How not to end up on the Friends ladder?
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Originally Posted by amisconception
if you want a fantasyland disney adventure then buy a flying carpet and sing "a whole new world" on acid.
Originally Posted by darksom1
5) You buy that a chick is religious even though she is saying it while chugging a bottle of vodka in your place, and passing out on your bed with no drawws on, and an "Easy Rider" tat on her ass and an arrow pointing to her vagina - admittedly
There's a certain girl I know that prefers to be called Easy Rider
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Earth-bound misfit
Originally Posted by Scottman111
There's a certain girl I know that prefers to be called Easy Rider
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Earth-bound misfit
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Like you're the only Easy Rider I know
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god either the OP's fucking with us, or he's fucked himself too many damn times he forgot pussy existed. wait couldnt have, he just has to look at himself in the mirror.
jesus fucking christ man, 300 million people in america, half of them women. she lives 3000 miles away from you. either you make something happen, or you fuck up and never see again, and back to square one (as been said by what, 3000000 posts in this forum?) a drunken lab monkey woulda railed her by now.
btw, do you drink at all? a light buzz might be what you need
jesus fucking christ man, 300 million people in america, half of them women. she lives 3000 miles away from you. either you make something happen, or you fuck up and never see again, and back to square one (as been said by what, 3000000 posts in this forum?) a drunken lab monkey woulda railed her by now.
btw, do you drink at all? a light buzz might be what you need
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Originally Posted by Razzi
god either the OP's fucking with us, or he's fucked himself too many damn times he forgot pussy existed. wait couldnt have, he just has to look at himself in the mirror.
jesus fucking christ man, 300 million people in america, half of them women. she lives 3000 miles away from you. either you make something happen, or you fuck up and never see again, and back to square one (as been said by what, 3000000 posts in this forum?) a drunken lab monkey woulda railed her by now.
btw, do you drink at all? a light buzz might be what you need
jesus fucking christ man, 300 million people in america, half of them women. she lives 3000 miles away from you. either you make something happen, or you fuck up and never see again, and back to square one (as been said by what, 3000000 posts in this forum?) a drunken lab monkey woulda railed her by now.
btw, do you drink at all? a light buzz might be what you need
#171
Originally Posted by SRK85
I did not forgot the pussy existed I just have been going for non-whores which basically means you have date them for a while before they service the cock. I guess I should change who I'm going for maybe I should start aiming for sluts. Anyways I still can't make of whats happening with this girl. She complained to me like 2 months ago we never hang out, so the last week of school I asked her to dinner she said no. I asked her to hang out last week and she said she would let me know however she never responded. So this weekend she freaking texted me asking me to take her to the airport so she could have a ride to the airport. So i called her and told yea I'll take her since I'm heading to the airport anyways for my spring break. So today I saw her and she was thanking me for giving her a ride and even blushed. I don't know how to interpret that but she seems like shes using me. Am I being a little bitch about this or being normal. Because I will admit I have been being a little bitch about this whole subject.
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<~~~ Speaks from Pussy Whipped Experience...
First of all, I don't know how you get pussy whipped without getting the pussy but oh well... here's my
Yes i'll admit to being pussy whipped... she was my first... either way...
You are trying to look waaay to deep into the actions this particular girl has been displaying while hanging out with her... All I can say is you are already on the friends without benefits list and she's playing you 110% into believing you still have a shot with her when in reality you really don't... its obvious and you should read those lines instead of reading between them... or trying to get us to read the lines only you can see because they really aren't there... understand?
Forget this girl and detox yourself from this whipped state... maybe a couple trips to a strip club or night club just to hang out and drink a bit... Get your mind off her completely... if you still want her as a friend is cool... just don't fall into your pussy whipped state again...
My advice... I'll tell you this... you can not find love or the girl of your dreams... it'll/she'll find you... be patient...
good luck...
Edit: But you sure as hell can have fun pretending to be searching for love while you wait
First of all, I don't know how you get pussy whipped without getting the pussy but oh well... here's my
Yes i'll admit to being pussy whipped... she was my first... either way...
