stuck in a position where you are in love w/2 people? What do you do?

 

yes...

I weight pros and cons of both people, and I see who I can see myself with down the line.

 

So, basically you look at the long term committment in the girls and see which one you want to be with? Hrm...interesting thought there...but yea, I agree with you.

 

Yeah, well, the thing is, you cant help who you love. And sometimes you fall in love with someone that completely isn't right for you. So what I do is look at who would be more compatible with me in the long run. CUz I'm a long run kinda guy.

 

I hear ya! I hate getting that kind of feeling when you're with one person and then you're with that other person. Makes you think that this one you're with now is the right one, and then when you're with the other one you think that one is the right one. ARGH! Love is a headache sometimes...

 

get with the person who has more money or who can potentially earn more money..so that you won't have to work...pimp

 

how can you be in love w/ 2 people at the same time? Are you dating one person, and then you meet someone else while you're dating that person?

Are we talking about while you're in a committed relationship? If so, I would consider that cheating.

 

thats a tough spot to be in my friend. Just be careful how you proceed cause you may end up with neither in the end.

Good luck,

~ B.Good

 

Run Forrest Run! Being in love with two people is really not the case. You are usually in love with one (The current girlfriend) and in lust with the other (new girlfriend or possible). What happens here is the excitement of a new relationship will usually override the desire to maintain the long term relationship that seems so mundane and boring. The mental conflict will begin and start making up excuses to either try to maintain both or rationalize why the "old" relationship should come to an end and pursue the new one. My advice is, if you are in a good relationship, do not leave because it seems boring. Take time and communicate with one another to find out what you can do to keep things going. The "new" girl usually has no indication of your wants, needs or desires. She is going along for the ride just like you are. But just like any fun roller coaster ride, it is over as fast as it began. Love takes time so it is hard for me to believe that you can love two people. You can definitely be in lust with a shitload of women. I know I am. But I have only loved a couple of women in my life.

 

Tough call. Make sure that it's really love and not infatuation . . . infatuation seems like love, but doesn't last.

 

whichever one was the easier for you to "get on" - drop that one.

 

te3point5 speaks truth make a list and go from there

 

I try to get both of them together and see how much they like each other and then go for a threesome

 

It's possible. It's working pretty well for me. I was dating someone for over 3 years when we mutually broke up because of long distance. I've now been dating someone else for the past 9 months (as of today actually!). With the old one it's a kind of love that transformed into the friendship type. We're best of friends but the sexual stuff is gone completely. If you see both of the people you love in a sexual way too, then it really makes things hard (not that way you sick little minds )

It's not easy to deal with, and you just have to kinda drop one person if you want to commit to the other. Otherwise the risk of cheating is too big.

 

I don't think you can truely be in love with 2 people at the same time. Its not mentally possible. The problem with the situation is that, because they are different, when u are with one, you'll be missing something about the other... wishing the one you are with was like that.

The solution is really to just let them both go, because if you settle down with either of them, you won't be fair to the person you decided to be with for the reasons I explained above.

 

I agree that being truly in love with two people is a bit far fetched. But if you think you are, the answer is easy. Think of a lazy sunday morning, the sun shining in the window and no real plans. Which partner could you see enjoying that situation with. I'd say pick the one that you know is more genuine in your heart. If kids will potentially enter the picture, the choice should be really simple.

The guy up above that mentioned that metaphor with the roller coaster is absolutely right. All little flings and the beginning of relationships are great. Mainly because is so fake and phony. Everyones trying to impress, and everyones on their best behavior, and looking their best. Thats no barometer for sizing somebody up. Stick with the person that you been commited to and and Im sure put a lot of effort into, and reap the rewards. Good luck!!!

 

Fucked them both until they find out about each other

 

now theres a useless comment...

 

Not lame, more so a simple way of saying I didn't know what to do so I just kept something up with both, but nooo let's just put a ignorant label on what I said, that's the open minded thing to do

 

I will make this easy for you, baby.... I was only in it for the sex.... so if your in love with me, I don't feel the same way for you, unfortunately..... it, it, it is not you, it is me.... I got emotinal problems....












on the real.... your in a bind.... which one makes you happy and understands you the best?? which one makes everything seem it evolves around you?? which one is the better conversationalist??? Looks fade, Sexual drive is diminished, and all you got is a person that talks to you and cares for you.... that is the person you need to be with.....

Man, if I was this sensitive in person, I would be a baller..... oh well... I like being an asshole to people.... hahahahha

 

and I guarantee you that little Noahkk17 is still a.... what is the word???? oh yeah.... a.....



























virgin....

 

haha, NEVER, I look too good

 

drop both of them, my pov is that you cannot truly love more than one significant other.... i dunno, i'm old fashioned like that.... other than that, all i can tell you is to take your time and don't do anything that you'll regret later down the line.

 

couldn't have said it better myself.

 

I call BS on everyone that says you can't love 2 people at the same time....I don't think they can say that just because they have not experienced such a thing.
I have and it was very difficult for me and both of them (I told them about each other). Sometimes I regret choosing one over the other, but the othre will continue to be very special to me.

 

i respect your opinion but i feel that once you do love someone, you are incapable of giving another person the same, fair chance, let alone the same feelings... i've been in situations where i have liked two people at once and wanted both of them but once in love, other women just become KAPUT... maybe it's because my woman is FANTABULOUS! regardless, it's not a good situtation either way, drop both and move on...