A recent event has put this question in my mind, and I wanted to ask you guys what you thought of it...

Is it wrong to hold on to kinky videos or pictures from the past of you and the ex when you get married anew, or are deep into another relationship? Now I don't mean just a picture of ya'll hugging, but pics/video of him or her nude and sexual in content. Does it matter if you hide them? Does that make it alright? Would you want your mate to do it? How would you feel? Is this another way of not letting go of the past?

I think these are valid questions of situations that can arise in a relationship.

As always, humor is accepted, but please try to answer the questions.

 

If it was an ex, I'd likely be repulsed or nauseated and trying to dump the vids of us.

 

I think you have to ask yourself why you are holding on to this material. Is it because you have a connection, or even a longing, for the person in the videos or pictures? Or is it because there is something that you and your ex are doing in the videos/photographs that still excites you? Is it the person? Or is it sexual content of the material itself? I think there is a difference between the two.

That being said, I personally don't think its right to keep material such as you describe, especially if you are deeply involved with another. And it isn't fair to the person you were previously involved with and most likely assumes you no longer have the material.

I have mementos of past relationships, but they are harmless and nothing I feel ashamed about having around if I'm involved with another. To me, if someone keeps material you have described from someone they are currently involved they aren't really prepared to let go of the past for whatever reason, and in fact may be in danger of creating expectations that may not, and perhaps should not, be expected of another.

Just my two cents.

Terry

 

If you are married or deep into another relationship you shouldn't need the videos from past relationships. Create new ones with even higher production value

Think if you found a video of your wife/gf sucking her ex-boyfriends dick? Would you like that she kept that around?

 

This poll needs a wstevens option.

I wouldn't keep such things around in the internet age - part of the divorce would be a stipulation of destruction of all such materials and a just-in-case no-distribution-or-your-ass-is-legal-grass clause on top of it.

 

I hang on to old photos and notes as far back as high school. But its not limited to boyfriends, I have lots of old stuff from the past.

If anything, its fun to look back and see what kind of person you were back then. We always think weve been mature and level headed - then I go back from notes from high school. Yikes.

Porn, on the other hand, is a bit - weird. No easy way to explain that if the current g/f finds it.

 

I think it's a bad idea. I got rid of pretty much everything from my past relationships a while ago. I still have some photos of my ex's but it's because they were in pics with a bunch of my friends. Most anything of me and them alone are gone.

I would never even consider keeping anything like porn made with some other chick.

I agree with Terry. You need to figure out why you need to hold on to those things.

 

As long as the "Nudeness" highlights your best skills... I don't see a problem with it. There are always secrets kept from significant others, and this is one of them.

 

Thats the scary part about relationships....skeletons in the closet....I don't have anything big, but I always wonder about my gf

 

This is a general poll of opinions. I was not talking about me. I wrote this for other people, in light of a thread that was recently closed in here. Though I did have some hella videos/pics (read porn) from the past, the only woman I would take from one relationship to another now is my car's splash screen:



Ya'll know how I do!

 

Hmm...if you gotta wonder about her past, then you have to be a tad bit nervous about her present and your future...good luck playboy!

 

Meh, I have kept stuff. Pics, nasty letters, stuff like that. Not sure my GF would be too happy if she found em, never really thought much about it. Guess it might not be such a good idea to keep that stuff, but it seems a shame to waste it.

 

Actually, I take that back I'm not really worried about her...she's already told me something that I KNOW she has never told anyone...plus we have our own stuff that wouldn't be shared w/ anyone, so she's straight. I think I'm just paranoid

 

Post the pics for us to decide?

 

Haha...I bet you are the one who voted as long as it's not an AZ member aren't you?

 

Wish I could find that wstevens thread where he jacked off to a vid he found of his ex giving him a BJ.

 

whaaaaat?

 

Send the pics or vids to amatuerporn.com and destroy your copies Now you won't have to worry about your current girlfreind/wife finding them and if you want to you can always look them up on the site to see them again

 

ok mr pimp of the year..so where are the pics..i've already done my deed to AZ..your up..

or do we have another guy who talks the talk but can't walk the walk?

 

this sounds bad but i had pics and vids of my ex,my current gf was cleaning my room as a favor. She found a dvd that said old junk she decided to plop this one in out of the 190 or so dvd's. Well it had the pics and vids that she didnt care to much for and tossed the dvd. I dunno I was upset it was some grade A blackmail material.

 

Hahahaha...see post #10!

 

No need to hang on to that stuff, especially when you factor in how that would go if the new girl would stumble across it. Definitely time to move on.

 

Anything that is sexually suggestive or explicit, I would and have gotten rid of. New girl, new start, new experiences. Nothing good for your relationship can come out of keeping such things (IMHO), but plenty of bad things could. As has been stated a few times already, you have to ask yourself why you even want to keep them.
Personally, it just doesn't feel right to me, even if I could somehow convince myself it was okay. It just feels wrong.
And if my gf came across a vid of me and a past girl? No thanks, don't want to see that day!!
And if I came across one of her and a past guy? Certainly not!!!
It's definitely a different story if you're just dating and not in a meaningful relationship. Then I think there's really no issue.

 

oh come on, you can do better then that pimp!

 

Man, about two relationships ago, I had some slamming home videos that I called "Da Porn"!! They would've put any one on one videos to shame!! I had to chuck them...damn, damn, damn!

 

Your past is your past. It's yours and no one should make you get rid of it