Well we are on the rocks right now..and have been going out for 5 years..i'm kinda tired of her shit. how should i end it? i know it's not going to be on good terms, but i'd like to keep her as a friend..anyone have ideas?

there can be no "being friends", somebody will be devestated.

Just simply say we're splitting up, its you, not me and I never want to see you or hear you again. Its over and we're done. bye.

simple, sweet and to the point. dragging it out only means more heartache.

well you need to understand one thing...you will NOT be able to be friends...5 years is a long time, so it's EXTREMELY DIFFICULT to maintain friendship...what's gonna happen is that things will just get worse...you both will find each other irritating and then point out each others' flaws constantly and possibly hold grudges...

the best way is to be honest...tell her how you feel....tell her what's bothering you...tell her that you were not happy and that you felt that she was not happy...and even though you guys have been in the relationship for a long time, you really want to split now than later...just be honest...you know why you don't want to be with her...you know what really annoys you...you know all this information, so just tell her the TRUTH...

Push her off a high bridge.....

hire a hit man

thanks for the tips guys...i really liked the ones about a hitman and pushing her off a bridge..

crazy fucks

fuck her...then after you're done break up with her!!!

Hey this isn't "Go Ducks" I'm a friend. However, being female and have been in the same situation I feel I can give this question a fair response.

Everyone is right. You can't be friends. At least not in the first year or second. Maybe in time wounds will heal and a friendship can occur.

It doesn't matter that she gets on your nerves. What you want to explain is that neither of you are going in the same direction or have the same future goals. You are not willing to spend anymore time in a relationship that has no future. It has nothing to do with right or wrong. It has to do with what works and you two don't work. Focus on the fact that your values and morals are different. I don't know what that would be, not knowing you, but I'm sure you know what I mean. Basically you two would be spending your future trying to change each other and we all know that is destined to fail. So just say we ran our course and its time to call it and end.

I think if you use words that cover what I just said, it won't get too nasty.

Good luck.

Dissapair!!!!!!!

thanks for all the good info...

i'm still thinking about breaking up or not..but all my friends hate her..and i dunno..maybe it's the fear of not being with anyone that's keeping me with her...shrug

Don't make the decision until you're really sure about it. Good luck

thnx

Also, and you probably already know this, don't stay with her because you're afraid you won't find someone else. That's just simply not true...I'm sure you're a stud and can find someone else. But staying with her when there are so many issues will just cause the two of you grief in the long run, when relationships shouldn't cause grief but should be a source of contentment and peace.

well i got a divorce, the hit man will cost around 5k usally so thats way to expensive, so I say just tell her the truth. Time to be a man/woman (whatever) be forward and stong and she will have no choice but to understand.

see if you can work it out, find out what the problem is

Don't forget the restraining order against the psycho bitch. That should be the first step.

yes, most likely the only thing holding you back is that you will miss the "attachment". You probably aren't in love with her anymore, and the only thing holding you together is just that you both are used to each other and attached to each other.

welp i broke up with her..just told her we couldn't be together because we no longer matched. she hates me now..shrug..nothing more i can do..only weird part about this is that i have her ID..and she/her family owes me money..and she's got a bunch of my clothes..but i don't think i'll be seeing either one of those things anytime soon..but what to do w/ her ID..

You could always mail the ID back to her. Shes probably just really hurting right now, you could wait until it blows over and ask for the money/clothes, but if its not worth going back for just leave it.

Exactly you can mail the i.d. as for the money ..take it as a lost and if you really wanna be brave take her the i.d and ask her for your clothes but bring someone with you so there won't be any mysterious bruises showing up and policeman at your door.

damn psycho hoes i should make one of those crazy porno videos which everybody has of there ex and distribute it on the net i even have her id to proove it's her
lol!!!

one thing to think about, are you just having tough times or is the relationship over. All relationships have their hard times, it's just a matter of working through them (if you are willing)

Don't mean to hi-jack the thread, but goducks is a female? Ummm, that surprises me. Anyway, getting back to the topic, if you still have feeling for her, then you should really think this thru, 'cuz 5yr relationship is a long time to give up for "can't stand some of her shits" kind of things. If there are something that she does that you can't stand, talk to her man, really, females are good at listening. What I'm trying to say is don't give up easily bro. A good bitch is hard to find now aday,

yo dude, if you're "tired of her shit' then why would u still wanna be her friend? U never discussed the girl before?

Nope, I'm not a female. She was a female friend of mine who lurks around here as a guest. She wanted to respond to this thread for some reason so I said go ahead and use my account, just dont say anything stupid, and MAKE SURE THEY KNOW ITS NOT ME.

I guess she succeeded at one of the two

so anyways, been done..it's over..it had been going on for a long time (her shit) and there is only so much a man can deal with. Yes, i did talk to her about the things she did which bothered me, but she didn't change, and i got sick of dealing with it, so..2+2= she's outta here..time to look for my next ex.