...about girls who are willing to sleep with you or slept with you on the first date (or even the first week or two after you met)? Does it make them "easy"? Would you call them again knowing that they might be the same way with other guys they meet?

Let's say you're attracted to a girl, you went out, had a great time, and now you want something more. But it's your first/second date. Do you have more respect for women who will say "no" or it doesn't matter because even if she does sleep with you, you will call her again.

Does the "third date rule" still apply?

 

Been a long time since I dated last. But, I have to admit, if she jumped in the sack with me on the first date she wasn't "marriage material".

 

I never call back any girl that fucks the first time I meet them...Some of them are a challenge, but the ones that resist are the ones that I like.





<-----------------She resisted for 3 weeks

 

Pretty well any guy would fuck on the first date if the opportunity came up. It takes two to tango so I don't see any problem with it.

 

Would I respect a girl that did that?
Would I consider marrying a girl that did that?
Would I date a girl that did that? .. sure. for a short while.

 

I dated my current GF for about a week before we did the deed. I knew from very early on that she was the woman for me and vise versa so that was somewhat different than the norm (best I ever had too!)
I'd usually agree that a girl that wants to have sex right away would send up warning flags. Over the years I've been in both situations and I really have to say I was more comfortable with a girl that plays it a little bit slow, they just seem more in tune and in touch with themselves and consequently are better once we do hit the sack.

 

I've learned my lesson about fucking on the first date. The last time I did that, I never heard from the guy again, even though he was the one that initiated it and we did vibe.

However, I'm the type to get too emotionally attached just because of it so I let it go. With one of my other exes we hooked up the first night because I didn't expect anything to come from it and we were both drunk, he instead called me up a couple days after and we went out again and had a sober date. Surprisingly we were both still attracted to each other and took it from there.

So its really hard to say, I've decided to TRY not to fuck on the first date anymore just because I'm not the whoremonger I used to be. I'm looking for quality over quantity these days and since I actually do want these guys to call me back I'd recommend not fucking on the first date

 

If I slept with a girl on the first date, there's a good chance I wouldn't call her back. Unless, I need more poontang. All the girls that I've dated extensively took three weeks to get in the sack.

 

For some reason I laughed out loud when I read that.

 

I think it was "whoremonger."

 

Touche.. from one former whore to another :wink:

 

Indeed...

 

Oh yeah and Eve, if you fucked a guy on the first date, if I were you, I wouldn't call him, and wait for him to call you. If he's really digging you it won't matter as much, but if you start callin him up all the time you're going to come off as a psycho. If a few days pass and no call, I'd give him one courtesy call and that's about it. Try not to let yourself trip out over it too much. And if he does call back, but all he implys is that he's down to "kick it" or he blatentantly asks when you all are going to fuck again, he obviously just sees you as a booty call and nothing more.

 

No, I didn't... and I don't do it. I asked this question to find out what guys really think.

I met with someone and I could clearly see that he was into me. He wasn't very pushy but I knew that if I gave him a "sign" he would go for it. I said no and told him that if we're meant to see each other then there will be time and place for everything.

I guess everyone makes their own decisions and if someone decides to go for it on the first date then it's his/her choice. I would rather wait. You can call me hard to get but whatever, it doesn't bother me.

 

I would respect a girl more if she waited a little longer. Somthing about the chase makes things more fun. Plus you dont want everything based off of sex within the relationship. IMO

 

dont worry about it eve. Saying no would make me like you even more. I'm sure alot of guys are like this as well.

 

I have more respect for a girl who doesn't play games with her sexuality or hold back because of some arbitrary rule. Live in the moment.

 

"Hard to get" can easily be misconstrued as "she has low interest in me" or "she's a prude". Either way, it's not behaviour I personally find attractive.

 

On a first date? Come on. I'd say you are in the minority.

 

By "hard to get" I meant not doing it right away. But please, I have my needs too. I just want to feel comfortable around someone before I take it to the next level.

If I'm attracted to a guy and want to wait a couple of weeks then I'll be honest about it. If he's into me, he'll understand; if not, then he can go find some other chick who'll give it to him because obviously that's all he was interested in.

