, but later realized that "fight" meant more than a 5-minute argument or slight disagreement, so we rarely fight or have an argument/disagreement that lasts for more than an hour.

 

Wait till she moves in...

 

ive been with my girl for 9 months now and we get in some arguments every now and then. actually they are more disagreements. we are both hard headed people.

fights mean different things to everyone. i voted every month but its less frequent than that. its just that the time flies by since ive been with her that it feels that often.

luther

 

me and my girl have been together for 10 months. first two weeks we had a big fight. then nothing till the third month, ever since then it's been an everyday thing. we're crazy as hell but we're in love so meh...we know we shouldn't fight so much and we're working on it but we don't let fights ruin our relationship.

 

You can't fight if you don't talk

 

My wife and I don't fight at all. I know I just jinxed it. We have been married just shy of 2 years and been together for 3.

Occationally we will argue, but it never really gets to the point where it's considered a "fight."

 

I've been with my gf for 6 months and still no real fight to speak of...

don't worry it'll come and when it does like was said above, you'll wish for the good ol' days... lol

 

Don't smoke without letting your gf of > 3 years know.. It doesn't lead to good things.. I wouldn't know from personal experience

 

it's hard to say right now
i did something really fucked up and idiotic recently, so the past 3 weeks or so have been one long fight.
it's not much of a fight though, just her really angry and sad, and me really angry at myself and sad for her.
we're basically both beating up on me, it's a really great time.
but we've been together for 2 years, so we're trying to get through it all.

before all this, we would have arguments pretty often, but not too serious or long. There's something enjoyable about getting out some anger and then getting out some good love afterwards.

I'm not sure how to vote here.

 

+2


when you are around each other 24/7, arguments/fights are bound to happen. if they don't then something is wrong :twocents:

 

+2


when you are around each other 24/7, arguments/fights are bound to happen. if they don't then something is wrong

 

I am in the same exact situation, but it's been 3 days, not 3 weeks...

 

3 weeks....that sucks.

 

Real fights don't start until after 1 year.

 

^Fixed

 

In the 12 some years I have been with my wife (married 10+ years) i think we have had 3 fights. And they were my fault. Its been at least 5 years since our last fight.

 

I really can't understand how people can fight with their spouses/significant others so often. I think it'd tear me up emotionally. Perhaps it's the attitude that many take with their relationships--it seems that most people don't understand the necessity of selflessness and listening before speaking.

 

It has to do with breaking points. In my limited experience, fights usually start because one or both individuals have a lot tolerance for something.

My friends all argue about the following....MONEY, KIDS, IN-LAWS, WORK and JEOLOUSY.

If you communicate about all of those it will not likely get to the point that you fight.

My wife and I dated for about a year before we got married. Elliott was born 4 months after we got hitched . She stopped working (mutral decision). We purchased a condo that we could JUST afford on my salaries. My family has issues and so does hers. Then I quit my jobs and moved the family to PA. Went through a lot to sell our place in NJ in about 2 months. And those are just the bullet points of my last 3 years.

In that time we spoke about everything openly. And not a single fight. It can be done. You just have to realize that you, her and the kids are ALL that matters. The rest of it will work out.

 

Good job. Well said.

 

You don't fight because the is still new so you put up with her craziness.

 

I notice a fair amount of people seem to fight about once a month.

 

My gf and I fight about the most stupid stuff. There is never any concrete stuff behind it. It happens about once a month too.

 

My fights with the girl are always the worst one time a month, begining of the month right when I'm paying the mortgage too

 

i'd say about once a month at most.

we'll argue here and there about stupid things. but i don't consider that fighting.

 

you and I seem to have a lot in common. I always seem to agree with you.


Anyway, My wife and I hardly ever fight. One or two big fights a year max. We've been married 5.5 yrs. and together longer than that. Although.......our first baby on the way......things might change.

 

Might I add.......

Fighting can be healthy if you know how to fight. What I hate the most is when my wife just says stupid shit to piss me off. She knows it will piss me off and that's why she says it. I make good valuable points in my arguments, I wish she would too. I hate that shit.

