Well? Anyone ever caught a SO cheating and stayed/forgave? Not that I am. I am just wondering how many pansies ... I mean people have actually forgiven the asshat that misused your trust.

 

I have before. Never again.

 

Sort of, and like teh Jesal, never EVER again.

 

Nope, but have never been in that position.

 

I've only been in the position once, and that's once too many. I did not forgive, and I never would should it happen again.
The second I find out, all trust and respect for the person is instantly gone.

 

 

I have, it was one of the worst mistakes I've ever made, and I'll never do it again. You can't regain trust after something like that.

 

something fishy going on here

 

Fuck

 

i have, she then cheated on me again, not even a month later. won't do it EVER again. any gf that cheats on me thier done, i won't care.

 

you guys should elaborate on your stories ...

 

Think you all know Whisker's story and he's still alive to speak to it so suppose that means I forgave him.

 

I hardly think making out with another girl is any where near

I think I could forgive a gf for kissing another guy, assuming she was/is drunk like whiskers was.. but bumping uglies is totally inexcusable no matter what the situation may be.

 

The question didn't define cheating.

Agree totally - No matter how good lookin the Mr is now that wouldn't be tolerated.

However I think a gf is a little different than a wife of 10 years...

 

Yea... I didn't know you were here until after I posted that.

:iberunningtohide:

edit- PS I've never been married, let alone for 10 years - so my sense of prespective on marriage is nonexistant

 

You're young...give it time...then come to your senses and run like hell

 

she is a member of the board

 

worlds are colliding. You've killed independent Whiskers.

I hope he at least informed her of the standing order that all new female members are required to submit naked pics.

 

1st wife had a fuck fest with the Marine Corps base I was stationed at (while I was on a deployment)...this after she screwed around on me before the marriage and I forgave her. Sometimes I can be really stupid. Can't say as I miss her...

 

about 3 years ago I was the cheater. So from the opposite perspective it sucks also. I was going out with my neighbor for 2 1/2 years and I cheated. I did love her and I did tell her the next day, it was a stupid mistake. After we broke up I banged everything within my standards I was hammered all the time so that helped. Then I met a girl I actually liked and she knew my past. With this girl we didn’t even kiss until the 3rd of 4th time we hung out. She knew I had slept with a lot of girls but not as many as I actually did. 3 months go by and I am in love and she is in love with me, and question is asked. “how many girls have you been with” I told her and all hell broke lose. We are still together and it does bother her that I cheated before and also that I have been with so many people. So it sucks to be the cheater also, my relationship with this girl is amazing and I will never cheat again. They always say you don’t know what you had until it is gone, But then again, if I never cheated I wouldn’t be as happy as I am now.

 

No need to forgive because it's better to move on. Girls who cheat aren't worth the time or energy spent on them so there's no need to be a sucker and stick around.

 

Do you all associate someone cheating in their teens to someone in their 20's or 30's cheating? Does their maturity level at each point make a difference?

I would say yes. A stupid teenager decision vs a 25 year old making a decision to cheat are 2 different things in most cases.

 

So you dont mind that your husband came on a car forum and bragged about his cheating?

 

So how does everyone define "cheating?" To me the slightest bit of wavering whether it be physical or emotional counts, but the different levels are what I base it on. Drunk kissing can be forgiven, but anything below the belt cannot be.

 

once a cheater ... always a cheater

 

well, my ex and i were together for 7 years on and off. we broke up when i graduated high school because she admitted to cheating. after getting over that, we stayed "friends with benefits" for 2 years or so before trying to get together again. i trusted that she'd changed, and was ready for a "mature relationship". she cheated on me the whole time.

yup, i was a pansy, but you live and learn, and that will never happen again.

 

Yes, I forgave. No, she didn't do it again (as far as I know). But it wasn't the same afterwards and we split up a month later.


EDIT: Hmm, you know what. I don't think I ever did forgive her deep down. And, she hooked up with the guy she cheated with after we were done.

 

there are no absolutes in this world. there may be a strong correlation, but i hate it when people use this kind of statement.

 

I don't know about this requirement for females only.....

 

Trust me when i tell you, that is far from the truth. Coming from a 1 time cheater that now costs me 600 bucks a month. I wont cheat ever again.

 

True but sometimes that stupid teenager is alot more mature then my 26yrs old ass..

 

I can understand the dislike of statements like this, however, there is no better predictor of future behavior than past behavior. That's why dating someone gives a good indication of what they should be like in the future.

Continuing to date someone who cheated on you is just a big mistake waiting to happen. It's one thing to forgive them for what they did. But forgiveness does not equal continuation of the relationship (and in fact, shouldn't, IMO).

 

^ duh ... my ex wants to try again ... if i do ... its payback time. Since I am not (usually) like that the answer will most likely be to tell her to "fuck off" but not before in her a few times ... maybe a :grin:

 

yeah, yeah (voice of beavis)!!!!

 

^^^ and post some pictures too ^^^

 

i'll get her drunk and take some

 

I have forgiven someone who cheated on me. We had been together for about a year when he cheated. It took alot to forgive. I haven't forgotten and I never will, but I am not the type that constantly threw it in his face either. We stayed together for several more years after that. I don't believe the once a cheater theory. I believe if a person is sincere in there attempts for forgiveness and demonstrate measureable change that things can go on.

 

ahh, i say kick em to the curb

 

My first love that I was with for two years, he cheated on me once but I cheated on him A LOT we broke up 11 months ago and now he wants to get back together, but I know all he will do is smother me and not trust me. Then my recent ex that I was with for about 8 months I found out that he had been cheating on me the whole time we were together with the mother of his child and then the day after that I found out I was pregnant. But he is trying to get back with me too. Karmas a bitch

 

Thats some hard shit for 19.