+1. Acknowledge and move on.

 

So, he's sorry he broke up your relationship with the girl?
And he's sorry he ended a friendship & wants to have it back?

But yet, he's still seeing the girl?

Sounds like a classic case of having your cake & eating it, too.

 

Good things are coming to you, buddy....don't you even sweat it. Any chance you could NOT run into either of these 2 anymore? Maybe different gym hours or go to a different one?

 

 

I've got to totally disagree with op's view on this friend, and empathize with the friend -- as far as the limited details I know. Some of us are built different as humans -- like me and your ex-friend, and we can't get any thrill out of having our own girlfriend. The only real thrill come from having someone else's girlfriend (or preferably -- in order to not lose friendships: someone else's ex-girlfriend).

I am not hypocritical about this either. I was engaged to my last girlfriend for 4 years and planning to marry on college graduation. It turned out she was a pathological liar and con-artist and had another guy for a full 2 years of the 4. It took 2 years of immense suffering and crying myself to sleep with my Richard Marx - Greatest Hits CD every night to get over it. At some point in those 2 years I had a friend mention that the "friendly" texts she had always sent him over the years seemed excessively "friendly" and he was quite confident he could "tap that". He said I could think of it as him "punishing" her on my behalf, because he would really be an asshole about it. I gave him my blessings, no problem, I totally understood why the idea turned him on.

 

^I read the first paragraph and still think you're fucking creepy

 

Parasitius, your honesty is refreshing. You really do live up to your screen name. Being OK with your friend revenge fkng your ex as a favor to you and his pen*s is NOT the same thing as OP's close friend banging his GF at the same time he's dating her.

 

Yeah... again really depends on the details. Some people suggested the friend and girl had already done something before you guys broke up. In that case, he is f@#$(ed up. OTOH I did this once when they were still together, but I thought it was fully justified because my friend had stolen the girl when she was with his other friend to begin with. In other words, he'd have had to have been out of his mind to expect that she is anything but an amusement and game.

 

I read the whole thing and still think he's fucking creepy

 

Exactly, not going to happen..

Good things are definitely on their way, hopefully. Got into a private equity firm (dream job) and learning the ropes in order to get a full time position one day. My grades for the semester just came in, another 4.0. Applying to some top B-schools hoping to get in, and have big plans. This whole situation is really not bothering me anymore, I have a lot on my plate that is infinitely more important.

I'm not going to change my routine, I'll just keep doing what I'm doing; ignore and continue with my day.


Parasitius - Sounds like two different situations, and we are two different people.

 

She was without a doubt banging you both at the same time... There is no such thing as "We didn't have sex until after the breakup".....

Also, forget about talking to your so called best friend, as your best friend would NEVER put you in a position like that or do your girl while you are dating her or just broke up with her.

 

Most likely been said already, but if they hooked up 2 days after you two broke up, then seems to me they both knew exactly what they were getting into. I don't buy any "moment of passion" bullshit.

Quoting Ronnie from Jersey Shore: "I'd send her a picture of my dick and a pack of bubble gum, and say "Chew on this"

Joking. Just keep doing what you're doing. Shutting them out entirely is best.