You are trying to look waaay to deep into the actions this particular girl has been displaying while hanging out with her... All I can say is you are already on the friends without benefits list and she's playing you 110% into believing you still have a shot with her when in reality you really don't... its obvious and you should read those lines instead of reading between them... or trying to get us to read the lines only you can see because they really aren't there... understand?
Forget this girl and detox yourself from this whipped state... maybe a couple trips to a strip club or night club just to hang out and drink a bit... Get your mind off her completely... if you still want her as a friend is cool... just don't fall into your pussy whipped state again...
My advice... I'll tell you this... you can not find love or the girl of your dreams... it'll/she'll find you... be patient...
good luck...
Edit: But you sure as hell can have fun pretending to be searching for love while you wait
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SRK85 you need to drop this girl like a bad habit. She is no good for you and the quicker you realize that the better off you will be. I will share with you a little theory/observation I have about girls that could be helpful. I guess this is less of a theory rather than just how things work…most of the time.
The following is true of MOST girls but is even more applicable to those who are especially attractive. Girls who are attractive become accustom to guys showing them attention/ flirting with them/ hitting on them, and they like it. Or at least like the attention in any form. Generally this gets them pretty much what they want when they want it. It is my belief that there is something to the chase for girls too.
Now when a guy (like you) who knows a girl well and would consider them friends stops showing them attention the girl begins wonder. Why doesn’t he talk to me anymore or show me any kind of special attention or favor? This works best if you keep in regular contact but not to the degree you had before. Completely shutting her out works too but is not advised. Here is where the chase comes in. The girl then wants that attention again and they chase you to get it back. This occurs because they have always had what they wanted and now they want something (you, in some form) and will do what it takes to get it back. Mind you when you stopped showing her attention you have become unattainable, or at least instantly attainable (the form you had before, she knows you want her). This unattainable feeling is frustrating for women. Does this make sense? Understand what you need to do? Good.
I successfully used this several times in college but I always wound up in the same place just months down the road. Sure its fun for a while and you get what you wanted originally but so did she. After a while you will realize that if you were not good enough the first time around you (in her eyes) were not right the second time. Not saying it couldn’t work and be a wonderful relationship but that is my experience. So if you want to land this lady give this a try.
The following is true of MOST girls but is even more applicable to those who are especially attractive. Girls who are attractive become accustom to guys showing them attention/ flirting with them/ hitting on them, and they like it. Or at least like the attention in any form. Generally this gets them pretty much what they want when they want it. It is my belief that there is something to the chase for girls too.
Now when a guy (like you) who knows a girl well and would consider them friends stops showing them attention the girl begins wonder. Why doesn’t he talk to me anymore or show me any kind of special attention or favor? This works best if you keep in regular contact but not to the degree you had before. Completely shutting her out works too but is not advised. Here is where the chase comes in. The girl then wants that attention again and they chase you to get it back. This occurs because they have always had what they wanted and now they want something (you, in some form) and will do what it takes to get it back. Mind you when you stopped showing her attention you have become unattainable, or at least instantly attainable (the form you had before, she knows you want her). This unattainable feeling is frustrating for women. Does this make sense? Understand what you need to do? Good.
I successfully used this several times in college but I always wound up in the same place just months down the road. Sure its fun for a while and you get what you wanted originally but so did she. After a while you will realize that if you were not good enough the first time around you (in her eyes) were not right the second time. Not saying it couldn’t work and be a wonderful relationship but that is my experience. So if you want to land this lady give this a try.
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It makes sense I've been doing that too in fact when I passed her a few time at the library I never said hi so she got mad. But I'm trying to drop her but I got asked to go a convention in DC and she will be there as well as other girls too. So it seems I can not just ignore this girl because shes going to be at the same events I'm at.
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Originally Posted by SRK85
It makes sense I've been doing that too in fact when I passed her a few time at the library I never said hi so she got mad. But I'm trying to drop her but I got asked to go a convention in DC and she will be there as well as other girls too. So it seems I can not just ignore this girl because shes going to be at the same events I'm at.
god damn...grow a pair!