 

Hey man, if the chemistry's there...

 

I would HOPE you would feel comfortable around that person. I'm not suggesting otherwise. I just think setting these arbitrary rules restricts what is possible on a date.

I suppose if you're just going to watch Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants, or whatever, then high levels of excitement and feelings of connection, chemistry and bonding are relatively low... but given an AMAZING time, why restrict yourself? Especially if you BOTH obviously want it.

It's been my experience that these rules don't even matter, they all get thrown out the window eventually... I mean, if Brad Pitt suddenly wanted to bang you on the first date after going somewhere exciting and fun or adventurous, different and fairly spontaneous, you're going to play hard to get? Not likely.

 

After a period of dormancy, my roommate had a nice streak going ... 5 guys during the first two months of this year. She was rebounding like Bill Russell so it made her happy. She screwed, not at the same time mind you, 3 dudes on first date and 2 dudes on the second date. None, I say none, called back. And she's pretty much OK with that. Actually one did, but that was because he was a 30-second man and wanted round 2. And no, you can't have her number.

 

All I can say is I haven't found any of those girls yet

 

 

I hate girls that try to do that.

Quality Friendship > *

 

 

Well my rule before was to wait a week or so if i plan to date her, but a little over a year ago at school this girl who is now my gf decided to ask me to spend the night after her house party. I knew she was a cool girl for a while, but I never imagined hooking up with her and spent more time trying to get on her one friend. So a couple days later, she tells me that her roomates and her were wondering why I didn't wanna have sex that first night. I flat out said "well i didnt have a rubber and i hardly know you so i didn't think it would be the safest thing to do....oh and i didn't think you would actually put out that quickly."

Naturally she was kind of taken aback and offended by this, but I said hey im just being honest & didn't wanna get turned down if I tried. BTW I was kind of desparate and lonely at the time, so the daily visits turned into feelings, visits at home, etc. I must say if I had other things going on...i.e. other booty calls, I would have put this girl in the booty call section as well and only called her when I needed some action.

 

if i was attracted to her, i'd still ring her up.

i don't know if i would call her again though, given that i want something more than a FTF, and given that i had hit it on the first date. it may come down to a case-by-case basis...

anything can happen though...

 

What does FTF stand for? I know the general idea, but not the acronym

 

Friends to Fuck....I callem Fuckbuddies

 

Ah, yeah I use that or friends with benefits.

 

Had some of those in HS...

 

I've never had any type of long term relationship with any girl/woman who puts out on the first date, meaning "homerun." They are good for the bootycall, but that's about it...because a girl that doesn't respect herself...well...can't be trusted.

Don't get me wrong, if it wasn't for those type of girls lots of guys wouldn't have gotten laid. And they are sooo much fun, aren't they.

 

depends on the girl and the chemistry. but if i think they might do the same with other guys, than yeah, i'd want her as a fuckbuddy only. but i don't like playing games and teases and i don't place a timeline on sex.

 

I wait until she attacks me....

I'm respectable like that :P

 

Yes, I would (have ) think (thought) they were easy, but I don't have any less respect for them, unless I was just bored and they weren't that attractive. I try to be even across the board with the respect.
I think, it depends on what you want to get out of it.
Of note I have not had any long term relationships with the ones who were quick to lay. Of course I don't really do relationships anymore anyway.

 

it doesn't matter to me.
in my experience, Women know within the first 30 seconds of meeting a guy whether they will ever sleep with them or not.
So, what's the big deal if you have a good time and it happens the first date?
Altho, i will agree, i like to say no and put it off till the next time, a little anticipation is a wonderful thing.

 

i'm cool with a BJ on a first date.

i wouldn't lose any respect for the girl if we slapped on the first date. shit, if we did slap, that would mean that i also slapped, which means that i may also be labelled as a manwhore.

i'm not anal about what to do and not to do on a first date...

 

fuck on the first date? yes please.

take you home to meet the family? no way in hell, stupid whore.

I have zero respect for chicks that put out on the first date. or the second. if you have "needs" then have someone else be your fuck toy. If you want a relationship then come see me. Unless it is clear from the get go that the relationship is sexual only.