 

2.6 years with my girl not one fight. i really mean not one a disagreement that lasted for 1-2 minutes maybe......2.7,2.8, now HELL we're on a "break". For some people not to have a fight is not love for others to have love they just have to have a "fight".

 

Cool man.

Since you and I are alike, you will be way to happy with that kid and wife to think about arguing. Don't let that change you. The best advice I can give is to be as light hearted as possible with that kid. If you have a playful attitude, so will the Small one.

I spent the entire evening with Elliott today. From 5:30 to 8:00 when he fell asleep, all he did was laugh, smiled and played. When you see that, you can't be angry about anything.

 

I asked my girlfriend how often she would say we fight, on average. She said we've never "fought", but we probably have arguments 2 or so times a week. She also said something like, "I would never want a relationship without any arguments."


Damn, that's exactly how my girl is.
I am a philosophy major, TAing a Logic class in the spring. I can't help but be extremely rational and use the argument/logic skills I know. For her, she just says the same fucking one line over and over that is just pure emotion and makes no logical sense. I get red in the face trying to get her to explain what she means, because the 30 times I've tried to reply to it obviously mean nothing. SO JUST WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU REALLY SAYING?! OR ARE YOU JUST SAYING THIS BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO FUCKING CLUE WHAT YOU'RE ANGRY ABOUT BUT YOU STILL FEEL LIKE YOU SHOULD BE ANGRY?! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!

I seriously feel like I'm talking to a recording sometimes. I lay out the most detailed and rational arguments I have, and then she just looks at me like I didn't say a single word, and then says her same line again.
I can't explain how seriously irritated I get with that.

So a little over a week ago, she wants to talk about how I get angry at her when she's telling me that she's upset with me (of course). So I try to explain to her all of the above, and she plays her role perfectly, just saying the same thing over again like I didn't say anything at all. So then I explain to her as best I can that I'm just not going to respond when she has a problem with something I'm doing. Because I thought she brings these things up so we can talk about them, but it never ends up being a talk. It just turns into what I've laid out, and then I just walk away pissed off. So I've decided I'm just going to let her say her shit so she can get it out, and I'll respond to it rationally in my head, but not say anything more than "OK" to her. That way she gets it out, and I don't waste my time and energy trying to explain to her my side, and then ending up all pissed off.
And I can still take into account whatever was bothering her, think about it myself, and then decide whatever needs to be decided.
It's honestly working out great.

 

Once a year, tends to be around the holidays and the associated stress. Our fights last a few hours at most.

 

Holy shit! (excuse the pun) But that is the same shit I have gone thru - I am just like that...I argue for the sake of coming to a point, never for the "round-robin effect" and I have found that some women, when overmatched from a mental standpoint (read: can't figure out how to say what they mean while I can be quite effective saying mine), result to pointless shit that usually winds up being the same shit over and over that only serves to add fuel to the fire...and you even live in MD like me!!! Must be the fucking water dude, guess that's why I drink bottled...

 

Occasionally, about every 3 months for very small reasons too. It's been a few years of our married life and rarely did things get louder than they needed to.I still love her as much as I met her the first time.

 

My girlfriend is really easy going and a lot of things don't bother her. She's not the controlling type, and has no problem with me talking with other girls on a friendly basis. We also give each other a lot of freedom, however we still see each other almost everyday. She doesn't like to yell, which is a big plus. I have only seen her raise her voice once, and that was towards her mother. I've actually tried deliberately to try and pick fights once or twice just to see the outcome, and it resulted in a civil debate. This chick is awesome.

 

Since our daughter entered high school, the wife and I argue about once a day mainly due to:

a) the stresses of having a 15 y/o daughter who is a borderline juvenile delinquent
b) me counting down the years, days, months until she turns 18 (2 years 4 months 1 day and counting)
c) my wife struggling with the fact that she is not the sharpest tool in the shed, nor a tool with even average sharpness for that matter
d) my wife wanting to be a stay at home mom AND hire a nanny to take care of the baby in order to ensure that she does not do ANYTHING but gain weight and pillage our finances via ecommerce

....a bit of a but truthful.

 

doesn't sound too promising....