#176
Originally Posted by joerockt
Dude, if you would just fucking tell her how you feel already, you wouldn't be having this drama. If she doesnt want to be with you, at least both of you could finally move on...
god damn...grow a pair!
god damn...grow a pair!
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Originally Posted by SRK85
It makes sense I've been doing that too in fact when I passed her a few time at the library I never said hi so she got mad. But I'm trying to drop her but I got asked to go a convention in DC and she will be there as well as other girls too. So it seems I can not just ignore this girl because shes going to be at the same events I'm at.
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Originally Posted by darksom1
Dude...where is this fucking convention going to be at in DC? That's my neck of the woods! I will meet you and have this girl fucking you or somebody at that convention fucking you by the end of the night! How much are you willing to spend for my time?
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Originally Posted by SRK85
HAHA I'm looking to hire a pimp, I'm also going clubbing with another girl . It should be fun.
If you don't start telling yourself that "these girls are using me" so help me, I am going to print a picture of that lil avatar, and most of this thread and come to the club and show everybody that you are borderline gay!!!
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Originally Posted by darksom1
Fun, for you, means hanging around with them all night spending your money on drinks and shit, watching them disappear for about a half hour from getting smashed in the parking lot by some other guy who also recognizes your loser ID Badge, and going home yet again unrelieved of some testosterone!!
If you don't start telling yourself that "these girls are using me" so help me, I am going to print a picture of that lil avatar, and most of this thread and come to the club and show everybody that you are borderline gay!!!
If you don't start telling yourself that "these girls are using me" so help me, I am going to print a picture of that lil avatar, and most of this thread and come to the club and show everybody that you are borderline gay!!!
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Originally Posted by darksom1
Dude...where is this fucking convention going to be at in DC? That's my neck of the woods! I will meet you and have this girl fucking you or somebody at that convention fucking you by the end of the night! How much are you willing to spend for my time?
Acurazine Meet in DC
can't go...
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Originally Posted by spooky3ce
Do it!!!
Acurazine Meet in DC
can't go...
Acurazine Meet in DC
can't go...
#184
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So yeah, I waited too long with this one girl, then I broke and finally told her how I felt because we've become best friends over the last 6 months or so .. and come to find out, it was one-sided all along, I'm permanently on the friends ladder .. Lesson learned .. don't rush the flow, but don't let it dry out either. It's too bad .. she's the rare combo of beautiful, fun and smart, I don't think there's 10 girls in the world who're like that, heh.
Just wanted to share. It's a shitty, shitty feeling.
Just wanted to share. It's a shitty, shitty feeling.
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So yeah, I waited too long with this one girl, then I broke and finally told her how I felt because we've become best friends over the last 6 months or so .. and come to find out, it was one-sided all along, I'm permanently on the friends ladder .. Lesson learned .. don't rush the flow, but don't let it dry out either. It's too bad .. she's the rare combo of beautiful, fun and smart, I don't think there's 10 girls in the world who're like that, heh.
Just wanted to share. It's a shitty, shitty feeling.
Just wanted to share. It's a shitty, shitty feeling.
SRK. Dude.
number 1 rule if you wanna get with someone - YOU HAVE TO SHOW INTEREST
probably the biggest problem is the fear of rejection - get over it, show interest in a girl you meet early and dont show that being just friends is ok with you
here's my proposition - DO THE OPPOSITE OF EVERYTHING YOU DO
just try it - be an ass, talk demeaning(ly), say no once in a while, take advantage, go for girls (lol jp on those last two)
but seriously, somethings gotta change
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Originally Posted by amisconception
He doesn't HAVE to tell her how he feels to figure out how SHE feels. It's obvious how SHE feels. Spilling his guts isn't going to do a damn thing for him.
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Well I may go to my formal so I may ask her and stop being a little bitch about it. But if she says no then I'm at the point where I would not be friends with her. I was never looking at this girl as a friend but as hopefully someone I could date.
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Thanks for the advice the asshole thing worked. I saw her today and did not say a single word to her or even waved to her. So she came up to me and talked to me for a little bit and now wants to hang out with me this weekend. I guess being an asshole and ignoring her works.
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Originally Posted by SRK85
Thanks for the advice the asshole thing worked. I saw her today and did not say a single word to her or even waved to her. So she came up to me and talked to me for a little bit and now wants to hang out with me this weekend. I guess being an asshole and ignoring her works.
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Girl: <waves>
SRK85: ...
Girl: Hey!
SRK85: ...
Girl: I said hey! What's up?
SRK85: ...
Girl: Do you want to hang out this weekend?
SRK85: YES! Where? What time? Can I pick you up? Do you want me to drive you to the airport again? I am SOOOO excited.
Girl: ...
SRK85: ...
Girl: Hey!
SRK85: ...
Girl: I said hey! What's up?
SRK85: ...
Girl: Do you want to hang out this weekend?
SRK85: YES! Where? What time? Can I pick you up? Do you want me to drive you to the airport again? I am SOOOO excited.
Girl: ...
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Girl: <waves>
SRK85: ...
Girl: Hey!
SRK85: ...
Girl: I said hey! What's up?
SRK85: ...
Girl: Do you want to hang out this weekend?
SRK85: YES! Where? What time? Can I pick you up? Do you want me to drive you to the airport again? I am SOOOO excited.
Girl: ...
SRK85: ...
Girl: Hey!
SRK85: ...
Girl: I said hey! What's up?
SRK85: ...
Girl: Do you want to hang out this weekend?
SRK85: YES! Where? What time? Can I pick you up? Do you want me to drive you to the airport again? I am SOOOO excited.
Girl: ...
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Um yea I'm fucked the convention sucked she was all over some other dude. At this point I'm about to tell her to fuck off and hopefully I never see her again. I guess she really was using me what a bitch.
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failhard.
Learn your lesson and move on ..
I learned .. girls decide your fate with them right when you first meet .. they decide if you're a "girlfriend" or a potential boyfriend. So when you first meet a new girl, you better either be six-packing or holding a huge stack of cash in your hand if you wanna score some vajayjay later on.
I recently learned this as well, don't even bother with established friends .. spilling your heart out ain't gonna do shit but create awkward situations later on.
Just wanted to spread my around.
I learned .. girls decide your fate with them right when you first meet .. they decide if you're a "girlfriend" or a potential boyfriend. So when you first meet a new girl, you better either be six-packing or holding a huge stack of cash in your hand if you wanna score some vajayjay later on.
I recently learned this as well, don't even bother with established friends .. spilling your heart out ain't gonna do shit but create awkward situations later on.
Just wanted to spread my around.
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Originally Posted by SRK85
Um yea I'm fucked the convention sucked she was all over some other dude. At this point I'm about to tell her to fuck off and hopefully I never see her again. I guess she really was using me what a bitch.
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Originally Posted by SRK85
Um yea I'm fucked the convention sucked she was all over some other dude. At this point I'm about to tell her to fuck off and hopefully I never see her again. I guess she really was using me what a bitch.
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Originally Posted by SRK85
It makes sense I've been doing that too in fact when I passed her a few time at the library I never said hi so she got mad. But I'm trying to drop her but I got asked to go a convention in DC and she will be there as well as other girls too. So it seems I can not just ignore this girl because shes going to be at the same events I'm at.
this was a good read before bed. i'd say listen to the 15yr old a few pages back ... but it's probably too late now
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Yea anyways, not that this whole thing is done. I want to debate the whole friends ladder more. I was told by two different girls that the friends ladder is a myth so to say. My one friend said that when she first met her boyfriend she thought he was an asshole and they didn't go out right away. And my other friend said that the girl I liked only saw me as a friend. But I was warming on her. Are women being seceretive about the friends ladder, or they just don't realize it exists.
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Your first mistake is listening to girls/women when it comes to asking for advice.
Why do you have so many girl "friends" that you dance around, in hopes one day they'll like you, anyway?
Why do you have so many girl "friends" that you dance around, in hopes one day they'll like you, anyway?